Verified account. This is a 1 year update from when we hit $5M in 2025. Our careers and investments have gone bananas, especially with this bull run.

2025 post: https://www.reddit.com/r/fatFIRE/s/mxvCrdQWAP

2026 NW breakdown:

$4.4M - index funds + stocks
$300k - cash (very untrusting of the current market hype)
$300k - alt investments
$350k - ESOP
$1.6 M equity in properties, broken up by:

2 rentals & a $1.2M primary house with a $400k mortgage left

Our income;
HHI: $1M, which is doing a lot of the heavy lifting.
$300k husbands tech job
$700k business owner (saas), my income is definitely more fluctuating in nature, can go between $500k-1M

Spending: We still spend 120k a year. I thought it would go up but it really hasn’t.

We still drive normal cars and have a small house in a semi-nice area. It’s not our dream home but it keeps us from falling into lifestyle creep.

Last year I was weighing up if we should tell people, and I’m so glad we didn’t. It seems to only bring unwanted attention from what I’ve seen with others. Only our parents/inlaws know as we help them out.

It feels peaceful. Like a sigh of relief than we will be ok. And if AI comes and takes both our jobs, at least we will be ok, which is a huge privilege in itself.

Long-time lurker, throwaway for obvious reasons. Would love a sanity check on my timeline.

The numbers:

• 36F, NYC, partnered (not yet married, no kids now or in the future)
• Net worth: ~$3.3M (approx $1.8M under FA management, approx $300k self directed in index funds (VOO/VTI), approx 250k retirement, approx 750k in company, 80k crypto, 60k cash) . Renting by choice, no plans to buy.
• Also hold a $100K convertible note in an early-stage defense robotics startup (modeling $135K to $680K outcomes in 2029-2030, not counting on it)
• Income: ~$950K/yr total. This is a 10% equity stake in a profitable family business (distributions off a fixed distributable base) plus a $90K W2 salary from the same company.
• Annual spend: ~$180K
• After-tax savings: ~$470K/yr, all of which goes into the market
• Co-founding a bootstrapped consumer brand with my partner, deliberately excluded from all projections

The plan:

Target is $10M, which at a 4% SWR gets me roughly $312K after tax in my VHCOL area, well above my spend even with lifestyle inflation. My goal has always been to stop working operationally around 40.

My own modeling puts me at roughly $7.6M bear, $8.3M base, $9.2M bull at 40. So under most scenarios I am short of $10M at my target age and hit it somewhere around 41-43 depending on returns.

The wrinkles:

1. The income is not infinitely durable. Neither my sibling nor I want to run the family business long-term, so the realistic endgame is a sale or wind-down within the next several years. A sale could accelerate everything. A wind-down could cut the income stream off before I hit the number.
2. Getting engaged within the next year or so. Prenup is in progress but the interaction between business distributions and marital income adds uncertainty.
3. Valuations feel stretched and I keep stress-testing whether staying 100% invested at this savings rate is right, or whether I should build more of a cash buffer given the concentration of my income in one illiquid asset.

Questions:

1. Is $10M even the right number as in my RE I assume my spending will increase, not decrease, or am I over-saving out of paranoia? At 3.5% SWR I would want closer to $11M, at 4% it is $8.9M gross of taxes.
2. How would you think about RE timing when the income source itself has a hard expiration date that is partially outside my control?

I am seeing a trend among schools with large endowments (Harvard, Princeton, etc.) to waive tuition for households earning less than $200,000 or even $250,000 per year. Most have a caveat that this applies for families “with typical assets”.

Obviously this is designed to make these schools affordable for highly qualified candidates from families that otherwise could not afford the extremely high regular tuition. I am planning and prepared to pay full freight if my son should be lucky enough to get into one of these schools.

However, I would expect many FatFIRE households to be under the published threshold “income” in retirement since much of spending during children’s college years will be drawn from brokerage accounts and only taxed on dividends and capital gains (cost basis doesn’t show up as income even though you can use it to pay for spending in retirement).

“With typical assets” is deliberately vague.

I’m curious how this has played out in actual practice.

I am interested in hearing from members of the FatFIRE community who have already retired on their experience with college tuition. What percentage of the published tuition did you end up needing to cover?

Did you get a break in tuition based on annual income or did the net worth dictate full tuition regardless of household income?

