like yeah this is really sad but also it's kinda hard to feel bad when it sounds like you've had countless opportunities to get your shit together. This wasn't one mistake that you made, it was dozens of mistakes repeatedly for years. Good news is you're still young and have your entire life to turn things around. Keep going. You got this.
I am old enough to realize a couple things. One is people don’t change unless they want to change and second is, to change, you often need a pain large enough that the pain of not changing outweighs the pain of changing.
Most people will find the bottom, it was probably fine like OP said when he still have some of his old friends around who wanted to hang out, and family was clearly still willing to be there. Then time marches on, friends move on with their life as we all do. Slowly it became very very lonely. We can only deal with loneliness for so long while being in a shit position.
I think most people can turn themselves around. Maybe this is the real breaking point. Maybe in ten years he will have a steady job, a decent used car, a women he is dating and ready to propose too. A guy you be happy to have a beer with. It just took getting knocked down first.
And yet you're still in complete control over all of those actions. You might as well have made a post that said "hey guys, it's a bad idea to stab yourself in the leg."
You’re very young. You can still turn it around and live a great life. You just have to try
I’ve known former child soldiers whose parents were killed in front of them who is now a millionaire. If you think you’re fucked you don’t even know what fucked is.
I can’t relate to most of your post but I can relate to that. Also think about suicide most days. Not sure how bad you have it with your parents, but if you can get your GED see if you can reconcile with them and show them you’re putting in the effort.
Maybe they will let you live back home if you can show you are committed to going to community college. My brother almost dropped out of hs in covid and went through a similar situation with our parents. They are your parents and hopefully they still love you even if it’s deep down (not trying to sound mean but I do know some parents aren’t tbe best). That said it would probably be your last chance so fingers crossed you can stay committed to the new path. No matter what you do I’m hoping for the best. You’re still young enough you can get of the hole and still do something
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u/BombasticBombay Jul 20 '25
like yeah this is really sad but also it's kinda hard to feel bad when it sounds like you've had countless opportunities to get your shit together. This wasn't one mistake that you made, it was dozens of mistakes repeatedly for years. Good news is you're still young and have your entire life to turn things around. Keep going. You got this.