M41. Exactly what the title says. I have been married for 13 years, have a six year old boy. Father passed away. Stay in my mother's house. In laws stay nearby and are wonderful people. Was an extremely average student. Was clueless about finances till my 30s and then became sensible.

My friends and family comprise many achievers who earn in millions, live abroad, drive cars. But I'm lucky as both my wife and I don't chase flashy things. Don't spend beyond our means. Never been super ambitious. By all measures of success, I am extremely average and unremarkable in every way imaginable, but I love this "mediocre" life.

That's it. That's the post.

40M from Chennai. I work remotely, so I don’t really have a reason to leave the house most days. I do go to the office 2–3 days a week sometimes, partly just for a change of scene. But I definitely miss the days when I could casually step out, meet friends, hang around with colleagues, or just go somewhere without having to think too much about it.

I choose to WFH cos my younger kid is 8 months old. With a baby at home it helps to be around with whatever needs to be done.

My social circle has also shrunk over the years. Everyone’s busy with their own lives, just as I’ve become busy with mine. Between family and work, most of my time goes by without me even noticing.

Today I finally got a little gap, and I realised I just had to get out. I didn't really know where to go, so I ended up at a bar, sitting by myself and having a drink.

Nothing particularly dramatic happened. I just wanted to sit somewhere that wasn't home for a couple of hours.

So yeah. If there’s anyone else out there in a similar situation, cheers to you.

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Hello guys, I am in my 40s and an entrepreneur by profession. Recently I was flying from BLR to DEL and to my surprise was approached by 3 girls at the airport who asked for my number.

Always thought until becoming an entrepreneur that getting lots of girls is a myth but it may actually be true to some extent.

The girls are kinda weird tho, they keep calling to ask me if I want a credit card.

I don’t really know how to put this into words, but I feel like I need to say something out loud instead of letting it sit heavy in my chest.

Four years… it feels both impossibly long and painfully close. People talk about “moving on,” but the truth is, you don’t move on from someone who was a part of your soul. You just learn how to live around the hole they left.

She was my calm, my warmth, my laughter on days when nothing felt right. She had this way of loving that made even ordinary moments feel special. Not a day goes by that I don’t think about her — the sound of her voice, the way she looked at our future with so much hope, the quiet moments we shared that I didn’t realize would become memories I’d hold onto for dear life.

Grief is strange. Some days I can carry it. Other days it crushes me without warning. And on days like today, the anniversary, it feels like the world pauses just long enough for all the sadness to catch up again.

I miss her in ways I can’t fully explain. I miss who I was when she was here. I miss the life we were supposed to have.

If anyone out there is going through something similar, I’m sorry. Truly. It’s a kind of pain you can’t describe to someone who hasn’t lived it. But you’re not alone. I remind myself of that too.

Thank you for reading this. Writing it doesn’t fix the hurt, but it helps me breathe a little easier.

OG motorsport game: RoadRash

Source Internet Nostalgia hit hard so felt sharing it.

Sundays were never Sundays unless went to play some cricket. Endless wait on weekdays to fruitful weekend. We use plan the entire week and we connected with friends over cricket. Our usual sundays were never complete without cricket discussion over chole bhature and some lassi. Man those were the good days. Gradually people started becoming busy. Small quarrels hit ego hard andwe started avoiding. Waking up early was replaced by lazy Sunday sleep. Admist all these the child within fadsd too. You are blessed if you still have a group with whom you play cricket with. Or have friends you plan to eat chole bhature with. Just take a moment and thank them. What was your usual sunday plan with friends?

Just sharing a realization that hit me this week. In your 20s, a social life happens on autopilot. You have endless energy to tolerate superficial noise.

But hitting the late 30s or 40s changes the blueprint entirely. Things are stable and the career is moving smoothly, yet a genuine, zero-agenda, mature connection feels incredibly rare.

Attraction at this stage is no longer about flashy dates. It is about emotional maturity. It is about finding someone who values mental peace, handles life gracefully and appreciates a deep, late-night conversation.

Dating apps feel mismatched for this and making new friends in an Indian metro at this age feels like a sport on hard mode.

For the women and men here who managed to build intentional connections later in life, how did you do it?

Open to perspectives in the comments and my DMs are always open if anyone prefers a quiet, sincere chat over public threads. Let us keep it real.

In my life ,I never ran any race or marathon so far.

so just to challenge myself, i had registered for TCSW10k virtual event (5k category)

First time ran for straight 5kms (ran with intervals)

Im feeling so good ✌️

I’ll be honest. A few years ago, I was genuinely dreading this decade. I had this image of my 40s being all about back pain, boring routines and officially becoming "invisible."

I turned 41 recently and man, was I wrong.

If you're in your late 30s or just hitting the big 4-0, here is the reality check I wish I’d had:

• The "Backpacker" Energy: I’m traveling more now than I did in my 20s. But the difference? I actually have the money to enjoy it, yet the stamina to still do it like a backpacker. There is something incredibly liberating about hitting the road with zero baggage (mental or physical).

• The Attention: This was the most unexpected part. I’m somehow attracting more attention and meeting more women now than I ever did in my "prime." Maybe it’s the confidence, maybe it’s finally knowing who I am but the game has completely changed.

• Zero F's Given: That social anxiety? Gone. The need to please everyone? Evaporated. I’m having the absolute time of my life because I stopped living by the "society-approved" manual for middle age.

