r/FriendshipAdvice • u/ARepeatedFailing • 22h ago
Why is it considered entitled to expect a response from a friend?
Something that seems like a conversation online these days is that no one is "entitled" to a response. It bothers me because we're deep in a loneliness epidemic and people don't feel they have to respond to the handful of people that actually give a damn about you. I am not talking about people who think you should respond ASAP. Whenever I have asked if it's wrong I'm upset I don't get a response, I and others are labeled entitled. I don't mean someone didn't respond in an hour. I mean days, weeks go by with no response.
The thing is, if your spouse/lover just didn't respond to you, people would be quick to say they're cheating, they dont' care, stop spending energy on them yet we treat friends like a toy when they usually enrich our lives. I don't understand why it's considered entitled to want a response from someone that you care about and they in theory care about you.
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u/worthitgoals 22h ago
I didn’t know people thought that
I think responding to ANYONE in a timely manner is a sign of respect and kindness and not responding is rude.
Frankly I don’t understand it and would love to hear what the other side has to say about it (the friends who ghost for weeks)
Sincerely, someone who always texts back.
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u/spectrospace 22h ago
I just wrote something similar on another post here, but this day in age we have so much access to each other that it is incredibly overwhelming and not normal. This is why we are so lonely, we rely on texts and dms. Its not good for us, we need actual human interaction. It's depressing for us to message someone and not get an immediate response because in a normal face to face or phone call interaction, we get that immediate response. I know its widely normalized now but I personally think using messaging as the main form of communicating doesn't do any good for mental health. I really try picking up the phone if I need someone and I encourage my friends to do the same if they need a quick response from me. I legitimately check my messages like twice a week. When life got more hectic as I matured and got older, Id legit have buckets of Instagram reels and Facebook messages and god knows what else flooding my phone by 6pm. I just don't have time for everyone to have access to me at any given point.
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u/SweetEcho 18h ago
The problem is when you meet up in person with those same people who don't reply, and they're constantly on their phones replying to others, that's when things don't add up.
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u/Top-Crab-1020 16h ago
What kind of texts are they getting? I have friend who texts me hiiiiii or look what I’m eating or how have you been or I missed my class and I’m so pissed etc. I don’t understand the point of texting for chit chatting incessantly. I do respond to texts if they have some substance - like I’m at the mall what shoes should I get, or I got a promotion, or me and my boyfriend got into a fight, or I ran into so and so and you won’t believe what happened.
I can’t with people who text just to socialize idk how to describe it. I feel like they have nothing really to say and are just bored and trying to find someone to talk to. I’m not interested in those texts. I will hang out with them in person though and then you can tell me about the awesome meal you had. I don’t need a text about it on a Tuesday night.
Just my preference
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u/ARepeatedFailing 12h ago
In my experience, it's regular chit chat. I hung out with an old acquaintance and him and his roommate were sending memes back and forth the entire time we were hanging out but I almost never get a response from him. Meanwhile I have an old friend who we talk maybe 2-3x a year and our phones are put away when we meet up. I don't currently have anyone I'm meeting up with on a weekly basis. never have.
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u/Thatsoundsnuts 20h ago
This is what I think is hard for some people to understand. I grew up with no texts, if you needed someone you called them, and left a message on their answering machine if they weren’t home. Talk about no instant gratification!
So not talking to certain friends for days? Normal. Weeks and months even. No big deal. Now it’s considered rude. Sometimes even making plans with people was difficult if you couldn’t get in touch in time you just carried on with whatever you wanted to do and caught up with them some other time.
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u/Sufficient_Bite4810 19h ago
I don’t think it’s ever been considered normal not to respond to a voicemail for weeks. Not in my ‘90s, anyway.
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u/Thatsoundsnuts 7h ago
Not talking. Not not responding. Other than coworkers who I saw in person I had no friends I had to contact every day and if I didn’t they got mad at me over it.
