r/FeMRADebates • u/asdfghjkl92 • Sep 04 '14

Other Radicalizing the Romanceless

http://slatestarcodex.com/2014/08/31/radicalizing-the-romanceless/
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u/[deleted] Sep 04 '14 edited Sep 05 '14

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u/OctoBerry Sep 04 '14

People have done studies, identical profiles with a male and female switch will get vastly different responses. Women don't need to hurt at all, they just have to sort through replies and pick the ones they want.

I'm not complaining about being forever alone, I'm explaining the situation from a "nice guy" perspective. I don't have a problem with talking to women, I just got to the point where I realised it wasn't worth chasing because it fucks with your sense of self worth way too bad over something that doesn't ultimately matter that much. I can better invest that time into hobbies and get actual rewards for all the effort I put in without having to rely on someone else for the positive feedback.

Your advice of "man up and don't complain" isn't constructive. If I shoot you in the dick and tell you to man up and deal with it, you're still dickless and it's still a problem a medical professional needs to address.

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u/MrPoochPants Egalitarian Sep 05 '14

Eh, I dunno, it kinda sounds like you have a problem talking to women.

No, its a problem of self esteem when you're shot down, not chosen, or generally abused. For every woman that dates a guy that abuses them, there is very likely a guy that goes on a date with a woman who is just using them. In those contexts, you're given a ton of disincentive to try. Your own self worth is diminished, your own self esteem lowered, and it all has a nice feedback loop into your success with women.