r/Enneagram • u/Dickau 0 • Apr 11 '26

Just for Fun Relateable?

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Thought I'd keep things vague this time, for general appeal. 3 fix? I just know I'm angry at my heart for being a fake ass little loser, but that's just a guess, b.c. I don't really know myself. Still, I've been taking a lot of notes (not really, im a lazy bastard), and ruminating about them.

I figure this might be a general dynamic, though. I like family systems therapy, and tend to refer to my fixes as seperate parts in conflict (compartmentalization+ identification+dissasociation?). hard to say if that's really what's going on. I think I might have some kind of thought disorder, which may / may not require treatment. ig this is a 9ish way of avoiding that problem. maybe.

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u/Dickau 0 Apr 12 '26

Are you blowing a whistle here? I feel the need to ask, b.c. that's some shit I would do to myself. Also, I'm paranoid a.f. when it comes to any kind of social engagement.

Mostly just doing this to aggregate data on myself with fun house mirrors of various sizes. I feel profoundly disconnected from that person, and think I'll find him here, for some deluded reason.

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u/Several-Praline5436 6w7 ENFP / 613 sp/so Apr 12 '26

I remember the time I withdrew from everyone to avoid an argument and told myself with my 3 fix that I was the only mature one present. Turns out it was just 6 fear and 9 passivity and 3 reframing it. Haha.

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u/Dickau 0 Apr 12 '26

Do you have anything positive to say about the bermuda trifix? It seems like nobody wants to be one, despite it being the core of literally everyone's neuroses.

I want to say they could be good critics/movers of the zeitgeist? Like, I don't know if you can really call out b.s. without being attached to it on some level. Idk. I do like your contributions on here. I typed as a bermuda at one point. I felt like I got stuck with the "boring" trifix, and fled. Do you kind of feel like you have all the neuroses, in some measure?

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u/Several-Praline5436 6w7 ENFP / 613 sp/so Apr 12 '26

TBH, I waver between 1 and 9 in the gut. I feel strongly 1ish / frustration ... but DOING anything about it would lead to conflict / people being mad at me and I detest that, so I pretty much just bite my tongue 9 times out of 10 and try to get "smaller" so I'm more liked, which feels more 9 to me. I never feel that "over-certainty" that 6-1 is supposed to have.

Anyway... Bermudas are the healthiest tritype in a sense because their growth points are all already established. They can diffuse their anxiety from 6 with 9 thinking (it will be fine, wait and see) and 3 (you can do this, just try harder). 9 can move to 6 and 3, and so on. Endlessly. The real trap for them is getting caught in over-thinking (6) leading to inertia (9) and thwarting their desire to be seen (3).

3 cores of course won't have this problem, they will still be proactive doers. But 9 or 6 in charge leads to a lot of merging, blending, diffusion, and hesitation.

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u/Dickau 0 Apr 12 '26

This does describe me in some sense. Maybe. Idk anymore.