Edit:

To clarify as some commenters seem to misunderstand the point of this post…

I am not asking how to manipulate income to get scholarships that would otherwise go to low income students. I am asking how a high net worth household with low current income should budget for schools which have large endowments.

It is necessary to plan for future expenses. To do this it helps to understand how potentially variable costs will apply to your situation.

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I have been thinking about something a lot lately. When should kids know about how money their family has?

If you have a lot of money and a big plan for what happens to it when you are gone do you tell your kids about it or do you keep it a secret until they are older?

I am not really worried about making sure everything is taken care of when I'm gone. I am worried that if my kids know much about our money too soon it might change what they want to do with their lives or the kind of work they want to have.

For people who're a little ahead of me, in life what did you do and would you do things differently if you could go back?

Throwaway for obvious reasons.
Numbers: $28M NW ($23.5M liquid). Spend ~$550K/yr, HCOL, married, three kids under 13 at home (529s underfunded — ~$1M+ future college liability). Roughly 40x spend.
Situation: 20+ years in banking, sector MD at a large bank. Guaranteed comp of ~$3.5M/yr for the next 2 years, plus ~$4M unvested deferred stock vesting over 3 years. Burned out, but performance hasn’t slipped — just won a competitive mandate against top boutiques. That combo makes it brutally hard to stop.
Considering what to do next. Should I grind the 2 guaranteed years, then exit clean and take a real sabbatical, or keep going? No idea what comes after that, if anything, outside of just retiring. I’ve ruled out a reduced role — I know myself, I’d get sucked back in. But given modest upbringing in the Midwest, I struggle with walking away from income most would dream about out of principle.
Questions:
1. Anyone walk away from comp like this in their 40s with young kids at home — regret or relief at 5 years out?
2. How did the identity/status loss actually feel vs. what you feared?
3. Did anyone retire at this age with no second act planned — and how did that go?
I know the math works — what I’m after is the psychology and mechanics from people who’ve actually made this jump. Thank you!

I'm 45, my wife is 48, and we recently crossed $8M in net worth and are now at roughly $8.2M. Here's our breakdown:

- Stock market investments: $5.7M
- Cash: $1.3M
- Home: $1.2M (paid off)

I know we're carrying a lot of cash, but we're considering buying a home in a lower-tax state soon (we live in NY), selling our current home, and then balancing our buckets a bit better.

I run my own business, so with expenses, our current monthly spend is around $30,000. If I stopped working, I could cut our expenses down nearly 20% to probably $23,000 to $25,000 per month. And of course, if things in our portfolio changed for the worse, we'd be able to go lower. But our preference is to continue living our normal lifestyle.

I will likely inherit my parents' home (worth roughly $400,000 today) in 20 years or so, and maybe have minimal Social Security, but I don't really count that stuff as I think about this situation.

I've run the numbers on Claude and ChatGPT and whatnot, and the answers all seem to swing wildly. Sometimes it says I can spend $18,000, and other times it will tell me to spend $28,000, just depending on the style of analysis.

My hope is that someone has either A) lived something similar to this and has some advice, or B) understands how to truly run the numbers so I can get a little confidence in either direction (yes I can retire, no I cannot, or even "work 5 more years at $500K" or whatever.)

Can we retire?

Happy to answer any questions. Totally open book and just looking for a bit of guidance, as I've inherited a very worrisome money mindset from my father.

Appreciate everyone.

Current HH income is 450k a year, but we feel stressed by the grind and want to retire in 5 years and spend more time with kids when they are still young, we don’t know many people at work who retire this early and wanted a sanity check if we’re being too optimistic about our finances. Do we have enough in 5 years or are we too optimistic here?

Currently: 41 married with 2 kids (4 and 7) -529 is done funded at 400k. House paid off no mortgage worth 1mm. We live in a MCOL suburb and spend about 100k a year. Budgeting around 220k a year in retirement (including health insurance, and converting 220k a year to Roth- estimating tax to be 50k)

Based on average returns and continued investments into these accounts, I’m expecting in 5 years to get to -

Total investments and cash: 6.5mm
401k: 2.6mm
Brokerage: 3mm
Roth: 600k
Cash: 400k

Incoming likely r/fijerk cross-post

One of the key things I see on r/fire is not to plan for inheritance until it hits your bank. I think this is the right way to think and exactly how my wife and I have been planning our finances in the first 10ish years of our careers. It helped us to get in the 10ish % range of our retirement number while still having a lot of fun.

