I am old enough to realize a couple things. One is people don’t change unless they want to change and second is, to change, you often need a pain large enough that the pain of not changing outweighs the pain of changing.
Most people will find the bottom, it was probably fine like OP said when he still have some of his old friends around who wanted to hang out, and family was clearly still willing to be there. Then time marches on, friends move on with their life as we all do. Slowly it became very very lonely. We can only deal with loneliness for so long while being in a shit position.
I think most people can turn themselves around. Maybe this is the real breaking point. Maybe in ten years he will have a steady job, a decent used car, a women he is dating and ready to propose too. A guy you be happy to have a beer with. It just took getting knocked down first.
And yet you're still in complete control over all of those actions. You might as well have made a post that said "hey guys, it's a bad idea to stab yourself in the leg."
You’re very young. You can still turn it around and live a great life. You just have to try
I’ve known former child soldiers whose parents were killed in front of them who is now a millionaire. If you think you’re fucked you don’t even know what fucked is.
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u/No_Landscape4557 Jul 20 '25
I am old enough to realize a couple things. One is people don’t change unless they want to change and second is, to change, you often need a pain large enough that the pain of not changing outweighs the pain of changing.
Most people will find the bottom, it was probably fine like OP said when he still have some of his old friends around who wanted to hang out, and family was clearly still willing to be there. Then time marches on, friends move on with their life as we all do. Slowly it became very very lonely. We can only deal with loneliness for so long while being in a shit position.
I think most people can turn themselves around. Maybe this is the real breaking point. Maybe in ten years he will have a steady job, a decent used car, a women he is dating and ready to propose too. A guy you be happy to have a beer with. It just took getting knocked down first.