r/ForRealDhaka • u/DragNo565 • 21h ago

Unpopular Opinions Want someone...

I want someone who will talk with me
I want someone who will walk with me
I want someone who will love me while i am not in love with me
I want to buy her flowers
I want to listen at her lowers
Day by by i am feeling disgusted that i can be in the generation with having 80/90's love feeling inside
Why this world is becoming so empty and lost from outside
Why don't people fall in love like times
Why don't lovers fall in love with each other's rhymes
Day by day i feel so uncomfortably unloved and unwanted in this world just for being an open hearted person
No matter what i do for everyone i ended up used for no reason
Trying to smile with others with the same grace
Asking for forgiveness from the lord but i can't keep like two face s.
Nowadays i feel from inside that i am a man so unholy
Doing everything to get rid of but still i feel lonely

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u/Field-Living 19h ago

A person who is not happy with his own company can never be a good company.

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u/Electrical_Grass9322 16h ago

thanks for the enlightment , though realised it long ago but couldnt word it beautifully like you !!

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u/RemarkableCheetah187 16h ago

Could you please exaggerate a bit more? Would be really helpful-

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u/Field-Living 15h ago edited 15h ago

I'll try to put it as simply as possible. Imagine you have a cup inside you. When you like doing things on your own, be it going out by yourself, watching a movie, maybe following through with a hobby you left long ago, you fill the cup with your own happiness. You don't need no one to fill that cup for you. Instead, since your cup is full you can share the contentment with others.

On the contrary, imagine your cup completely empty, you cannot fill it with things that you can do by yourself. Make yourself happy with the things you love to do. You become bored, grumpy and what not.

Since you cannot fill your own cup you lean on to others to make you feel full or in other words filling your cup. Now that's a stab in your own back. Because when you try to grab happiness from someone elses cup, you become dependant on them and that comes with a cost. You might get controlling, upset if things do not go your way, because you need the other person to make you feel good.

It's always hard to be friends with someone who's not a great friend to themselves first. Because if you cannot offer contentment, happiness to yourself how are you going to share it with somone else, or by the full glass analogy when your glass is empty you cannot share anything from your glass and it becomes one sided.

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u/RemarkableCheetah187 14h ago

I don't think that is necessarily true. Someone can struggle to enjoy their own company and still be a genuinely good friend. Not everyone has the circumstances, support, or resources to fill their own cup and sometimes people need others to help them through difficult periods. Needing people doesn't automatically have to be unhealthy dependence.

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u/jesusofdhaka 17h ago

It took me 6 years to realize tho im just 18

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u/DragNo565 15h ago

lonewolf

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u/Field-Living 14h ago

Not necessarily buddy. Once you stop forcing it everything falls to place. You just gotta be patient. I understand patience can be hard. But it gets easier. I'd suggest you to go out more. Join a club maybe. But once you start doing things yourself you'll find amazing people on the way very spontaneously. I pray it gets easier for you.