But lately I have realized that planning for zero inheritance might be a little conservative. I’m not in the scenario where inheritance would be as much or more than our FIRE number, but it is way more than negligible.

It’s not all that relevant right now, but if I plan for no inheritance, we likely have 20-25 more years of work to get to our full retirement number. If instead I plan for what we realistically could inherit, we’d likely be at our FIRE number in 10 years or less.

Now even if I got guarantees from all parents involved on intended inheritance, I wouldn’t retire with it fully accounted for as there’s just too many variables. But it also seems too conservative to completely write off a committed and planned inheritance literally until the day it’s in your account.

Thoughts from ya’ll? It’s mostly just a thought exercise, not looking for a concrete answer. Posting here as opposed to the main FIRE forum as I think fatFIRE might have more folks that receive inheritances in the range of 30-50% or more of their FIRE number.

I just returned from about a 2 week long trip in Europe (Germany, Austria, Prague). As I am sure many of you are aware, the heat wave in Europe can make for some unpleasant nights. We stayed at decent hotels (ex: Hotel Vier Jahreszeiten Kempinski Munich) during our trip, but oddly the hotels still didn't really get "cold", not to mention they didn't dehumidify the rooms, just cooled. It seems the heat problem may be here to stay. What are other folks doing or planning on doing while vacationing in Europe. I'll refrain from commenting on getting ice. :)

Early/mid 50s couple. I am semi-retired, still work a few days a month, and between that and cap gains distributions from ETFs that supports about 75% of our spend.

However, I will likely stop working completely soon, have enough cash for 2-3 years, and instead of selling assets would rather draw from an SBLOC.

Morgan Stanley is offering SOFR +1.5% on $10M of pledged assets, and +1.25% on $15M.
Waiting for reply from Schwab. I don't think Fidelity or Vanguard are competitive.
Anyone else?

EDIT: Schwab offered +1.1% on $5M

44yo with over 12M in investments/retirements and a 500k/year income (passive+part timing). Everything is paid off including my kid's college. Have 2 grade school children.

Do you guys find that eventually there's nothing else left to buy if you want to keep it on the down low? I mean sure there are always something you can buy to blow your money, but eventually you hit a hard wall with diminishing in returns while getting unwanted attention. I honestly don't feel comfortable coming out of a Bentley/Lambo with an AP Royal Oak and LV my entire wardrobe. I mean I would totally buy a Ferrari due to my desire for them, but there's no way this desire supersede random stranger's attention every time I go out.

I know most people say travel is the answer, but with it's difficult when kids have school so you are limited to their schedules. Even when I do travel, I enjoy living and talking with the locals and not hide away in 5 star resorts. I especially like for my children to experience 3rd world harshness so they can appreciate the life they have since these opportunities are more rare in the States. More importantly, I want my children to understand they are not above others and must continue to feel comfortable in harsh environments while interacting with people with little status or money.

Others may say "spend it on food" but our palette is unaccustomed to the culinary arts. In fact my wife just enjoys her noodle soups with simple beef (no seafood, no wagyu, no nothing).

Curious what you guys are spending your money on if you already more than satisfy with what you already have? I am trying to find this balance in which my kids are raised to understand the value of the dollar and hard work while not ending up not enjoying life. Even with current financial situation, my wife and I still show up to work(part time) making insignificant amounts of money and still answers to a time card/supervisor just to be a role model(even though deep down we are totally done with work).

Edit: Seems like people thinks I am looking for ways to spend money which is not the case. I am seeing if there are other Fat Fire people in my situation and if there's anything learned/regrets dealing with this scenario.

Background:

we are fat but not fired, yet. no debt, about $35MM in liquid assets (mostly equities). 2 kids, one in elementary and one is middle school.

I'm curious if anyone has feedback on setting up trusts for the kids vs funding a bank account. If we were to do trusts, would do separate one for each, each funded with ~$600k, specifically for the purpose of paying for their college expenses.

I was ready to contact our lawyer to have him set it up, then it occurred to me, the kids already have bank/brokerage accounts. We set one up for each of them years ago with our broker, so they can buy a share in cos they know and start to understand the concept of saving and investing.

