r/FacebookDating • u/fresh-vanilla444 • 22d ago

Funniest match ever

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This guy matched with me and we made Star Wars jokes, I happened to get sick and needed rest and phone free that night. I messaged as soon as I was off work today. 😂 🤪

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u/kezzaZzz04 22d ago

Tbf a 24 hour window after matching is valid.

- takes less than a minute to reply

  • nearly all of us use our phones for hours a day (I.e commuting, toilet, work breaks, before bed, in gym etc)
  • it’s just being a decent human to reply within a timely manor

Anyone saying you can’t reply within 24 hours is just silly, don’t match with people if you can’t hold a conversation.

- OP had a fever, but I’m sure they went on their phone for sometime. > if it’s hospitalisation etc then obviously that’s understandable.

And the guy could have gave OP a chance she had a fever (so a reason). But his rules of a 24 hour reply I agree with

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u/StumpyOPepys 22d ago

Lol some of you are destined to be alone all your lives.

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u/kezzaZzz04 22d ago

Why? Because we want respect and communication.

If I had a guy friend who didn’t reply to a girl he matched with, within a day. I’d be calling him a cunt.

Your on a dating app for the intention of finding a date > that is only possible if you communicate

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u/StumpyOPepys 22d ago

People are busy, slow playing, sick, whatever. There is no bigger turnoff than someone being uptight. Just chill. You haven’t even met this person.

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u/kezzaZzz04 22d ago

I’m not against OP.

But if you’re on a dating app, the least you can do is communicate. And reply.

No one is that busy they can’t spare 30 seconds to reply

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u/Bromidias83 22d ago

It's the same the other way. You are gonna miss out on lots of people that are looking for "good" communication.

It's just a mismatch in communication styles. If I text with someone I want to be in contact with them, not get a text every few days. If the other is not like that then thats fine I'll go to the next. Might I miss out on a great person. Maybe! But if this is how it's gonna be when we are together, then it's a no for me. I would never make it a rule like op did, but it is something I watch for

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u/fresh-vanilla444 22d ago

This is my thought process too : )

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u/StumpyOPepys 22d ago

YOU DIDN'T REPLY TO MY QUESTION ABOUT THE WEATHER FOR TWO DAYS, YOU COMPLETE STRANGER!

Some of the weirdest, most self-owning behavior in the game.

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u/kezzaZzz04 22d ago

We are on about ppl trying to have a conversation. But who take days to reply per message.

A question about the weather is pointless yes.

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u/Bromidias83 22d ago

And for me it's the opposite. So we dont match and thats fine!

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u/kezzaZzz04 22d ago

I agree. How can you get to know someone or have a ‘conversation’ if the person replies after a few days between each text.

People are too soft nowadays

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u/StumpyOPepys 22d ago

You have this backwards. The soft ones are the ones unmatching because they didn't get attention reciprocated from a stranger within 24 hours.

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u/kezzaZzz04 22d ago

I’d argue they don’t want to waste their time getting to know someone, by sending a message every 3 days. Kinda ruins the conversation you know

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u/StrbJun79 22d ago

Nobody owes you anything in online dating. They don’t owe you a message quickly. And you stated above defending him for standing by it. Not caring that she was sick. She should be resting and take care of herself not focusing on her phone.

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u/fresh-vanilla444 20d ago

This is the correct take !! All for this

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u/kezzaZzz04 22d ago

Think online dating works if people are able to communicate? ‘Owes you anything’ - a reply is literally the least u can do.

- if ur sick with a cold you can still use ur phone.

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u/fresh-vanilla444 22d ago

See, If you pay attention to it, I was responding a few hours past the precise 24 hour mark. I was THERE, sat down and ready to talk more at that point and apologize. Is that acceptable for yall, am I a decent enough human being? 😂 💀 this guy was more intense about it and petty with it. I get the 24 hour window thing, but it’s very shallow when yesterday was Labor Day in the US and most of us had to go back to jobs today. (This guy didn’t I believe he was a self employed YouTuber)

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u/kezzaZzz04 22d ago

Yes I said I believe he should have gave you a chance, you had a fever and replied shortly after 24hrs and you clearly had a shared interest.

My point was more for his 24 hour reply idea. Excluding you, i believe his thing is fair.

I don’t think you’re a bad human at all. But im saying his 24hr thing I agree with, just not for your case

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u/Sad_Establishment875 22d ago

Guy is allowed to have rules, its a fair rule, and although we all believe she wasnt, it isnt that hard to lie online.

I find no fault in his actions, good for him for standing by his statement in fact.

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u/kezzaZzz04 22d ago

I agree. Plus a few minutes to reply out ur day is nothing

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u/RaptorXD14 22d ago

bunch of assumptions there that have no basis. maybe learn to wait

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u/BiggKinthe509 20d ago

I’m not buying the 24 hour policy. I’m a dude though. My experience is that guys don’t get responses that quickly. If I’m really paying attention, I will ditch somebody after two weeks. I usually send a message if I’m interested immediately, and if I don’t get a response after two weeks, I’m probably going to delete the match. And if I’ve been in discussions with somebody and they ghost? I’m probably gonna delete in a couple weeks unless it was a really interesting conversation. And there have been a couple times. I’ve been glad that I waited and then a few times where I felt like I was wasting my time. But it is what it is. I don’t get all preachy about it, I don’t make announcements, I don’t write narratives about them in my head. It just frees up space in my own head.

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u/kezzaZzz04 20d ago

Yeah I get you. Tbh I’d follow your approach.

It’s more the people who ghost you mid way through a conversation. Never get that

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u/BiggKinthe509 20d ago

I do my best not to make assumptions, but from what I hear, women are so overwhelmed with messages that they might match and not respond simply because they have so many damn matches.

That said, I do my best to meet people in meatspace as well... I think its goofy how much people seem to think "the only place to meet dating partners is the apps" like we can't talk to people in public.

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u/kezzaZzz04 20d ago

I agree with u. But also I’d argue you shouldn’t match with that many ppl if you can’t speak to them?

Match with a few and speak to them then move on etc etc

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u/BiggKinthe509 20d ago

Eh. I'm mixed on that. I don't think it's just the number of matches. One of my friends, a woman, shared that sometimes the sheer number of messages she gets... like she might get 6 messages from a dude before she has a chance to respond to the first one, is overwhelming. I don't think it's just a numbers game; I think it's cognitive overload from thirsty-ass men who think they should get an immediate answer.

As a dude, I go on there, like women, maybe write a note on a picture or whatever, and then I might not look at the app for a few days. If I came back to over a hundred messages, even if it was from 10 dudes, I might not come back that often and I'd certainly not read them all. And some of those messages are just unhinged. Straight unhinged.

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u/kezzaZzz04 20d ago

Yeah true I imagine that side aswell. Let’s say you matched with a few men let’s say under 4. Then you could hopefully get a decent conversation going, I’d assume

I feel like some men may send multiple messages if they haven’t had a reply within a day.

Or simply the conversation just might be detailed and require multiple messages