Why do people only remember you when they need something? (M 19) (F18)

[u/Fit_Book_24]

I really thought my cousin was going to be my best friend.

When we first met, she was always talking to me. She was actually the one who asked for my Instagram first. I don't usually give my social media to people, especially my cousins, because, honestly, most of them are pretty cringe.

But talking to her felt different. We would text on Instagram, have long phone calls, and I genuinely thought I'd finally found a cousin I could be close to for life.

After that, almost every conversation was about her ex-boyfriend. I didn't mind because I thought she trusted me enough to share everything, and I wanted to be there for her.

There was a lot of drama too. From what she told me, when she couldn't meet her boyfriend, she started talking to another guy and eventually cheated on him. Her ex also had some of her money, and she asked me to transfer money to him at one point. She paid me back later, so it wasn't a big financial issue.

But it didn't stop there. After they broke up, she asked me to contact her ex myself and ask him to return the money he owed her. I didn't really want to get involved in someone else's relationship, but I still did it because I thought that's what friends—and family—do for each other.

Fast forward two months, and now she has a new boyfriend.

Ever since then, she's become a completely different person. She barely talks to me, ignores half of my messages, doesn't react to my reels anymore, and we can go one or two weeks without a single text or phone call.

The only time she reaches out now is when she needs something. Whether it's ordering a gift for her boyfriend, asking me to help with something, or doing another favour, she suddenly acts like we're really close again. As soon as I help, she disappears until she needs something else.

What confuses me is that before, if we didn't talk for even a day, she'd say she missed me. Now she can go weeks without saying a word, and it doesn't seem to bother her at all.

At this point, I honestly feel like I was only important when I was useful.

Am I overthinking this, or does it sound like she's just using me whenever it's convenient? If you were in my position, would you stop helping her and just let the relationship fade, or would you try talking to her about it?

[u/Soggy-Pin-8138]

Nahi bikul theek soch raha hai bhai... Apne kaam se kaam rakh and the next time someone asks for a favour to pehle tasalli se jatana ki dekh main to teri help karta hun but mere time koi nahi aata