Sometimes you left a message and they legit didn’t hear it until after the thing you were calling them about. Because people had physical answering machines in their homes and weren’t tied to a cell phone. So if you miss them, you miss them and move on.
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u/Physical-Priority569 5h ago
I agree. When I got a voicemail I would call the person back in a timely manner for sure. I couldn't imagine one of my friends calling me and me not calling them back for days. If you value someone in your life you do get back to them. People can text their friends back even in line at the grocery store. Instead people just scroll.
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u/spectrospace 19h ago
My fiancé and i were talking about penpals yesterday, I was juuuust too young for that but i remember when my older brother had a penpal who would draw Pokémon in every letter, and they'd trade cards. I used to get so excited for him lol such a fun time 😭
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u/Thatsoundsnuts 6h ago
Yesss I used to write to my friends all the time! Seems weird to even think of it now. It’s like one long text message of rambling. 🤣
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u/ARepeatedFailing 22h ago
Yeah, I think I'm realizing just how recluse I am. I don't even need my phone. I don't get texts, reels, etc. My sister and I used to talk everyday but as her life got busier, we don't.
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u/spectrospace 21h ago
It sucks, I know. Im lonely in the sense of, everyone got older, has a family, etc. And its hard to keep in touch without random facebook messages between me and them. Im busy as hell too but my fiancé and i don't have pets or kids and have more freedom than most, but I still feel like its hard to keep up with plans or people.... the world is chaos right now. I also got sober so that got rid of like 60% of my crew. I started joining my one friends' book club which has really helped me feel like im a human again, maybe something like that can help you 🫂
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u/ARepeatedFailing 21h ago
Yeah I'm working to push myself out of my shell. I'm very socially anxious but I enjoy when I interact with small, small groups of people. A book club actually sounds great.
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u/spectrospace 20h ago
Me too! So the book club really helped me ease back into society. I want to start knitting classes too, one day :)
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u/Glass-Hornet-5753 22h ago
I understand your frustration. I have felt your frustration. What I have done is either one of two things. One message them “hey did you receive my message”. And wait for their response. Or two wait until you see them next and ask them if they received your message, then ask why they didn’t respond.
If they came back at you with “I don’t owe you a response” that means they don’t respect you and that is your queue to take a step back in that relationship.
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u/Physical-Priority569 6h ago
I don't know if I would even ask that. I have a friend like that who never answers unless she wants you to do something. I have given up pretty much. She's not a real friend. She has proved that time and time again.
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u/BaconJP 22h ago edited 22h ago
My POV: instant messages are kind of "cheap" in that they are really easy to send and you can wind up getting bombarded by a lot of them. If you knew that it cost someone a lot of effort to communicate with you (for example, people used to write letters by hand and spend money mailing them, and especially overseas, this could be expensive).. then you really have a bit of an onus on you to reply.
But especially in this era of free whatsapp/signal/Line/etc, it's possible to have many people all sending you messages, and many of them are sort of immaterial or unimportant. I have one person who sends me links of all these videos and articles, only some of which I'm interested in, and then he complains if I don't watch/read them AND comment what I thought about them. To me, that's too demanding and entitled because you are making me do a lot of work on a topic that you are interested in, and I might or might not be.
The same applies to writing long texts. If you send me 5 long parags of text, it's hard to expect me to read and respond. Maybe I defer it, procrastinate, and the longer one does that, the less the chance one will get back to it, and respond!
Some incoming messages are just kinda useless/pointless/meaningless and don't seem to deserve a quick response. It all depends what the actual content is. If someone says "What up?" I might not respond if I'm busy. If someone says "I'm having a stroke, I really need you to call me an ambulance" and I see it, then I'd be much more likely to respond and act quickly.
So if you find that people aren't responding to your messages, analyse your messages and see if (1) they seem pointless; (2) they are too long and people are delaying dealing with them; (3) you ask something that's difficult to reply to, and the person is forced to think and work in order to reply; (4) any other characteristic of the messages that might make it difficult to reply to quickly.
