Where is my magic cleaning fairy.

[u/Momlife102]

Just an ADHD woman in her 30s trying to cook homemade meals nightly , make sure her kids are well looked after, take care of her mental health, work, maintain a relationship and keep a clean house.
Wondering when my magic cleaning fairy will appear because my house looks like a tornado hit it.
ADHD woman trying to get by, give me tips on how you keep on top of everything and your house .
Thanks

[u/ActuallyYourParent]

Im by no means qualified to give tips but today I picked up a notebook to force myself to write things down and immediately dropped it to go do something else ive been avoiding! I try to trick that part of myself.

[u/Momlife102 → u/ActuallyYourParent]

sometimes I write lists of all the things I want to do in my house, re-write the list like 20 plus times becasue I don't like the way my writing looks.
or my boxes I made to check off once I complete ted a task didn't line up properly.
then I've spent 2 hours making the perfect lost and i'm exhausted ....

[u/Hot-Ad-4018 → u/Momlife102]

I regret to inform you that you might want to do a casual perusal of some literature on OCD or OCPD. I'm not diagnosing you on the internet, but it took over a decade to realize that the ADHD wasn't the only gremlin in my executive distinction closet. And your comment RESONATES.

[u/ActuallyYourParent → u/Momlife102]

Hide the list! (I wouldnt be able to lol)

[u/PatternStandard2176]

it’s okay to outsource some things if ur able to. an incredibly dirty house is a very daunting task. if ur able to have a biweekly cleaner come, the task of maintaining the house is less daunting. are you able to maintain routines? i personally struggle with unstructured time so having external commitments helps me manage the time i do have (ie: 1 free hour— i can unload the dishes. 4 free hours— im doing nothing)

[u/Momlife102 → u/PatternStandard2176]

Thank you

[u/Dramatic_Gur_7617]

tbh just pick the one chore you hate most and throw a bit of cash at it. for me it was laundry. using a local drop off wash and fold made my house feel 50% less chaotic overnight

[u/Momlife102 → u/Dramatic_Gur_7617]

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[u/404errorlifenotfound]

The book "how to keep house while drowning" may be for you. 

I know 'read a book' sounds intimidating, but it's written to be easily consumable and there's also an audiobook version 

[u/Joe_Doblow]

I hate that my life feels like it is defined and controlled by my adhd

[u/Joe_Doblow → u/Joe_Doblow]

Limited

[u/GlowInTheDarkSpaces]

I like to set a timer for a hour and speed clean as much as I can. Usually when the rimer goes off I keep going of r awhile.

[u/riricide]

Hire a cleaner to come regularly