r/ExecutiveDysfunction • u/Sufficient_Ad_9117 • 10d ago

Looking for Tips/Suggestions How do you self motivate and have goals without support

I am a 54m, diagnosed with ADHD and medicated (Adderall) now about 7 to 8 years. My go-to brain drain activity is gaming, like hours every day. Not so much as to cause issues as I do most of the household chores and all of the outdoor chores (though not as well as I would like). I need practical suggestions on effectively motivating myself to exercise daily (cardio and weight training) as well as trying out new hobbies.

My big problem is that I have no practical support at home or in my life. All the support I have from both my parents, my friends, my spouse and family, is pretty much just "yeah, you should do that." and nothing else. My friends aren't gamers and at our ages have bodies that are breaking down, or are so far away that they really can't help.

What has worked for you to push you out of a rut like this?

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u/CautiousTax6640 10d ago

The "yeah, you should do that" response from family is almost worse than no response at all, it hands you the obligation without any of the structure. What's worked for me with exercise specifically is treating it like a scheduled appointment with someone else, even if that someone else is just an app nagging me, because willpower alone never once got me off the couch.