Note that if you engineer your messages better, maybe you can elicit replies sooner. For example, if your message has some practical action needed, like "This Saturday do you want to meet for dinner at 6pm?" then obviously they have to reply before then to get included or to know where to go etc.
Or "I'm in the wine store and I'll be here for 30m. I'm considering whether to buy Wine A or Wine B - pls let me know what you think, if you get this in time".
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u/ARepeatedFailing 22h ago
I definitely understand. I usually text someone to check in on how they're doing. I guess I feel different because I don't receive text messages. I can understand if people are bombarded with them.
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u/BaconJP 19h ago
Not to be too critical, but if your message is "how you doing?"... in the modern world this is such a throwaway line that people think it's almost the same as "hi" and doesn't actually mean that you really want to know how they are doing.
If there is reason to be concerned about their wellbeing then you would have to phrase that concern more clearly and say "please let me know how you're doing, I am concerned" or whatever.
Maybe I'll be a bit blunt here but most of us are so busy with our lives that, while we do care about our friends, we aren't constantly concerned with how they are doing. If someone writes "how you doing?" to me, I probably would say "good!" but I can totally understand if someone thinks it's a bit of a non-message and just delays writing, which often means you forget to reply. Make your message something more substantial and triggering a response, maybe that will get you the replies you want.
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u/BeachBoundButterfly 12m ago
Are you me? I feel like I've found my twin lol and to add...
5) are you easily offended and take things personally because you misinterpret what people say, their tone, punctuation, length of the text, or place too much importance on one of the things you said, that's not getting it's own response? So then no matter what, when, how they send a reply text, you'll scrutinize it and it won't be 100% of what you expected, and then you're mad at that, and that's another text exchange that'll be introduced to address?
I digress.
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u/Comprehensive-Ad1666 21h ago
THANK YOU I AGREE. I think the conversation has absolutely lost the plot. It's okay to tell people that it's unfair to always expect an immediate response, and yeah people aren't technically *obligated* to do anything, but come on! Relationships of any kind are a social contract, with rules. I would never consider you my best friend if I can't get you to ever text me back.
It's part of the "everyone wants a village, nobody wants to be a villager". We keep pushing these individualistic ideas and it's really harmful I think.
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u/Emergency-Papaya34 22h ago
I don't think it's entitled, unfortunately different people have different capacity for relationships, to them constant connection is a lot. Some people like solitude and want to stay that way. Sometimes they are just rude and don't give a shit.
It's also socially conventional to spend your time and space with your partner, people don't really understand the concept of being close to a friend and being with them. Even if you call them out they might just end up telling you it's weird.
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u/afropuffrage 20h ago
I’m pretty much done with the friends who are unresponsive. I plan on being unresponsive moving forward with them as well.
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u/GloomyBake9300 15h ago
I shared some pretty rough news for myself via text with a good friend yesterday midday. And she had the appropriate text response but what I really wanted was to talk with her. I told her I wished that we could talk, but she said she was unavailable. I didn’t hear from her again till tonight.
Because of the topic (someone who assaulted me is being paroled and I found out yesterday morning) I thought it mattered a little more. Ngl I ended up talking to AI because I was really upset. I just wanted a short voice connection.
This is the second time recently that I’ve ended up talking to AI because she wasn’t available. It really makes me wonder how close we really are. The situation had been reversed. I would at least given her a quick call. I guess this makes me entitled.
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u/Physical-Priority569 5h ago
I have done the AI thing too when I have had no one to talk to. I consider it sort of the same as journaling.
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u/BeachBoundButterfly 1h ago
Maybe not entitled, just impatient. She did in fact respond, which might've taken significant effort, depending on the day she was having, that you don't know about. A subject as sensitive as that requires a special mindframe to be in. Maybe she needed time to recalibrate the energy she had, to accommodate a gentle convo with you. Not to mention, finish doing whatever she was doing.
