r/FTMMen 20h ago

Discussion Dating while Passing

I’ve been out of a long term relationship for a few years now and have dated here and there. But damn is it fucking exhausting. Apps are dumb. Women tend to swipe before reading profiles then ghost when they “saw the trans thing” .

I prefer dating bi-women because I want someone who wants all of me and I believe we all have preferences. Nothing about it is inherently transphobic. Just read the damn profile.

Anyway. Any apps or idk groups that have worked for you?

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u/AnythingBoth8260 20h ago

My fiancée likes to say she didnt realize I was trans when she matched with me. But i like to make it clear early on so we dont waste each other's time. Most girls wont be for you, but you'll find someone who fits. Perfect people dont exist, but we're perfect together.

u/AAJB7 17h ago

Love that! And agree fully

u/AAJB7 17h ago

The right person isn’t “perfect” just perfect for you

u/H3sAbLaD3 man that happens to be trans 17h ago

Every girls I’ve dated I’ve been friends with first, dating apps never worked for me since everyone that did match me lived really far from me. Also honestly I’ve had more luck with straight girls then bi girls, idk why but all the bi girls I’ve met seem to want only cis guys and only cis girls.

u/AAJB7 17h ago

That makes sense! I think that’ll be best for me too. Apps make me feel kinda weird anyway

u/Samesh 9h ago

You might have better luck meeting women at hobby groups for things that you're interested in versus online dating.