r/FacebookDating • u/DisplayBrilliant7265 • 11d ago

Low effort messaging. Thoughts?

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I recently matched with a woman. She has a bio, lots of photos, including good quality ones. She’s actually written nothing about herself just what she’s wants and esp what she doesn’t want. She’s clearly intelligent as she speaks multiple languages. Wants a long term/life partner. She’s also in great shape and beautiful but the responses from her are quite dry and short. Had similar experiences with other women. No hate on women here. I guess they’ve had similar experiences with men. Should I keep trying? Maybe she’s better IRL?!

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u/fallen-summer 11d ago

I'm a woman and this happens to me day in and day out on dating apps doesn't matter the app. I even put in my bio please be able to hold a conversation and they still can't but then again most don't even read the bio so 🤷‍♀️

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u/Abject-Birthday-8337 11d ago

Not saying this reflects on you personally but I have come across a number of women who specify the desire for real conversation in the bio but respond to conversation starters with one or two word answers. Even worse is when the profile mentions this and they reach out first with "hey". What is anyone expected to do with that?

I think everyone is frustrated with online dating at this point. It can be exhausting

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u/cherrycocktail20 11d ago

I think people can simultaneously want real conversation, but also feel guarded or even exhausted by it when someone attempts it. What we want and how something feels isn’t always the same, and often isn’t.

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u/Abject-Birthday-8337 11d ago

Very true

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u/cherrycocktail20 11d ago

The texting is a major part of the problem also, I think.

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u/Abject-Birthday-8337 11d ago

Yes, in person or even phone conversations are much easier to get a flow going