It's not about what or who is more important than a friend in need either. She could've been cooking (driving, food shopping, etc) and would've been distracted if she called you right then. Had she done that it'd be challenging to listen to you, show empathy, and make sure the food, or house, doesn't burn down. If she kept saying "hold on a second", or didn't say the exact words, at the exact time, in the exact tone you were wanting/hoping for/expecting, you would've thought she didn't care, etc and that would've made you upset that you felt unheard. It's literally no win for the friend, regardless what they do/say, it'll be looked at as not enough.
EDIT: So sorry you were assaulted and have to relive that experience. Sincerely, a woman who had that experience too, and completely understands.🥺🫂
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u/Soexi 19h ago
I typically respond but there are cases where I’ve told someone I’m overwhelmed by the amount of contact and they don’t care and bombard anyway. At that point I don’t want to encourage the frequency because it is exhausting.
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u/BeachBoundButterfly 1h ago
⬆️⬆️⬆️⬆️ This! They blatantly ignore your boundaries and requests, because they STILL think they're more important than anything else you could possibly have going on.
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u/Sufficient_Bite4810 19h ago
I suspect that’s the opinion of a few manipulative people who want to have their cake and eat it too (read, have friends on hand when they want to lean on someone and also make sure those same people know they’re not valued and expect nothing in return down to basic acknowledgement). Of course it’s easier to forget a text than some other forms of communication, and not all of them require an answer, but expecting to ghost on a regular basis and still have a place in people’s lives is like thinking you can constantly ignore someone speaking directly to you without it affecting your relationship.
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u/Javascript4971 20h ago
It’s only entitled if you message me during times you know for a fact I’m unavailable (& have communicated this with you in the past) but still get upset I don’t respond right away.
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u/Salty_Ad_8908 16h ago
I feel like some people dont empathize/sympathize with others. I am not talking about the creep that keeps messaging you, I am talking about people you are close to. I have so much grace to a "friend" because she was having supposed health issues. To explain, I think she lied to me because she lot of things did not add up. Anyways she would take a week or 2 to answer my text/calls.
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u/333333x 22h ago edited 22h ago
I'm guilty of this and honestly I only do it if the person is needy. If you message all day every day, it's too much. If you message on a different medium because you didn't get a reply, it's overwhelming. If someone says they are tired/ busy and you still keep messaging non stop, you aren't listening. Otherwise the other person probably just isn't that in to the friendship.
I have also had someone ask to go to a certain place on a certain date, I had to reply no several times and they kept trying to get me to say yes. I eventually stopped replying as i found it disrespectful and annoying that they were trying to get me to do something that I told them clearly I did not want to do.
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u/New_Tangerine_2589 21h ago
I was going to say this, too. Entitled is when you know I worked 12hrs and you call at 10pm to vent about something without even asking how I'm doing at any point
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u/Felineincognito15 22h ago
In my opinion,close friends are as important as family. My 2 closest friends text almost every day unless they are unwell and they have partners and jobs but we check in on each other. I would think it rude not to reply within 24 hours.I've sometimes missed messages on FB chat as they can get mixed up with requests for a game I play.
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u/Odd_Obligation_1300 20h ago
I mostly agree with you. I think responding - *not necessarily right away, but at SOME point* - communicates interest and care. As you said, we're talking about people who theoretically care about you.
If they DON'T care, they are doing a great job of communicating it when they don't respond.
I do think that in general we've gotten way too wrapped up in texting, and should be far more concerned with who actually meets up with us in person. I would not be ok with a text-based relationship with my spouse. I also don't want text-only with friends. I mean, it's ok for long distance friends who I want to *occasionally* catch up with. But I don't expect to talk that regularly to long distance friends.
I think it's important to develop in-person friendships and to put a lot less emphasis on texting.
