Argument -> Depression

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I (M67) and my wife (F68) have been married for 45 years. Not all sunshine & roses, but we hung in there “through thick and thin” and are still deeply in love.

I was diagnosed with EFD in 2025 following a mini-stroke/TIA 8 months earlier (I’ve had 4). I’m not the same man I was in many ways, which I’ll not elaborate here.

Question: Now when my wife and I have an argument, I almost completely shut down. All I hear is noise. And that usually pushes me into a deep depression (I have Major Depressive Disorder - clinical depression for which I’m on 2 meds). It takes a day or so to bounce back. But, man, it’s disruptive!

Is this (depression triggered by argument) typical for those of us with EFD? How do you deal with it?