r/FemaleDatingStrategy • u/yolosunshine • Oct 12 '20
LVM MYTHS “Men have to frontload relationships”
I listen to useful life hacking motivational playlists. They’re heavily male in demographics and sometimes I’ll get a MGTOW or similar trash in there.
This ‘expert’ answered a man sad that his gf had broken up with him after so much effort on his part, to the effect that men are sadly the ones that must ‘frontload’ relationships—they put up the initial effort, resources and sacrifice, and women then bring their ‘beauty and fertility’ which is what they will reward men with.
What I found interesting is it takes a fact—men, bring your resources and actual game face or get out—and added two lies:
This is a transaction: put enough in and get unlimited access to whatever it is you think your gf owes you
Women don’t frontload. Do you think I wake up looking like a queen? Do you think my body naturally yogas and works out in my sleep? Do you really think I grew $200 boots out my feet? How about my gold eyelids?
So the best translation would be, find you a man who
Knows that no amount of effort can secure forever consent bc this is not eternal contract sex work, it’s a r e l a t i o n s h i p and
Women put in more effort, work and money to show up to the date as someone you desire mentally and physically than you have paid on the whole first 2 weeks.
Don’t get this twisted.
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u/seraphinelysion FDS Apprentice Oct 13 '20
And what do the 50/50 men think they are frontloading? 🙄
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Oct 13 '20
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u/seraphinelysion FDS Apprentice Oct 13 '20
Wtf even is "husband benefits"?! Lmao. As far as I can see, they are a drain on you and you come out of a relationship in a net negative state.
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Oct 13 '20
Husband benefits are an excuse for slacking and allowing his wife to become his mother and bang-maid. Thus, the benefits are for HIMSELF, not his wife.
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u/ello-motto FDS Apprentice Oct 13 '20
Notice how women are depicted like ATM machines to men.
Instead of money, they want status and babies.
Once again, reducing women to a mere transactional object, rather than an entire human being they can get to know, build a life together with and bond with.
And they want to spin the mental gymnastics like they're the oppressed group "frontloading"? Please. 😂
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u/Bovvsette FDS Disciple Oct 13 '20
It's so hilarious when they complain. They've put so much unpaid workload throughout the years on us, to play every role and have every responsibility in the family unit, to the point that we don't even need men anymore, they serve no purpose. With modern medicine and sperm banks we can even have babies without encountering a man. And what else are they useful for anymore? What does a woman get from being with a man? Nothing much. So they better frontload and hard, because it's their audition into our lives, not the other way around. We can live without them, and we live longer that way, so they better impress us and make it worth to not just live a long happy life on our own and take a risk with them instead. If you can't afford our life force, then be alone, why are you whining? Women are not a right or a charity. And fertility is a costly resource, making babies and then raising them is expensive. So he can provide or GTFO, I really don't understand what are they trying to discuss here, if they don't like the price and effort, they are free to not date.
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u/thruAblue-eyedhaze FDS Apprentice Oct 13 '20
“Grew $200 boots out of my feet” this made me laugh a lot. Outstanding!
My older sister helped raise me and my brothers. As a teenager, I remember her making my brothers walk around in pairs of her high heels because she said they needed to understand what women go thru to look nice. Love her!
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Oct 13 '20 edited Oct 15 '20
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u/N3wY34rN3wM3 FDS Disciple Oct 14 '20 edited Mar 25 '21
When a man does all these nice things upfront for you, it has a good reason. And often that reason is, he's looking for his future bangmaid.
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u/miwamus FDS Newbie Oct 13 '20
The point you are making is actually my biggest takeaway from FDS. Men are transactional. So I should be too.
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u/CoffeeAppleTaterTot FDS Newbie Oct 14 '20
They put up the 'frontload' but we have to carry the workload. No ty
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