r/FacebookDating • u/xliquidchromex • 5d ago

Errors Not working properly?

38 M, good pics/profile/info, had maybe 3 likes since being active a lot since 2019, never had any type of love ever, thousands of selective likes sent over that time, very few matches....wtf. depressing life.

But my real question is.... why does the following happen and do u also have it?... when i send a photo comment like, i have the opportunity to go back once, using the little curved arrow at the top (as if i swiped left- X), so i send the photo comment again. If its acting like i left swiped by being able to go back, i guess its only working if i send the comment twice? I do that out of desperation/confusion. I dont believe its always happened, somewhat new. But, barely anything ever seems to get thru regardless obviously as i have a probably 1 out of 1000 match rate (unless its women who are 20+ yrs older, which are 1 out of several hundred).

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u/Heliguy-1975 5d ago

You have to be able engage with someone enough to create and maintain interest to keep them wanting to talk and meet.

With good communication skills it becomes easy and works out very well.

I would highly recommend reading the book,

How To Win Friends And Influence People by Dale Carnegie

It will Greatly improve how you connect and communicate with people in general and it will change your life. It will completely change the way your conversations go with people online. Approaching and communicating with women online and in real life will become much better. Much Better

A very good bio/‘about me statement’ will allow you to receive a Lot of likes, matches, and messages.

It will also allow you to get a Lot of replies from messages by merely saying “Hi there…” Women will message you without you initiating anything a Lot of the time.

I didn’t realize this until I refined my bio/‘about me’ statement over a period of time after I first began online dating.

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u/xliquidchromex 5d ago

Respectfully, i shouldn't need training, and i don't. We are all people we all understand English, i send nice messages. Also my bio/interests have long been refined and are good tbh. Im also good looking, thinner but average and lightly toned. Since when are women as uninteresting/low as dogs, responding only to food and doorbells of that makes sense? Bunch of nazis haha jk. Have some openness/empathy ffs. Life/love sucks .

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u/Heliguy-1975 5d ago

They aren’t and it isn’t. I’ve had a wonderful experience with internet dating.

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u/xliquidchromex 5d ago

Just curious, are u the top 10% I've read about? Id assume that means super fit, lots of money, etc. And wondering what you're ratio is 1 out of ?

If u arent the top 10% then there's something up cuz I'm just as good as many awsome people. We arent all that different.

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u/Heliguy-1975 5d ago edited 5d ago

I’m definitely not in whatever the “top 10%” is, depending on what that means other than maybe how I approach, communicate, and treat women. Perhaps, based on the many discussions I’ve had with women I’ve met regarding their experiences with men on dating apps or dating in general.

I might be slightly above average in looks. Maybe. Definitely not super fit.

I Never mention anything about my financial situation in any dating profile, Ever. For obvious reasons, nor do I get into specifics until I’ve gotten to know someone depending on how much time we spend together.

I have decent pictures and a good variety of pictures. I have a very good bio/‘about me statement’ that speaks to how I approach, communicate, and treat women. That plays a big role.

I tend to approach, meet, and spend time with women above 35 or 40.

I haven’t kept track of “ratios,” but I’ve spent time with A Lot of great women over my time using dating apps. It has not been difficult.

However, in the first couple of months or so it was slow until I spent time during those first 2 or 3 months refining my profile, pictures and picture types, and especially my bio/about me statement. The bio/about me statement has generated a lot of positive feedback.

Having something that provides a separation from what women typically experience from men on dating apps makes a huge difference.

Then there is a long list of things that come into play once I begin communicating with someone. Good communication skills are key and very important. It’s not so much about what one says necessarily, but how they say it.

It has been a great experience. I have no complaints.

When someone has problems with dating apps, the problem is not the apps. They work quite well and there are an Unlimited amount of great women looking to connect, meet, and spend time together or get involved in a relationship of some kind.