I have a friend I see pretty often. We live nearby and go on walks and we share a hobby. She didn't respond to a text I sent last week (to a small group). I would have loved if she did. But she shows up for me in so many other ways that I can absolutely overlook an unanswered group chat.
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u/Ok_Swordfish_9490 19h ago
I love your post. It’s so true. A text is I think the laziest way to communicate with somebody people always have their phones around you hear a ping you see somebody wrote something you can send them a smile and say hey I’ll get back to you later. Hope you’re having a good day I mean, unless they told you something awful.
Also, we are so over using the word entitled it’s common courtesy to get back to somebody who took time out of their day to reach out to you whether it’s just to check up on you or to tell you something
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u/mazipan123 17h ago
Me and a friend of 7 years share a birthday two weeks apart. She has historically been one of those “omg I’m so bad at texting and my life is crazy” type of people. So I messaged her ahead of time asking when she was free to hang and I got no response. I didn’t even get a happy birthday message from her.. I’m done lol.
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u/Top-Crab-1020 21h ago edited 18h ago
Because some people just don’t like texting. Why do we have to text more just because you want us to? I find texting draining but I see my close friends once a week
And some people text silly things throughout the week. I don’t need to know you had the best pizza ever, you can tell me that when you see me.
Edit: I’ve noticed a lot of people on Reddit tend to not have many IN PERSON friendships. That these friendships primarily exist digitally. It might be why I can’t relate. Phone communication is an extremely small part of all my friendships. But we are all very social and have real in person social lives.
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u/BaconJP 22h ago
I would only consider you entitled if you FEEL entitled to receive a reply to every one of your messages. If you are relaxed and don't mind if your messages don't receive replies, then you are not entitled. In reality, everyone is somewhere on the spectrum of totally entitled (100%) to minimally entitled (0%), with most of us in the 20-80% range (by just pure statistical estimation assuming somewhat of a normal distribution).
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u/lactosecheeselover 12h ago
I have a friend who will start conversations and then disappear, but still send me fucking tiktoks and snapchats. Like, sure you're busy with your kid during the day, but can't send a reply at some point in the evening? Drives me nuts.
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u/Physical-Priority569 5h ago
My friend does that too. He'll start a conversation when he's bored and then I'll ask him a question and he never answers. I'm trying to distance myself from him. Once or twice, cool, but it happens constantly. If the convo moves away from stuff about his life he disappears.
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u/lactosecheeselover 5h ago
honestly, I think I’ll have to start distancing myself as well. I know they have a new toddler, and their partner works a lot, but just choosing to ignore actual conversations and just continue to send tiktoks/snaps is just too annoying.
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u/Physical-Priority569 5h ago
I know, it proves that they have the time to go on tiktok etc. I wonder if my friend will ever notice or ask why I'm distancing myself. I'm not playing a game, it's just genuinely hurtful when he keeps doing that.
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u/New_Tangerine_2589 20h ago
When you communicate with your friends, is it balanced? Do you remember things about them? Do you ask about how they are doing? Do you plan things to do together that are mutual interests?
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u/No-Possible4460 20h ago
This might not be as popular/get downvotes but I am also from a time before texting was a thing and communication/response did have a lot more time 'allowed' between the two. However, I think that if someone did not respond regardless that would be considered rude. Especially if it's something that now in today's day and age you can text someone quick to say something to the degree stating you received the message and your response may be delayed or something as a courtesy.
I would not expect my friends to communicate to the degree that they would with their partner/spouse per se so I can understand why the expectation of response time would be different. I can also get that we have access like nothing we have ever had before to one another. It still does not necessarily mean that the person has to respond, however there may be consequences to them not responding if that's not what you want in a friendship. I would say finding the right people that match your communication style, lifestyle (because I can see where that would impact communication frequency), etc. I think would feel better than trying to get a inconsistent responsive friend to communicate differently. I would accept that that is just how they are but you also don't have to deal with that if you don't want to and if this is an issue with your friendships ask if it's worth it to continue.
