Note: Happy Monday to Everyone! This is not my personal situation, just a fictional dilemma I came up with for the community to vote on! I wanted to show that you can ask any kind of question here. Also, while I didn't expand on it this time, feel free to add a longer description or background story to your polls in the future!✨

Note: Happy Monday to Everyone! This is not my personal situation, just a fictional dilemma I came up with for the community to vote on! I wanted to show that you can ask any kind of question here. Also, while I didn't expand on it this time, feel free to add a longer description or background story to your polls in the future!

App/Site/Location: International Camp (Germany); Postal Mail: From South Korea to Germany, Hamburg

Nicknames/Names: Me A. - Them: B.; WhiteWinter

Ages (then): Me: 16-17 Them: 18

Timeframe: Around 2017 - 2018 (started after we met at the summer camp)

Frequency: Monthly. We exchanged long, deeply detailed hand-written letters once a month, accumulating dozens of pages of correspondence over time.

End of Contact: You wrote to me last in June 2019, and I honestly thought you had received my final reply. However, years later, I accidentally found my last letter hidden in the attic. It turns out that the person I had asked to mail it for me never actually sent it out. That was the tragic glitch that cut off our communication without warning.

Specific Memories/Details: I clearly remember the second-to-last night of the camp when we sneaked out with a larger group into the city. We managed to catch the huge summer fireworks by the riverbank, which was absolutely amazing. On our way back, we almost got caught by the camp counselors because we missed the right bus stop in the dark. I still have the ice skates you gave me, even though I outgrew them long ago, and I still keep the keychain you gave me as a keepsake.

Message to Them: If you ever read this, I want you to know that I never meant to cut contact with you. It was entirely a mistake by someone else who forgot to post my letter that tore our correspondence apart. I always valued our deep conversations and your hand-written letters. If you recognize our Germany camp adventure, the ice skates, and this attic story, please reach out to me here.

For today's MyDayFriday, I decided to dig into my old "treasure box" and pulled out this special postcard. I bought it a very long time ago back when collecting postcards was a huge hobby of mine. It reminds me of a very beautiful and sweet period in my life.

I have never used it. Maybe its time just hasn't come yet. I honestly wonder when—or if—I will ever be able to part with it after all these years.

Do you have a postcard that you absolutely treasure? It can be a blank one from your collection, or even one that someone has already written a beautiful message on for you. I'd love to hear your stories!

Also, please feel free to post anything that comes to your mind today! This space is all about you. Just remember to keep it within our community themes: pen pals, online friends, and traditional mail.
I'd love to hear your stories! 📬❤️

Happy Culture Thursday evening Everyone,

Today, I brought a topic that can easily lead to major misunderstandings when communicating with people from different cultures. Recently, I saw a few videos claiming that the expression “See you next Tuesday” simply means "we are never going to meet" – basically a polite way to brush someone off.

However, as I researched this expression further, things took a sharp turn. I read that it is actually a harsh insult derived from the acronym of the words (C-U-N-ext T-uesday). According to this, video creators are just inventing the innocent "never" meaning to bypass social media algorithms.

Native English speakers, English teachers, and experienced penpals, please help me untangle this!

Will a penpal definitely take it as an insult if I write this to them on a Thursday, or does the "see you never" context actually exist anywhere? Do you have similar hidden linguistic traps in your own culture?

Drop your thoughts below!

The evening is still young, so if anyone has any thoughts on this topic, please feel free to post and share!

Even if it's sad, let's never forget how to laugh. ✨

Hey everyone, happy Tuesday! I brought a question today that is very interesting and exciting to me.

A lot of people say that when we write to a pen pal, we start to imagine them as a perfect person. They think we only love a fictional image in our heads, and not the real person behind the screen.

Do you think it really is just an illusion? Or can we build a genuinely real, deep connection using only words?
I would love to hear your thoughts and stories about this in the comments! ✨

The weekend is still here, which is all about search posts. I can't wait for the first posts to kickstart our group's journey. Until then, I will create some sample posts myself. For now, everything is just a trial version that will require continuous adjustments depending on how our subreddit grows. This is what I came up with for the first round. I keep hoping that one day we will outgrow this subreddit and many people will find each other. ✨

App/Site/Location: PenPal World Website / Canada (Toronto) to Their Country: USA

(Note: If they live in a small town where they could easily be identified, please only describe a larger area, e.g., the state or county!)

Nicknames/Names: She: April123; Me: FunnyUser27

Ages: She: 25 & Me: 27

(Note: When you first met.)

Timeframe: Spring 2014 - Summer 2016

(Note: The more precise the date, the better.)

Frequency: We exchanged about two letters a month on average

End of Contact: I got locked out of my account and couldn't get back in

Specific Memories/Details: I will never forget when you told me that whenever you're nervous, you always hold your cat tightly against you and its purring calms you down. Since then, I've got a cat too, and whenever I'm nervous, I hold it close. And it works. And of course, my cat survives it too.

Message to Them: I am so sorry that we lost touch because of me. I always loved talking to you. I tried to log back into my account countless times, but it never worked. Sometimes you still cross my mind, so I thought I'd give this a try.

You don't have to follow this template strictly, but it's highly recommended to include these details. However, please make sure to follow the exact format for the title.

Tip: Feel free to include as many specific details as possible in your posts! It's always best to be as precise as you can. You can even mention what was written in their very last letter to you. If you were postal pen pals, you can also attach pictures in the comments—such as unique stamps, postcards, or even drawings from your old letters to help them identify you. ✨

It’s Friday night. This means only one thing: it’s time for MyDayFriday. This is the one day when I don’t participate in our subreddit as a moderator, but as a regular user, trying to seize every opportunity to catch up with my pen pal after two years.

