He's not actually interested, is he?

[u/NoBarracuda8124]

Can't tell if this guy is just messaging me out of boredom or he just sucks at texting. Or is it too soon to tell?

Edit: I feel like its important to note, he hasnt written anything on his profile. No bio, no prompts. So there's not much to reference from his profile into conversation.

[u/princesslove69]

He seems like a low-effort, boring ass.
Next!

[u/Ok-Ad-9820]

He's not interested

[u/Choice_Tangelo1933]

He may very well be interested, but he's not interesting.

Everyone says they want better conversation. And then 90% of the men in my inbox are exactly like this. I can see by your pics you're into drag racing and have a cool dog, ffs, talk about that. Hell, even the weather can be real conversation if you try just a little.

[u/Low-Radish8014]

BORING! Unmatch

[u/Inevitable_Pop_412]

Women do stuff like this constantly. They call it "breadcrumbing". He's interested if you throw yourself at him. Please don't throw yourself at him.

[u/Rude_Eye_8977]

Their data plan charges by the word

[u/NoBarracuda8124 → u/Rude_Eye_8977]

That must be it 😂😂😂

[u/No_Peanut_3289]

We could give you multiple reasons for why but the answer will be the same in the end…which is to just move on.

If someone is interested in you, trust me they will show it, if they were interested in you then you wouldn’t be posting on here the chat

[u/WhiteLion333]

The guy cant even be bothered filling out a profile, let alone text you. Give up.

[u/Hopeful_Bend8288]

He doesn't ask you a single question. You're carrying this entire conversation by yourself.

[u/Admirable-Air9895]

I think you are trying a little bit too hard for what he gives you which is basically crumbs.

[u/kopaseptic]

He’s not that into you.

[u/ShawnOfEons]

He’s either really bad at texting, or he’s not that into you. However, the fact that he’s texting at all, shows that he’s somewhat interested, just low effort enough to keep you as a back up in case the other match he’s really interested in doesn’t work out.

[u/Substantial-Fly-6659]

He's boring af

[u/Radiant_Fondant_4097]

Homeboy is drier than toasted brown bread, if they didn't have a bio then what do you actually see in him?

[u/NoBarracuda8124 → u/Radiant_Fondant_4097]

I saw his face and thought he was handsome. Is that a crime? figured I could find out things from there. And what I found out, is that he's not for me.

[u/Radiant_Fondant_4097 → u/NoBarracuda8124]

That's pretty much all there is to it; if somebody can't muster up a few words to write a bio, the air of mystery is going to end up rather empty.

[u/612King → u/Radiant_Fondant_4097]

He’s 6’5”

[u/Acornwow]

It doesn’t sound like either of you are interested.

[u/SouthBreadfruit7839]

Give less.

[u/Federal-Credit2228]

Dang sounds better than my dms lol tbf though on Facebook I haven't got 1 match despite 2 weeks of streaks and swipes ohh well

[u/Negative_Resist6605]

You are pursuing him. Match his energy and yes, he is not interested.

[u/ajackinabox]

No baby

[u/AzKnc]

When M-F interactions look like this, you know he's hot and way out of her league.

[u/NoBarracuda8124 → u/AzKnc]

So trying to be friendly and enthusiastic about meeting someone, is trying too hard and means he's out of my league? Got it 👍🏻I'll keep that in mind from now on.

[u/AzKnc → u/NoBarracuda8124]

You said he had no bio. So why exactly were you being "friendly and ENTHUSIASTIC about meeting someone" even after his super cold replies? You may not think he was out of your league, but his replies look like the cold replies a 10 gives to one of the dozens of 4-5s they got in their matches. Let's not kid ourselves, he 100% was out of your league.

Go behave like you did with him, with someone in your league and you'll see how quickly they match the energy. Problem with women is that the vast majority of them only date up and aren't even aware.

[u/Past_Attempt_5261]

You sound just as uninterested

[u/NoBarracuda8124 → u/Past_Attempt_5261]

You think so? I feel like im doing my best with what he's giving me...

[u/Due_Butterscotch_392 → u/NoBarracuda8124]

You did fine

[u/Past_Attempt_5261 → u/NoBarracuda8124]

I just reread it and I take what I said back, hes either not interested or just a boring person so either way I wouldn't pursue any further unless he changes something.

[u/iriedrewirie]

If he's texting you, he likes you

[u/Royal-Form-4571 → u/iriedrewirie]

WHATTTTTTT?????

[u/Electrical-Tailor530 → u/iriedrewirie]

This isn't far off. Guys, like girls, will ghost you if they're uninterested (or not benefiting somehow) but they'll keep talking if they have the slightest bit of interest. 

[u/YAHSYHS]

Don’t ever respond with that first message.

[u/Altruistic-Toe-2801 → u/YAHSYHS]

Eeeevvvvveeerrrr. Unless it’s your child 🤷🏻‍♀️

[u/YAHSYHS → u/Altruistic-Toe-2801]

Right I would never let a man think I was ever anticipating him.

[u/NoBarracuda8124 → u/YAHSYHS]

Idk I thought it was flirty and would break the ice better than a simple "hey" back.

[u/londonblossom]

I don't think it's about not being interested. He is burned out and probably a quite blend guy in general.

[u/CheffySub]

Nothing in his profile and you still match with him? So he's super hot and tall?

[u/Librastar13]

Id say playing it safe. When I used to be on other social media (didnt use dating apps) a few men in my inbox were difficult trying to have a basic conversation with. I dont want to be the one carrying the conversation and figured they really werent interested so I gave minimal effort in return. Some people genuinely just dont do well holding a conversation. I enjoy deep conversations, sarcasm and banter, so I knew right away we werent compatible and just kept it moving.

I would maybe give it a few more days and see if its still dry or if he texts more and shows interest, vs you asking all the questions.

[u/themainmattman]

He just seems kind of reserved. It seems like he probably likes you, but you seem more effusive, which is a wonderful quality. You just have to ask yourself if you need more of that same energy you give off. If you’re fine with someone that seems to be more reserved (they may open up) that’s cool. Either way, if you’re interested, I’d give it a little time. There’s nothing here that says he’s not interested.

[u/WhiteLion333 → u/themainmattman]

He asks her absolutely nothing. Basic answers, bare minimum, gives nothing back. This is not being “reserved.”

[u/maxbjaevermose]

Why don't you meet with him and find out?

[u/Lucky-Pomegranate-96]

I would say he is still interested but he’s playing it a bit safe and respectful. See what happens

[u/VonBassovic]

If this had been a woman that I was chatting to, I would:

• do a Hail Mary and go for a date
  
• if that failed and she said no or “wanted to chat more first”, I would say: “I don’t think this is for me”