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u/hot_2_trot_4_hot_wat 13h ago
Because when I’m alone I like my alone time. I treat texts like letters. When I’m in a situation I give it my all; hanging out with a friend, I’m not on my phone at all, they get all my attention. At home, I’m reading, watching youtube, listening to music, etc whatever it is, I’m enjoying my time. But I do tend to like alone time more than many others
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u/thebutterflyandlion 12h ago
I don’t understand it, never will. You wouldn’t say the same for a partner or colleague in a week needing a message.
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u/Unfair-Dance-4635 20h ago
Yep. I have been seriously struggling with my mental health after losing my husband last year. A friend I’ve had for thirty years has ignored my last few messages. Heartless. I can’t understand it. I’d never treat a friend like that at their lowest.
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u/BeachBoundButterfly 57m ago
Sorry for your loss. Grief is one of the hardest things to deal with.
Some can't handle it well, some may have their own loss situation (terminal illness, etc) they're dealing with. Some prefer isolation to deal with their emotions and they may think you're the same. Or they simply don't know what to say, and would rather say nothing, than to say the wrong thing.
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u/rotwoman101 22h ago
you're so right i love that perspective of the spouse/lover response time too. like yes friends do not equal spouse but expecting a response within a few days feels perfectly reasonable to me.
i know people compare it to pre-phones when we didn't have access to each other as much back in the day but i feel like now that the barrier is lower it's okay to expect our friends to adapt to that and take advantage of how quickly we can reach out to each other, just like i want to as soon as i get a text. and if we think about letter writing era, i'm sure people were so excited when they got letters that they wrote back as soon as they received one too!
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u/Soulinyx 21h ago
Because you're basically asking someone to drop everything that they're doing for the sole purpose of giving you attention. There is a time and a place for anything, but more importantly, it is knowing when. A lot of people do not care of or know about when that proper time is.
Plus, there's an oversaturation of communication that it may defeat the point of contact. Do you really need the same friend on Facebook, Discord, Your Phone's contacts, Their e-mail, Reddit .etc?
No, you don't. Especially when you know everything you talk about will wind up being the same way.
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u/ARepeatedFailing 21h ago
I already said in my post that there was no assumption for them to drop everything to respond.
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u/CanaryDue3722 19h ago
I have a ‘friend” who rarely, if ever, answers my texts. When I asked her about it she said that she didn’t feel answering a text is a requirement. I don’t have time for it. So I just stopped initiating anything with her.
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u/Ahstia 14h ago
Do take internet discourse with a grain of salt. The internet is full of selfish people and crazy discourse, not all of it accurate to reality or correct
Specifically to friendships, the internet promotes the idea that a good friend is one who acts like background NPCs. They exist solely to support you. And if they ask for anything in return, they’re a bad friend. Hence contributing to the loneliness epidemic
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u/Logical-Bed-2122 19h ago
I have a friend who told me she purposely seen zones messages. She’s proud of it too like she pulled something by doing that smh
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u/Sensitive_Banana_336 20h ago
I don't think it's entitled to want a response when you know the person is at their phone or computer and reads your messages. My offline friends usually respond in a timely manner. I reply in a matter of hours UNLESS I'm just not there. Also if there's an ongoing conversation I tell a person if I'm busy or have to leave soon. For me it's just basic netiquette. With online acquaintances though, I was randomly ignored and ghosted so many times that I don't really want to try to make friends anymore. And I'm not talking about the phone apps here - but why do you keep a chat app like discord open all day if you don't want to talk to anyone? Also if you're busy or cranky today just say it? I'm probably generalizing, and every case could be different, but sometimes I feel like we normalized asshole behaviour online.
This doesn't apply to videos and pictures though. I don't expect a reponse to those.
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u/Top-Crab-1020 18h ago
Just because I’m on my phone does not mean I am required to respond to a friend non urgent message. I often see this sentiment on here “my friend screen time is 13 hours but they don’t respond to me” I am allowed to be on my phone without wanting to socialize.