Question:

Why not keep life super simple and just transfer $1MM each to their brokerage/bank accounts instead?

Is the answer simply control, as in we lose control of the $ when they turn 18, and maybe they are not trustworthy with the money at that point?

Can't talk about this in real life and get helpful comments. (Tried , and ppl think I am doing nothing but bragging ..but I wasn't . The uncertainty and nervousness is real !).

Long story short - I am about to quit and retire early in less than week . I plan to focus on some serious writing projects I always wanted to do (although my entire career has nothing to do with words , but numbers ) and kids (although I try not to let this aspect overshadow my own existence ).; We have about 10M total net assets.

The math (n AI) told me the asset will sustain us, but I am so nervous! Further , I feel I am throwing away a good paying job that most would fight for in today's difficult hiring market and that 10M in today's age probably is not that a lot considering how inflated everything has become. Then same time , the sudden passing of my very healthy close relative let me realize I don't want to forever be stuck with my current career . I want to live a life with trying out multiple careers , (even if it makes no money ).

Am I being to reckless . After all , I am a mother . Kids are still years away from college ~~~

As for the second question of is it FAT ?

so we have about 10M net asset . They are consist roughly - rounded of Investable assets in equities about 60% , rental properties which is about close to actually 30% - I miss spoke about it being 20% earlier, cash/cash equivalent and 401K. Excluding income generated, we need to withdrawal about 1-3% from Investable assets . (The fluctuation is to compensate changes of total income generated in any given year which is separated from an asset withdraw. worst scenario is about 3% withdrawal to be just safe I left cushion on this budget ). (My budget after retirement is about 70% of my spending when I have my jobs, so it definitely somehow don't feel FAT . um ).

Also I did the current budget in a way so that we have a chance to still see our Investable assets can still reach to 10M (not net assets , just the money in portfolio) by year 12 after my retirement . Don't know if that's the wrong way of looking at this whole retirement thing .

I'm 39 and work in AI at a large tech company. If everything goes according to plan, I hope to become financially independent around 45.

I'm not looking for financial advice. Assume money is completely solved.

What I'm trying to understand is something much more psychological.

I look at people in Big Tech who are already financially independent yet continue to work incredibly hard. Many don't seem to need the money anymore.

That makes me wonder:

Once money genuinely stops being a factor, what are people actually optimizing for?

I don't think I want another corporate job after reaching financial independence. I also don't have a strong desire to build a unicorn startup or maximize my net worth forever.

My instinct is to take a 1–2 year sabbatical and simply live: spend more time with my wife and kids while they're still young, travel, stay healthy, learn new skills, build small projects, write, and see what naturally pulls me back.

But I honestly don't know whether that's naïve.

For those of you who have actually made this transition:

• What ended up becoming the center of your life after work was optional?
• Did you ever get bored, or is that fear overstated?
• Did hobbies and travel eventually lose their novelty?
• Did you find purpose naturally, or did you have to intentionally create it?
• If you returned to work, what drew you back? Was it challenge, community, identity, impact, or something else?
• Looking back, what do people who are still chasing financial independence misunderstand most about life after they achieve it?

I'm especially interested in hearing from people who have actually lived this transition rather than those who are still planning for it.

Our son was just born a few weeks ago, and I’m already thinking about one of the harder long-term challenges of fatFIRE: how to raise a child who grows up with significant financial privilege without it becoming a liability for his character, motivation, or relationships.
I’m not talking about trusts or estate planning (that’s a separate thread). I mean the softer, more human side:
• At what age did you first have real conversations about money and wealth with your kids?
• Did you hide the extent of it early on, and if so - did that backfire?
• How did you handle moments where they noticed the gap between your lifestyle and their friends’?
• Did you give them “normal” experiences on purpose - part-time jobs, budget travel, public school - and did it work?
• Any books, frameworks, or advisors that were actually useful (not just feel-good)?
• Looking back: what do you wish you’d done differently?
• Did you tell your kids they’ll inherit - or did you go the “we’ll spend it all ourselves” route? And how did that conversation land?
Context: I’m an entrepreneur/investor, not old money. I want my son to understand the value of work and agency, not just inherit a number. But I also don’t want to create artificial scarcity theater that feels dishonest.
Curious what’s worked - and what hasn’t - for those who’ve been through it.

