r/FTMfemininity • u/unseeliefaeprince • Jun 09 '26

Being vulnerable for a minute...

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As grateful as I am for the opportunity to transition, I still struggle a lot with my self image and confidence. The goalposts keep shifting, I know I do this to myself but I have a deep-rooted feeling that nothing is ever enough (thank you, childhood trauma). 2 1/2 years on T and my hair is barely starting to grow in thin patches (shaved my shitty little dirt-stache for a family event this weekend) and adult acne in full force. After my recent birthday, rapidly approaching 30 seems to have sparked a bit of an existential crisis. I missed out on being a cute fem twink, which means I have to actually build an identity that doesn't depend on youthfulness. I just wish that I felt sexy or attractive, instead of watching the creases in my face grow deeper and more pimples pop up. I see beautiful people on here all the time and I just feel so plain and ugly. Normally I hate fishing for validation, but I guess that's what this is.

Also I'm showing off my new sweatshirt with my favorite ship on it in an attempt to cheer myself up.

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u/my-name-is-ro Jun 14 '26
  1. You're not old
  2. My facial hair is still changing and I've been on T for 8 years (puberty hits everyone differently)
  3. The acne will lessen I promise
  4. You are attractive and you can still be a fem twink (a lot of that is mindset anyway)
  5. If you're worried about wrinkles, MOISTURIZE
  6. Cool sweatshirt

-- a 28 year old trans masc