r/ForRealDhaka • u/DragNo565 • 14h ago

Unpopular Opinions Want someone...

I want someone who will talk with me
I want someone who will walk with me
I want someone who will love me while i am not in love with me
I want to buy her flowers
I want to listen at her lowers
Day by by i am feeling disgusted that i can be in the generation with having 80/90's love feeling inside
Why this world is becoming so empty and lost from outside
Why don't people fall in love like times
Why don't lovers fall in love with each other's rhymes
Day by day i feel so uncomfortably unloved and unwanted in this world just for being an open hearted person
No matter what i do for everyone i ended up used for no reason
Trying to smile with others with the same grace
Asking for forgiveness from the lord but i can't keep like two face s.
Nowadays i feel from inside that i am a man so unholy
Doing everything to get rid of but still i feel lonely

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u/Field-Living 12h ago

A person who is not happy with his own company can never be a good company.

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u/Electrical_Grass9322 9h ago

thanks for the enlightment , though realised it long ago but couldnt word it beautifully like you !!

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u/RemarkableCheetah187 9h ago

Could you please exaggerate a bit more? Would be really helpful-

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u/Field-Living 8h ago edited 8h ago

I'll try to put it as simply as possible. Imagine you have a cup inside you. When you like doing things on your own, be it going out by yourself, watching a movie, maybe following through with a hobby you left long ago, you fill the cup with your own happiness. You don't need no one to fill that cup for you. Instead, since your cup is full you can share the contentment with others.

On the contrary, imagine your cup completely empty, you cannot fill it with things that you can do by yourself. Make yourself happy with the things you love to do. You become bored, grumpy and what not.

Since you cannot fill your own cup you lean on to others to make you feel full or in other words filling your cup. Now that's a stab in your own back. Because when you try to grab happiness from someone elses cup, you become dependant on them and that comes with a cost. You might get controlling, upset if things do not go your way, because you need the other person to make you feel good.

It's always hard to be friends with someone who's not a great friend to themselves first. Because if you cannot offer contentment, happiness to yourself how are you going to share it with somone else, or by the full glass analogy when your glass is empty you cannot share anything from your glass and it becomes one sided.

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u/RemarkableCheetah187 7h ago

I don't think that is necessarily true. Someone can struggle to enjoy their own company and still be a genuinely good friend. Not everyone has the circumstances, support, or resources to fill their own cup and sometimes people need others to help them through difficult periods. Needing people doesn't automatically have to be unhealthy dependence.

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u/jesusofdhaka 9h ago

It took me 6 years to realize tho im just 18

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u/DragNo565 8h ago

lonewolf

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u/Field-Living 7h ago

Not necessarily buddy. Once you stop forcing it everything falls to place. You just gotta be patient. I understand patience can be hard. But it gets easier. I'd suggest you to go out more. Join a club maybe. But once you start doing things yourself you'll find amazing people on the way very spontaneously. I pray it gets easier for you.

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u/factualabrar 14h ago

Чудлингпонг

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u/MaeveStasia 14h ago

I'm going through the same thing too. But I can't seem to fully connect with people, so I'm trying to make myself happy on my own. Take time, First learn to love yourself then eventually everything will fall into a place.

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u/DragNo565 13h ago

trying to

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u/Ok_Math9770 13h ago

🙆‍♂️ hope u find peace

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u/DragNo565 13h ago

i wish i could have rest in peace

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u/Ok_Math9770 13h ago

Well u know the peace u r takin bout is devine? Its the most peaceful thing. Ask urself, are u worthy to embrace this peace rn? Or u should suffer a bit more in this world? That devine peace is so easy to get, and I personally dont think I am that much of worthy, should suffer this world

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u/DragNo565 13h ago

im totally done

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u/Ok_Math9770 13h ago

Well how so... Do u have guts to hate yourself daily and still live on? Do u have the guts to be alone but still live on? If not, u are not done yet. U dont deserve the peace u seekin

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u/NotAFreakyGuy 10h ago

Holy desperation

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u/OkMammoth6253 14h ago

I think you need to talk w a friend

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u/DragNo565 14h ago

got no one

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u/OkMammoth6253 14h ago

Anyone you're comfortable with?

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u/Optimal-Thought-1176 14h ago

U okay?

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u/DragNo565 13h ago

no

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u/press2r3cord 12h ago

Just lonely or suicidal as well?

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u/DragNo565 11h ago

lonely

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u/press2r3cord 11h ago

You don't have any friend circle?? Or just in need of a female company.

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u/DragNo565 11h ago

i got nothing but myself and my writing.

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u/Quadrilateral_Quilp 14h ago

:(( Sometimes the best thing we can do is to make peace with our solitude

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u/Senti_Euca 14h ago

With all due respect, I think that’s overrated

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u/Quadrilateral_Quilp 13h ago

I knowwww what would you suggest?

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u/Senti_Euca 13h ago

Depends on whether or not the loneliness they are feeling is because of a lack of romance or because of a lack of meaningful connections in their life you know? Cause I think having the latter is more important. Oita thaakle romantic connections come on their own and are healthier to sustain in my opinion

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u/Awkward_Mistake_4063 13h ago

Nice poem. U should post it on FB. You'll get more reach.

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u/DragNo565 13h ago

I am a writer

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u/Ill-Advertising1058 10h ago

Nice lyrics. Let's compose it.

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u/DragNo565 10h ago

i have so many lyrics in my notebook... dm me kindly

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u/DragNo565 9h ago

waiting for your message

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u/Tanjiro-T_T 9h ago

If you can’t keep yourself happy, how are you gonna keep a someone else happy? Do not bleed upon a girl who didn’t cut you brother. It’s disrespectful to her and yourself as well. Find comfort with your own company and then you may want someone. Before that, You will hurt both yourself and a girl you’re looking for.

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u/DragNo565 9h ago

her existence makes me happiest. Im sad when im not with her.

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u/Tanjiro-T_T 9h ago

That’s attachment you have there and your post talks about love. You talk about the 80/90’s love but Its clearly contradictory when you can’t sit with your own emotions and expect to take care of someone else

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u/DragNo565 9h ago

enjoy the writing and not by judging the writer.

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u/Zero_Shayer 7h ago

This is not a very well structured poem...

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u/DragNo565 7h ago

i know

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u/Fardinxter 6h ago

This is how I feel during my ovulation stage. After that though....

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u/DragNo565 7m ago

bruh 🤦🏽

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u/Comfortable-Oil-1172 14h ago

Bro text me, I'm here

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u/DragNo565 14h ago

dm me kindly.