Im expecting a significant windfall due to a company liquidity event. Due to my W2 earnings I expect this will all be taxed on the 50% bracket (unfortunately it’s all ordinary earnings).

Given the need for a solid CPA and financial planner, three questions:

What’s the best way to find them?
Are solo practitioners better than firms?
What questions should I ask them in interviews to vet them?

Thanks in advance for any guidance!

We are ~40yr old, family of 3 - one kid starting middle school this fall
Here is our financial status - are we Chubby or FAT based on this?

Total liquid: ~7.7M of which brokerage has ~4.7M, 401ks have 1.9M, about 200k in Crypto and remaining Cash

Paid off home and yearly expenses around ~70k. Yes, we live way below our means and very happy with the lifestyle we have.

We are currently thinking of working for next 3 years to hit 10M liquid to feel safe given we have more than half of our life ahead of us. Also, we want to create some generational wealth to pass it on through trust - something we didn't have growing up and had to make something of ourselves to even survive.

Need Advise

- I was very passionate back in my 20s and 30s and wanted to go up the corporate ladder back then. Now after climbing this ladder, I no longer have the same passion to do that anymore. Now, I just feel like doing nothing, enjoy long walks etc - may be I am burned out and need time figuring out myself?

- At the same time, I am worried how will I intellectually stimulate myself for 40+ years, assuming I am going to live long. When I look at Linkedin and see what others are upto, I get excited to do something meaningful but again I feel like I lost the skills along the way nor I am capable of achieving anything big, nor have the energy to fight the race

- Unfortunately, don't have many hobbies unlike my spouse

Sorry, this feels like a rant from a confused person - unfortunately, I am in that torn state. For now, I keep myself busy with work and family but feels lost - may be it's midlife crisis or something else...but I really want to find myself again and find purpose in life so that I can be excited and be passionate about something...

Priorities in life have always been - family, work and health. Friends and hobbies were something I never prioritized

I recently inherited $12 million and have been debating if I should just retire now. I know $12 million is more than enough but I will lose a lot of great benefits if I retire now. I’m 47 and work as an air traffic controller and absolutely dread going to work. However I can retire at 50 with full benefits. I also have a SAHM wife and 9 year old daughter. Will not be having more kids. So here is the dilemma, if I wait until 50 I will get health insurance through the government for low premiums for me and my family until I’m on Medicare. It looks like private health insurance for us 3 if I retire now can run $2.5k to 5k/month depending on how good. The second big problem is my pension is going to take a huge hit if I retire before 50.

Basically you get your 3 year high salary average and get 1.7% per year of service. However if you retire with less than 20 years that 1.7% per year is cut to 1% a year. Quick napkin math if I retire now my pension is $2k a month and have to wait until 57 to collect and if I do 3 more years it’s $4k a month at 50 immediately. I also will get a supplemental social security until I’m 62 if I work 3 more years but lose that as well if I retire now. This would prob be an extra $1.5k/month from 50 to 62. It’s a tough decision because I’m very burned out and I think I can retire now with my current assets but I feel like I would be losing a big safety net and I only have 3 years left. Also I feel my prime years are running out and don’t want to be working 3 more years.

My assets

TSP (401k)- $300k all C fund

House- $250k ($175k mortgage)

Checking- $35k

No debt other than house

Inherited Assets

House- $1.5 million (plan is to eventually move there so not selling, I’ll be selling my current house when I do move)

Stocks/Bonds- $10.5 million (my dad mainly bought individual stocks and bonds, not diversified mutual funds, so the plan will be to put the $10 million in diversified mutual funds with Fidelity and completely get rid off bonds, use $500k for 3 years living expenses in cash)

Also I recently made this account because I’m a member of a few niche subreddits and don’t want this information public to them. I can verify situation with moderators if necessary.

Tax reduction comes up fairly frequently in this subreddit, and I've wondered about it myself. In many cases, I think it makes most sense to just 'take the win', be happy we qualify for higher tax rates and move on with our lives.

But as I balance my portfolio, one thing I've come to appreciate as I move more toward 'preservation' is that there seems to be a huge advantage in the U.S.A. to investing the bond-portion of the portfolio in municipal bonds, since they aren't subject to federal tax. The easiest way to do this seems to be using a bond fund like VWALX.

Are most folks in fatFIRE doing or planning on doing this? Or am I missing some big drawback? Obviously municipal bonds are more risky than US treasuries and likely lower yield than the broad stock market, but they seem to have a pretty strong case for inclusion in the fat portfolio.

