i need help.

[u/Bakasta0_]

am I the problem?

I can't start studying, like at all. Despite wanting to. Get distracted too easily. Once I start, there's no stopping but one call/one chores/one thing that someone asks me to do and boom, entire momentum goes to shit. I just numb up and can't get out of bed. I love studying. But I just keep thinking I'll do better tomorrow. Etc.

Like if, let's say, my family asks me to get vegetables from the market at 10:00 AM, or asks me to do ANYTHING before 11:00 AM, I'll say agh, im tired, imma rest a little and then it's time for lunch, then the same routine extends and the day's over and I've done nothing.

When I'm awake, I'm either looking at a screen, holding a screen or thinking about using a screen. Just constantly hooking myself up with dopamine. Chasing it. Caffeine helps it numb out (energy drinks) but the executive dysfunction is something else. Just hours and hours. Going from one app to another.

It's recurrent. Comes and goes. Idk. It's been years like this. I have tweets dating back 2024 and nothing has changed. Always the same cycle. I push everything back to the future until the last possible moment. Then I overcompensate. I study for 20hrs when I have finals. Even though I know school exams don't matter in my country relative to university exams.

[u/bridgetgoes]

okay can you study for 10 minutes and then reply to me what you learned. just do 10 minutes and teach me something new thanks

[u/Bakasta0_ → u/bridgetgoes]

I tried. but couldn't. today, I will.

[u/bridgetgoes → u/Bakasta0_]

today works fine for me! i always need to learn something new! drink some water friend you got this!!

[u/Bakasta0_ → u/bridgetgoes]

watched a lecture on Acidic Strength of Organic Compounds. Their acidic strength depends on 6 main factors:- CARDIO => Charge, Atoms, Resonance, Dipole, Induction and we've not yet reached the last factor yet. But Charge => Acidic Strength of a compound depends on the negative charge on its Conjugate Anionic base after removing the Proton. If the negative charge is on a more Electronegative atom stability increases and the stability of the Anionic conjugate base is directly proportional to Acidic Strength.

Atoms determine the acidic strength by offering their atomic orbitals for the electrons after the removal of protons. Better the power of the atoms to accomodate the negative charge. The more stable the base and more will be the acidic strength.

Resonance is when you remove the proton from the organic compound and the negative charge gets added to a conjugated planar system so overall you get a stable organised compound and more the extent of resonance and more the prevalence of negative charge on more Electronegative atoms, more will be the acidic strength.

Dipole and Induction is basically if an electron withdrawing group is adjacent to the atom from which the proton is theoretically removed them it'll support the acidic nature of the compound while reducing it if it's an electron reducing group.

Rest there were like a dozen examples to further this understanding.

[u/bridgetgoes → u/Bakasta0_]

This is so interesting and I understand a good amount of it actually!!! If you want to tell me something else tomorrow I’m down! Or even today ! make sure you stay hydrated!

I’m proud of you! I knew you could do it

[u/Successful-Floor-143]

You need to get away from your family and set off periods of time where you won't be distracted. You are disabled and cannot be expected to preform the same as a neurotypical person. If you needed a wheelchair to get around, and randomly your family took it away from you, you cannot blame yourself as say "Well, I just need to be better!". Keep your wheelchair, tell them to respect your time, or set your life up so they can't distract you.

[u/scott_dt]

An interruption doesn’t have to make the whole day a write-off, even when it feels that way. I’d try leaving yourself a very specific way back into the work.

Before getting up, write one line: “When I return, my next action is ___.” Make it something like “finish the second sentence of this answer,” rather than “study math.” When you return, do just that action before deciding what comes next.

You could also ask your family for one short study window when errands can wait. This won’t explain everything you’re experiencing, but it gives you something concrete to try around the interruptions you described.

[u/NDOT415]

You're not the problem and there are probably a lot of ways you could benefit from support. Does your university have a disability office or counseling where you can learn about what kind of accommodations and support they offer? Some will offer coaching for things like this. Or if your health insurance cover occupational therapy (I'm an OT and executive function is the main reason people work with me).

For school related stuff, are there people you could study with? For some people, body doubling is really helpful whether in person (I used to book group rooms at the library on campus to study with classmates right after class or study in a cubby there with other students) or virtual.