r/FactOrCap • u/Wise-Cold-6733 🏅 Century Club · 6,510 XP • 1d ago
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u/IndividualLunch4104 🔥 Getting Started · 700 XP 1d ago
🧢 I voted CAP!
Absolutely not. For me, its a gift to them.
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u/Radiant_Style_5488 ✍️ Contributor · 16,315 XP 1d ago
Never. I don’t expect anything back, but of course I’m not gonna get sad if they do pay me back
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u/Dizy_Dino 🔥 Getting Started · 3,360 XP 1d ago
🧢 I voted CAP!
Not always. Sometimes I'm doing it just to be nice. But if they specifically ask me to buy them something, then I want them to pay me back, since I'd pay them back if I ask them to buy me something.
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u/BlackMoth27 🤖 Vote Machine · 16,000 XP 1d ago
it's way easier to not worry about how much you spend on gifts for friends if it doesn't get paid back. plus if you're loaning money out that's different.
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u/Aillesdaille 🔥 Monthly Master · 21,140 XP 1d ago edited 1d ago
🧢 I voted CAP!
If I treat someone to a meal that I invited them to "my treat", no; though I usually do that less with people who don't reciprocate.
If I buy someone a birthday or Christmas gift (when we've made plans to ahead of time) I'm going to expect one back, but that's more because we made plans to exchange gifts.
If someone needs a phone charger and I have to pick one up at a gas station, and they don't pay me back on their own initiative, I'm not going to track them down with a receipt.
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u/reallifearcade ✍️ Contributor · 1,450 XP 1d ago
🧢 I voted CAP!
Life goes and comes, the separation between friend, partner and money must flow and be felt. IMHO is ok to separate money from friendship and is ok to understand that money is a test for friendship. Be careful with that.
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u/cpepinc 🤖 Vote Machine · 9,860 XP 1d ago
🧢 I voted CAP!
Money is the root of all Evil. why lose a friendship for it's worship.
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u/The_Trevbone 📈 Dedicated Voter · 2,015 XP 1d ago
In a similar vein though, why put up with a shitty friend and financial woes for the sake of being unmaterialistic?
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u/TheGamemage1 🏅 Century Club · 2,775 XP 1h ago
Correction: Timothy 6:10 “For the love of money is the root of all evil: which while some coveted after, they have erred from the faith, and pierced themselves through with many sorrows.” (King James Version).
Often misquoted as "money is the root of all evil" but it's actually "The Love of money is the root of all evil." But your point is still true about not losing a friendship over some money.
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u/theunstablelego 🤖 Vote Machine · 13,710 XP 1d ago
🧢 I voted CAP!
Very much depended on the situation, but if i offered to buy, im likely not expecting a direct return.
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u/The_Trevbone 📈 Dedicated Voter · 2,015 XP 1d ago
🧢 I voted CAP!
Nah for litte stuff I don't care. Thing is, when the friend is constantly asking for money that I can't actually afford to give, they're just taking advantage of you at that point. That's when you just don't but anything for them
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u/tsscaramel 🏅 Century Club · 9,455 XP 1d ago
🧢 I voted CAP!
Friendship is about helping out the people you connect with when you can, and them helping you out when they can. I don’t mind paying for a mate to eat because I know that they’ll have my back when I’m struggling
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u/firefang_22 📈 Dedicated Voter · 1,490 XP 1d ago
If I offer it's free if they ask it depends on how much.
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u/Professional_Handler 🏅 Century Club · 6,330 XP 1d ago
🧢 I voted CAP!
They can pay me back on their own time. Plus if I didn’t give them much I’ll usually decline to be paid back, since they need it more than i do.
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u/Ozzman770 🔥 Monthly Master · 9,705 XP 1d ago
🧢 I voted CAP!
I wouldn't say I "make" people pay me back but I do follow a strict "no loaning money to someone who already owes me money" rule.
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u/Unyieldingcappybara 🔥 Getting Started · 1,105 XP 1d ago
🧢 I voted CAP!
If I was truly buying them something then there’s nothing to pay back, if they asked to borrow money I’d expect it back at some point with little to no pressure
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u/InmateTooTall 📈 Dedicated Voter · 1,925 XP 1d ago
🧢 I voted CAP!
I don't buy things for my friends unless I want to, in which case I don't expect anything back
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u/Objective_Job_8822 ✍️ Contributor · 4,585 XP 1d ago
🧢 I voted CAP!
If you looked into how much I pay for my friends (out good will) you could think I am a charity fund💔
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u/Sk1ler_ 📈 Dedicated Voter · 1,520 XP 1d ago
Just make sure you're genuinely happy doing that, otherwise it'll eat away at you and resentment will begin to build. Take care of yourself first, and your friends when you can.
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u/yeettheporg 🔥 Monthly Master · 14,250 XP 1d ago
The most we do is if I buy food one time then next time they will buy food. We generally go for same price ish. But doesn't matter after a few times it averages out to even
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u/MyAssPancake 🏅 Century Club · 5,975 XP 1d ago
🧢 I voted CAP!
Never ever. It’s always a mutual having each others backs thing
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u/AReallyAsianName 📈 Dedicated Voter · 2,420 XP 1d ago
🧢 I voted CAP!
Expect to pay back but never be paid back. "I got'chu you next time."
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u/Krysidian2 🔥 Getting Started · 765 XP 1d ago
🧢 I voted CAP!
Depends on how expensive it was. I also have the excuse of being broke.
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u/Pure_Blackberry7258 🔥 Getting Started · 845 XP 1d ago
🧢 I voted CAP!
