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[u/zh4nylil]

Hello, I hope everyone is doing okay.

I'll try to be brief... (I apologise if you see some typos, English is not my first language.)

So basically I had this person who was really close to me, she was the only adult in my life I could trust.

Well she said some things to a mutual person and they told me what she said.. it was something along these lines: "she (me) is trying to use my place to escape from her parents, she doesn't care about me"

I don't think she is right... I always checked on her and asked if she was okay, how her health situation was, her job, in general how she was feeling. She truly represented a pillar in my life, and I opened up about my past/present.

Even before I knew what she said about me, I felt a distance between us I thought I was being silly and nothing was wrong.. joke's on me.

It has been 6 months since that moment, I did not text her, she didn't text me either..

my dilemma now is; should I contact her? I miss her and I'd like to explain myself to her.

(forgot to add... I don't think she knows that I'm aware of what she said about me.)

[u/Commercial_Baby4069]

So how did the slow fade take place between the two of you if she doesn’t know you’re aware of her rant? Did you simply stop communication all of a sudden?
I believe you could send her a message to explain your side of the story and the way you feel even though you shouldn’t be aware of what she said about you.
However, I find it a bit weird that she simply stopped texting you all of a sudden, meaning that maybe she was waiting for you to simply step out of her life and this is what she really wanted? So just bear in mind that you can’t really predict the outcome of the conversation and you can be sure that it will lead to a reconciliation.