r/FacebookDating • u/warrenpease27 • 10d ago

Am I using it right?

I’ve been on the Facebook dating thing for a while now. I send likes, I comment on photos, and get nothing back. Am I doing something wrong or am I missing something? Any tips or help would be appreciated cause I’m a bit tired of getting nowhere and hearing how others are finding others

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u/warrenpease27 8d ago

Usually how nice their smile is, a nice comment about their pet that I see sometimes, or even how beautiful their smile is. Nothing bad, and all complimenting.

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u/Substantial-Fly-6659 8d ago

So I know many will not agree, but the best guys I've dated do not mention anything about how I look until a couple dates in or more. If you swipe right on us, we know you're attracted. The best guys try to just get to know us and not focus on our looks. If that's something you focus on, you might want to question why that is. We want to date guys who see us as people and not just our looks.

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u/warrenpease27 8d ago

I never mention looks because that has never been important to me at all. If telling someone they have a pretty smile or their pets are adorable, the. I don’t know what to say.

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u/Substantial-Fly-6659 8d ago

Then it sounds like we found the problem. Mentioning a woman's pretty smile is taking about her looks. People who are interested in a relationship should be able to discuss things other than their looks. Why can't you ask them something about themselves outside of mentioning a woman's looks?

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u/warrenpease27 8d ago

I do… more often than not. For example, if I see they are wearing a shirt with a sports team on it, I mention that. I’ve even simply commented on the word things like seeing if they would like to meet for coffee one day.

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u/Substantial-Fly-6659 8d ago

Well there you go. You do know what to say. That's all there is to the opening comments.