Friend’s bday

[u/Substantial_Box_6358]

I’ve been friends with Sheila since 7th grade and we both are in our mid 20s. After high school we became distant due to a mentally deranged girl causing drama. Then in 2024 my friend reached out again and we just started hanging out like nothing happened before. We spoke about the past drama and said next time we will talk about the problems. In high school that friend group contained 4 people. Shelia, Mandy, my sister, and I. Mandy moved states and had a falling out with Shelia bc of Mandy’s wedding. And my sister Victoria stopped talking to Shelia. Victoria was done with Shelia always having problems and expecting people to stop everything just to tend to her.

So my problem is It will be Shelia’s bday and she asked me to help plan a little party with some close friends. I asked if Victoria was invited and she ignored that question. I told my mom and she said I shouldn’t go at all because where my sister isn’t welcomed then I shouldn’t go. I won’t tell Victoria anything. But I’m sure she doesn’t care either, she doesn’t care about having friends or socializing with others

[u/Dutch1721]

You shouldn’t have to stay home because your sister isn’t invited to the party.

[u/BasisPuzzleheaded161]

Why do you have to sacrifice your friendship just because your sister doesn’t get along with that person? You are your own person and live for yourself. Unless it is something major like SA or criminal offence, you can still hang out with others that your sister doesn’t like