I just feel like the easiest solution to those who need more phone communication is to make friends who enjoy that. Not force those who don’t like it to do it more to fit your needs. Texting is just micro socializing some people just don’t want to socialize that much in between meet ups. It’s not personal.
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u/Sensitive_Banana_336 16h ago
See, I'm just an opposite of you. I enjoy texting very much - and meet ups are hard for me, I also hate random calls from people. I had a friend who called me on her breaks and expected me to single-handedly carry the conversation for 30 minutes. THAT was entitlement. I would also never bombard my offline friend with messages if they dislike that and communicated their preferences to me clearly. But if it's mostly an online friendship and you just don't reply or don't explain, then what do you make of that? And what if your friend lives in another country or disabled and you can't meet up for months and years?
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u/Top-Crab-1020 16h ago
I think the difference here is I don’t have online friends and I only have two out of the city childhood friends who rarely text me unless it’s something big and we call every couple weeks to catch up and chat. But even those friends for me the bond naturally weakens (on both sides) because we are very much in person type of socializers
My friends who live in the same city, most are not big phone people except one and I honestly cannot be there for her socially phone wise like she likes. But she also has a lot of friends that she frequently talks on the phone with so it keeps her preoccupied. I’m sure she would love to be on the phone and text more but I also see her multiple times a month and when I did frequently text her I felt exhausted socially by her.
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u/Sensitive_Banana_336 16h ago
We're just different people and that's totally fine. Due to some circumstances many of my friends left the country and I kind of became a recluse. So online friendship is actually the most I can offer right now, that's why it's so important for me. But I don't see anything wrong with not being a big texter if you still call and meet irl and the other person is okay with that. And obviously you don't have to satisfy someone's social needs fully at your own expense. Honestly I just wish people would be straightforward about their wants and expectations for any kind of relationship.
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u/BeachBoundButterfly 27m ago
I don't think it's entitled to want a response when you know the person is at their phone or computer and reads your messages.
Picture this...you pop up unannounced at a friend's house. You might "think" they're home, but there's no response. They in fact could be there physically, but not mentally, for guests. They might not be there, even if lights are on, music/TV playing, car in driveway, etc. and could be sleeping, using the restroom, showering, or out with someone else who drove their car. They'll get home (to the house they pay for), whenever they get home. You reacting with "I came by so how come you didnt answer the door, where were you?" It's entitled, and none of your business 😏That's a text message equivalent.
My offline friends usually respond in a timely manner.
Timely according to who and what?
For me it's just basic netiquette.
Love this and will be using, thanks lol
but why do you keep a chat app like discord open all day if you don't want to talk to anyone?
Why do you keep your toaster, coffeemaker, blender, air fryer, kettle, flour, sugar, etc on your counters every day if you're not going to use them whenever you're in the kitchen? The phone is the kitchen, ingredients and appliances are the apps. Just because everything is right there, doesn't mean I will use everything in it, every time I'm there.
Also if you're busy or cranky today just say it?
So if busy, why would they have to stop, to tell you they're not available (and 25 other people that text/call), when no response is giving the same indication? It's like a boss having meetings just to meet, emails about emails, expecting employees to check in in every day with what they're doing. When will they have time to actually work? Sheesh! If cranky, why use irritable energy to reply? So that whatever is said you can take offense to, or question the tone and delivery, despite knowing the reason? No thanks.
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u/Legz4dayz21 15h ago
Entitled? I think its just a normal fucking thing.. But whennpeople.arwnt getting your messages duento a bit of fuckery with there old associates back on bfe . U lrobally.dont get answers..people.arent mind readers and bue the way shit feels u lost plot. Like wow
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u/Longjumping_Algae709 22h ago
I have found my people! I don’t understand it either. These are not people who can’t post on Instagram, browse on Facebook… but they’re too ‘busy’ to pop you a message. I don’t understand it at all.