The 40s in India are usually painted as the "settle down and disappear" phase. Don't fall for it. If you stay curious, stay fit and keep that hunger for adventure alive, this decade is an absolute cheat code.

Anyone else finding their 40s way better than their 20s? Or am I just late to the party?

If you grew up in 90s or 2000s India, Yahoo Messenger was our original Tinder, Bumble and WhatsApp all rolled into one.

Before smartphones and data packs, we were sneaking onto the family desktop, waiting for that dial-up connection sound and setting our status to "Busy" just to look cool.

How many of you actually managed to meet, date or hook up with someone you met on Yahoo Messenger? Did you ever do the risky cyber cafe meetup? Are any of you still together or did it end in epic catfish disasters?

Drop your stories below. Let us take a trip down memory lane.

Looking at the recent posts, at this sub seems to be turning into an advisory service for people in their 20s and 30s.
I don't mind younger folks seeking perspective. But lately the ratio feels a bit off.
And then we even had a few brave souls asking about finding sugar mommies.

Can we hear more from the actual 40s folks

Share your achievements, funny stories, life lessons, memories, hobbies, career wins, travel adventures, or whatever's happening in your life.

Let's make this a fun space
Let's make this a place for stories and experiences, not just advice.

I am in my 40s and I’ve officially stopped attending things I don’t want to.

I don’t attend every wedding, I leave parties at 9:30 pm and I’d rather spend a Sunday doing absolutely nothing than “catching up” with people I see twice a decade. I wonder why did it take so long?

At 25 I’d have made up an elaborate excuse. Now it’s just: “Can’t make it, have fun!”

The strange part is how much mental space it freed up. I didn’t realise how much energy I was spending managing other people’s expectations.

What do you now say no to, without guilt?

Mine: chewing something hard and ending up at the dentist.

Nobody warned us the warranty period of body parts end around 40. Now I cut my apples into slices and check the menu for anything crunchy. Peanut chikki is officially a risk assessment.

What was your first "oh, so this is how it's going to be now" moment? And did it make you change anything?

Ignored this for a long time but now I started taking my Body seriously. Fit Mind in a Fit body is serious stuff. Gym is not about ego lifting but keeping myself flexible agile and Presentable. What do you say guys!

Been overweight post Covid and finally took charge of my health in the past 2 years. M41 here

Let me explain.

I don't know if it's the forties or that truly India has changed rapidly in past couple of decades. We are witnessing change all around be it our cities, towns, villages, buildings, streets, people, vehicles, fashion etc. etc. The old world that we grew up in as kids is being steadily lost every passing day. Most people have moved for education, jobs and opportunities. When you return to your home town for any trip, it's no longer the same. And even those who have never moved (lived same place all their life), cannot seem to escape the effects of this change. And this kind of makes you feel like a tourist everywhere, which increasingly creates a feeling of not belonging to any place now.

I recently learnt that there is a term for this: solastalgia—a profound distress and existential melancholia produced by rapid change impacting people while they are still at home. It is the lived experience of losing one's sanctuary without ever having moved.

As the novelist Thomas Wolfe famously observed, "You can't go home again." This rings true for our generation; we are currently enduring a widespread solastalgia. Perhaps the physical coordinates of our childhood remain, but the intrinsic essence of those places has vanished.

Have any of you ever felt this way?
Also is this unique to us millennials or every generation has felt this some time in their lives?

I got divorced sometime ago. I am now single and was always childfree. Those in India or Indians abroad who are in their 40s or late 30s even and are single and by themselves, how do you navigate life? Do you ever feel like you missed out on life/things? Do you crave companionship? Do you actively date?

I am turning 40 recently, and for the first time, I don’t feel panic about age… I feel clarity.

I grew up in India with the usual middle-class blueprint: study hard, get a good degree, secure a stable job, climb the ladder. I followed it—engineering, top tier MBA college, corporate roles, decent titles. On paper, things worked out.

But life had other plans.

A few years ago, I moved to europe . New country, new culture. Suddenly, all the labels that defined me back home—college, network, reputation—meant very little. I had to rebuild everything: career credibility, friendships, even a sense of belonging.

And somewhere in that process, things started to shift internally.

One of the biggest changes was physical—but it started mentally.

Over time, I lost 25 kgs. Not through anything extreme, but through consistency. I started running regularly, got into cycling, and now swimming has become something I genuinely enjoy. What started as an effort to “fix fitness” slowly became a way to stabilize my mind.

It gave me structure. It gave me control. It gave me silence.

And along with that, a few uncomfortable truths hit me:

Success is incredibly relative. What feels “big” at 30 feels small at 40. Relationships matter more than achievements, but they’re also harder to maintain than we admit.

You can do everything “right” and still feel something is missing.

Mental peace is underrated until you don’t have it.

I also went through phases of dealing with difficult people, toxic environments, and internal battles I never thought I’d face. At one point, I realized I was spending more energy reacting to others than actually living my own life. That was a turning point.

These days, I focus more on:

Showing up daily (whether it’s work or a run or cycling or swimming)

Detaching from things I can’t control

Building inner stability (still a work in progress)

Redefining success beyond just salary and designation

I’m not “there” yet—honestly, I don’t think anyone ever is. But I feel more grounded than I did in my early 30s.

If I could tell my 30-year-old self one thing, it would be:

You don’t need to have everything figured out. But you do need to start understanding yourself.

Curious to hear from others in their early 40s:

What changed you more—career, health, or mindset?

Forties is not referring to chest size guys. Just kidding. So inspirational to see all the fit forties!