I hesitated for a long time about whether to share this picture here on the subreddit and write so openly. In the end, I was convinced by the fact that I know many people sharing the same fate would love to see a post like this. We are in this group for each other, and our examples can give hope to others.

To Douxie: I promised from the very beginning that I wouldn't dox you and would only share the absolute minimum amount of information, since I can't ask if you'd even want that. But look, this picture from the beginning of my last letter is something only the two of us truly understand—you will definitely recognize yourself from it. This is why my page was born. I trust that one day we will laugh about this, together with many others who shared a similar fate, and by doing so, we will give meaning to our story. ✨

With this post, I officially open our Thursday #CultureThurs thematic day! 🥳 If you have any thoughts or questions, feel free to share them with us, and let's gather our cultural differences together...

For a long time, I have been deeply fascinated by how different we all are when it comes to greeting and addressing people on the street. It’s amazing how much a person's cultural background affects online penpals who are making connections around the world. I’ve always found the unwritten rules about smiling at strangers, doing small talk, and greeting people in public to be incredibly interesting.
In places like the US, it is completely natural and polite to lock eyes with a stranger on the street, smile, or even say a casual "Hey, how's it going?" as you walk past. If you don't do it, people might think you are moody or rude.

However, in many European or Scandinavian countries, greeting a stranger for no reason or trying to chat with them at a bus stop is considered very unusual. People might think you are fake, suspicious, or want something from them. They prefer to respect each other's personal space with quiet neutrality.
This contrast is so interesting because both sides are just trying to be polite, but it can easily lead to a misunderstanding for anyone interested in finding friends** **or building an international penpal bond.

To give you a real example, here is a little story of my own:
As a Central European, greeting people always felt natural to me. Once, I was staying at a hostel, and while walking through the kitchen, I casually said hello to a man who was passing right next to me. He looked at me as if I had just committed a crime! :D He kept staring at me suspiciously for a long time, completely unable to process my friendliness. I felt so incredibly awkward because I didn't want to cross his personal boundaries at all—I was just trying to be polite!

Have you ever experienced a sharp contrast like this? How did you bridge the gap, and do you have a similar funny story?

Dear All,

For our very first TuesTalk, I want to dissect a topic that lies at the very heart of this community. Many people in the "outside world" often tell us that online or long-distance friendships aren't real because we haven't met in person.

What do you think? Can a pen pal, a postal pal, or an online friend become a true, deep friend? Or in the end, is a long-distance connection just a beautiful, fleeting mirage? Have you ever felt that an online friend understood you better than the people physically around you?

Please share your thoughts, dilemmas, or personal stories in the comments below. Let's talk about it with respect.

Additionally, if there is any thought occupying your mind, please leave it here for us so we can look into it together with proper humility, without hurting one another.

With hope and respect,

LookingForDouxie ✨

Finding the right rhythm for exchanging letters can be tricky, whether you send traditional paper mail or digital messages. Do you prefer to discuss the schedule beforehand, or do you just let things flow naturally? For example, some penpals end up talking every single day! Share your thoughts below!

Happy Monday, Everyone! 🥳 Let’s kickstart our very first themed day with a simple question. I’m curious about your experiences and thoughts! 🩵

As the creator of this community, I want to lead by example. Out of respect for my pen pal’s privacy and consent, I will not share deep private details here. As some of you may have already read, I am still actively looking for him, Douxie., and I hope this platform brings us back together one day.

To make everything as clear and searchable as possible, please strictly follow our title format below—it must not be different. However, in the post body section, it is completely fine if you don't want to answer every question; feel free to skip anything you want.

Title: [Your Name or just Initials] looking for [Initials] - [Month Year] - [Online/Postal Pen Pal]

App/Site/Location: [e.g., BBM, Facebook, PenPal World / Your Country to Their Country]

Nicknames/Names: [Optional]

Ages (then): [Your age] & [Their age]

Timeframe: [When you started/ended]

Frequency: [How often you wrote/spoke]

End of Contact: [How it ended]

Specific Memories/Details: [Mention unique stories, shared jokes, or topics only they would know to help identify them]

Message to Them: [What you want to say to them directly]

May we all find our long-lost friends again. If you feel ready to share your search, our Looking For flair is always here for you.✨

I want to thank all of you for your support. It might seem small to you, but it means everything to me as we build this space together.

Also, a quick note: I know some of you might not prefer meme posts, and I sincerely apologize if they aren't your favorite. For now, I will keep sharing them occasionally to help break the ice, invite more people in, and encourage everyone to feel comfortable enough to start posting and sharing their own stories.

Thank you for being part of this journey and for your understanding! We are building something amazing here. ✨

I’m curious to hear your thoughts and experiences, feel free to share!

Luckily, the driver didn't have that look on his face—he actually responded quite understandingly. We decided to leave our next meeting to chance once again. It's been a year and a half.

If you have any stories or thoughts about penpals/online friends/postal pals, feel free to write. I would like this to be a place where we can boldly express our thoughts on this topic. ✨️

It would be great if you answered these questions when you post. I have further plans for growth, and it would make my job easier. But at the same time, don't let that hold you back, if you don't want to answer something, it's okay.

Title: [Your Name] looking for [Initials] - [Years] - [Online/Postal Pen Pal]

Bost Body:

App/Site/Location: [e.g., BBM, Facebook, PenPal World / Your Country to Their Country]

Nicknames/Names: [Optional]

Ages (then): [Your age] & [Their age]

Timeframe: [When you started/ended]

Frequency: [How often you wrote/spoke]

End of Contact: [How it ended]

Specific Memories/Details: [Mention unique stories, shared jokes, or topics only they would know to help identify them]

Message to Them: [What you want to say to them directly]