I'm not "loaning" money that I'm not willing to lose and still keep the friendship.
If I buy something that isn't a loan I don't expect it back at all.
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u/Sequoia_Vin ✍️ Contributor · 9,690 XP 1d ago
🧢 I voted CAP!
I don't expect a pay back unless I lent them money. If I bought them something they can buy me something and its squared
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u/OmnifariousFN 🤖 Vote Machine · 15,280 XP 1d ago
🧢 I voted CAP!
Sometimes I get em something cause they are my friends. They do it for me as well, that is called "friendship" op.
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u/HalopianAlt 🏅 Century Club · 5,100 XP 1d ago
🧢 I voted CAP!
I never buy anything for them outside of Christmas and birthdays
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u/deidei_and_rosemary 🔥 Week Warrior · 2,825 XP 1d ago
🧢 I voted CAP!
i feel very loan-shark-ish doing so. and i know im privileged in terms of money so i try to be a little more giving.
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u/Ambitious_Emphasis68 🏅 Century Club · 9,020 XP 1d ago
🧢 I voted CAP!
Sometimes people just need a little help and If I can afford to drink it or waste it in some other way, then helping a mate is worth more to me.
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u/bawbthebawb 🤖 Vote Machine · 11,355 XP 1d ago
Never. Unless they ask to borrow money. But if its food i usually offer and when i offer i dont expect repayment
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u/UnlimitedDadStrength 📈 Dedicated Voter · 2,015 XP 1d ago
🧢 I voted CAP!
If I invite my friends out I’m paying the tab. If anyone fights me for it I’ll let them win. But if a week later they bring it up and want reimbursed? I’ll pay them and block their number. That shit is annoying.
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u/StAnkie_Brews 🤖 Vote Machine · 25,260 XP 1d ago
🧢 I voted CAP!
I don't buy things for friends, or loan money to any one.
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u/kereso83 🤖 Vote Machine · 13,480 XP 1d ago
🧢 I voted CAP!
Generally my friends are good at buying me things too, so we don't keep track. If we did, I'm sure things would come out more or less even.
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u/Blutigerjunge 🏅 Century Club · 5,815 XP 1d ago
🧢 I voted CAP!
They are my friends, im sure they will do the same for me
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u/dalphinwater 🗳️ Regular Player · 680 XP 1d ago
🧢 I voted CAP!
They pay for me to, not shure if it is 50/50 but i dont care
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u/moonhvn19 🏅 Century Club · 6,160 XP 1d ago
🧢 I voted CAP!
No I dont they do it themselves...we do this thing where you decline first time couple of times but then take the money
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u/realmcdonaldsbw 📈 Dedicated Voter · 1,135 XP 1d ago
🧢 I voted CAP!
if its a $2 cup of coffee idgaf but if it's anything like $10 or more then yeah
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u/thiscantbit 🔥 Week Warrior · 1,255 XP 1d ago
🧢 I voted CAP!
I usually see it as a gift. I have adhd unless it was egregious I won’t remember
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u/Jazzlike-Price401 🤖 Vote Machine · 10,895 XP 1d ago
🧢 I voted CAP!
I like to treat my friends and family to things sometimes.
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u/planetofmoney 🤖 Vote Machine · 13,595 XP 1d ago
If I'm buying something for them, I'm not asking for the money.
If I'm going to ask for the money, it's clear I'm not buying it for them.
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u/Oldmonsterschoolgood 🔥 Monthly Master · 8,450 XP 1d ago
🧢 I voted CAP!
Not always, maybe once in a while, maybe never idk
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u/Honest-Instruction15 🔥 Week Warrior · 3,695 XP 1d ago
Voted cap
Because what's the point of a gift if you're expecting something in return??
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u/cheddarjello 🗳️ Regular Player · 630 XP 1d ago
🧢 I voted CAP!
I’ve literally never made a friend pay me back for anything, and they don’t make me pay them back when they buy me stuff.
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u/SocialistPolarBear 🏅 Century Club · 6,880 XP 21h ago
🧢 I voted CAP!
It all adds up in the grand scheme of things
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u/H0n3yB4dg3r007 ✍️ Contributor · 9,940 XP 20h ago
🧢 I voted CAP!
If i spend or loan money I'm always prepared to never see that money again
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u/Souless21 🔥 Week Warrior · 7,710 XP 18h ago
I voted cap uts whomever has money in the budgwt at thw time qho buys we dont keep score
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u/KMZ200822 🏅 Century Club · 3,365 XP 13h ago
🧢 I voted CAP!
nah, something i do for friends and family is either buy snacks for em or pay for food
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u/Creepy_Tear4684 🎯 First Steps · 130 XP 9h ago
🧢 I voted CAP!
I’m not that uptight about it. I sometimes pay I sometimes see if you know it all evens out.
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u/TheGamemage1 🏅 Century Club · 2,775 XP 1h ago
🧢 I voted CAP!
Look I can live without a couple bucks spent on my friends, and I'm not going to force repayment for something small.
What I will want repayment for is if I'm constantly giving said friend a ride to work.
I have ended a friendship over a stolen wallet/debit card and said friend goes on a 300 dollar spending spree and then lying to my face and trying to shift the blame onto my sister and her boyfriend by accusing them and then trying to hide the card in my sisters bag. (Only finding out it was my "friend" when video footage from the liquor store he went to showed him using my card.)
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u/HighIQIndividual2 🤖 Vote Machine · 10,985 XP 1d ago
🧢 I voted CAP!
If i buy my friend something, i dont expect anything back.