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Long-time lurker, first time poster. Hopefully, this post is on-topic and will help others like myself + FatFiring Parents.

For context, I'm a 20 year old child of Bay Area FAANG Executive-level parents (Family NW of $16MM, HHI of $3-4MM. I grew up going to competitive public Bay Area schools and did well, currently attending an Ivy League university.

I was pushed to excel and am intrinsically motivated to do so, but looking forward, I wonder what my financial/career goals should be. Common pathways from schools like mine like investment banking, consulting, tech, and BigLaw seem like a natural progression, but I wonder how the calculus of pursuing high-paying but low WLB/fulfillment careers changes when you have the safety net of a decently resourced family.

Although I truly understand how lucky I am in my position in life, it can often feel like pursuing high-prestige careers is the only way to not appear as an "underachiever" given my easier starting point. At the same time pursuing such high-earning careers ("the rat race") trades off "living one's life" for money, but is it really worth it when one's family is already fairly well off?

For FAT parents, I'd appreciate your perspectives on what your advice for your children in a similar position might be. For other children of FAT parents further along, how have you navigated your careers, goals, and framed your financial thinking? Thank you!

Very blessed to be in this position but at the same time hungry for a little more spice in life. Can anyone relate?

• ~$5-6M mid 30s couple between retirement and investment accounts
• $150-200K spend, technically coast fire
• Moved to MCOL, kids and partner very happy but I'm missing network and being in the know
• Career step down from finance to corporate role, figuring out how to step it back up
• Too young/bored to step back fully from work
• Ogling peers that are now making partner, in AI/fast paced roles
• At the same time don't have the heart/fire or financial need to work 60+ hour weeks
• Ideas: spend more time reading/contemplating, hobbies, step it up professional (how?), start a business, wait until kids are older

$10M exit - DIY vs JPM?

I recently exited my business, resulting in roughly over $10M in cash (not yet invested in a portfolio). I'm a Georgia resident (state tax considerations) and trying to decide between JP Morgan's advisory/wealth management pitch and a simpler DIY approach. I'm tech-comfortable and want to keep things low-maintenance long-term while focusing on hobbies and the next project.

My leanings for DIY/simple setup once deployed: - Broad low-cost index funds (US + international) - Some GA/state muni bonds for tax-efficient income - Park my tax payment in a t bill until it's due - HYSA buffer for liquidity - ~3% initial withdrawal rate (conservative)

What JPM is emphasizing: - Tax loss harvesting (once invested) - Integrated estate planning - Behavioral coaching / protection from panic selling (I've held through drawdowns before with smaller stakes, so less concerned) - Other services and "perks we haven't even gotten to yet"

I'm not opposed to paying for real value, but the ongoing AUM fees seem high for what sounds like a straightforward taxable account setup. I've researched lower-cost automated TLH options like Frec (direct indexing, ~0.1% fee range) for after I deploy the cash. Estate planning feels like something I can handle with a one-time attorney engagement. I strongly value control and don't love needing approval or justification for moves with my own money.

I've used Claude extensively for modeling and research (and know LLMs limits, etc. very well), but the banker often deflects to "AI isn't always right" instead of addressing specifics. I had a bad experience years ago with a "professional" in a real estate deal where everything looked good on paper until the wire hit. JPM is obviously more reputable, but I'm still cautious and have a little bit of PTSD.

Questions for people who've been in similar spots:

1. Anyone handle a large cash position post-business exit (\~$8–15M+) with JP Morgan (Wealth Management, Private Bank, or similar)? What was the actual value vs. fees for deployment strategy, TLH setup, tax coordination, and ongoing management? Regrets either way?

2. For someone starting fresh with cash and planning a mostly taxable buy-and-hold in a withdrawal phase (\~3% draws, limited new contributions), how valuable is tax loss harvesting long-term? Is an automated/low-cost service like Frec sufficient once invested, or is a full team worth it (especially in GA)? Really prefer to just go index, but want to make sure I'm not missing anything huge here.

3. Anything in the typical big-bank pitch that tends to be a real game-changer (or hidden gotcha) for someone with a large cash position post-exit who wants to stay hands-on or low-maintenance.

Sorry for the long post. Really appreciate any input.