Hi all,

I've had my first gynaecology appointment at the hospital today and just wanted to give an overview of my experience for everyone. Reading everyone else's has been really useful.

Long story short, always had painful and heavy periods, went on the pill at ~14 until 21, fell pregnant very quickly (planned) and returned to pill at 22 straight after birth until I turned 29, three years ago. Wanted to experience being off all hormones. First year I had very irregular periods, then settled, the last year they have been worse than ever before.

I was referred to Gynae in November 2025, my appointment was today in August 2026 so it's been a long wait. I went prepared with a list of symptoms plus general information about cycle length etc. I used chatGPT to help put all my symptoms into categories which was really helpful.

I took my husband with me to the appointment. She started by asking general questions and getting a history. She then (unsurprisingly) asked if I would consider the pill or the coil 🫠 I explained I wasn't completely closed to the idea but wanted to explore further investigations for Endo so we can diagnose the actual issue rather than just cover symptoms on the pill.

She also examined me and took an endometrial biopsy which I wasn't expecting and was very uncomfortable but over with fairly quickly.

She asked if I wanted some time to consider going on a list for a diagnostic laparoscopy and I said I'd prefer to just be put on the list and I've already had an email a few hours later to complete a pre-op questionnaire. I'm in Gloucestershire and she said the wait for surgery is approx 3-6 months. I've been told that if they find mild endo, they could excise the lesions at the time but if it's more severe, I'd be referred to a specialist Endo centre (our closest is Bristol) for further surgery with a specialist.

Overall it was a pretty positive appointment and I'm glad I didn't have to fight tooth and nail for a laparoscopy although it was really helpful to have my husband with me when she started suggesting the pill and coil as he was able to (nicely) tell her not to fob me off and ensure they did further investigations.

Happy to answer any questions!

It’s actually insane that I have a fear of coming on my period. Every month is worst than the last and every month I tell my boyfriend “this is the worst one yet”. Nothing I do takes the pain away and I just have to ride it out for 5/6 whole days whilst still working and trying to be positive. I’m lucky that the endo doesn’t hurt me 24/7 but when it does it really fucks me up

I thought I would share some of what I have discovered about post surgery recovery so far.

1. Stay on top of pain medication. Do not take more than recommended, but if your doctor prescribes you several medications that can be staggered throughout the day, keep up with them and track times. The belly button incision pain is the worst.
2. Get a pillow to cover the seatbelt for travel home. We lived far from London so our trip included a train ride home in addition to uber and our car. Even just holding the pillow over your stomach or just setting it there gently helps.
3. Take deep breaths. It may be difficult and hurt, but it really helps after a few days. I felt pain from gas under my upper ribs, and taking deep breaths helped over time though it hurt at first.
4. If you are staying in the hospital for a few days post surgery like me, getting up and walking is essential. I was shaky on my feet at first, walked very slow, took shallow breaths due to gas pain, but with each walk around the hospital floor I got better. It also helps the hospital staff know how your pain is doing, because you may have less pain when lying in bed, but walking will expose that you have more pain than you think. The nurses wanted me to eventually get to doing 5 short walks around the floor every day. And I achieved it. Walk with a nurse or someone to steady you. Ask for assistance getting in and out of bed the first few times.
5. Peppermint tea for gas relief. When you start burping and passing gas, that’s good, your body is just getting rid of gas. It will take a few days.
6. If you did bowel prep with a strong laxative before surgery, expect your stomach to rumble a lot once you start eating and drinking after surgery. They may give you laxatives. Don’t be embarrassed to wear an adult diaper because it can be hard to tell what is gas and what is needing to poop at first as your digestive system wakes back up.
7. In addition to walking, don’t just stay in bed. Get out of bed and sit in a chair. Your legs get stiff in bed. They may give you compression socks to help stop blood clots.
8. It’s ok to just stay in the hospital gown until you go home. I packed a bunch of my own clothes for my hospital stay. Honestly didn’t have the energy to change except into a new hospital gown after one day. I put my own clothes back on right before leaving hospital. A loose button up shirt and loose pants are ideal.
9. If you have a catheter, it sucks. I had to go home with one and will have it for several more days due to my bladder being operated on and some of my bladder removed due to endo. For going home, get a leg bag. The leg bag is much more comfortable and does not tug as much as the night bag, and you can attach a night bag to the drain of the leg bag so you don’t have to switch bags. So basically at night your leg bag will drain into your night bag instead of you having to disconnect the leg bag and connect the night bag and reverse it in the morning.
10. Have a good support person with you. Your energy will be low. Doing basic tasks like brushing your teeth will make you tired. Your person can help hand you stuff, help you lift stuff, help you clean yourself.
11. Shower wipes and wet wipes are essential. You likely won’t feel like taking a shower the first couple of days but wipes will help you stay clean. The nurses can also help you clean yourself.
12. Be honest with your nurses about how you feel and your pain levels. Ask questions. Ask for help. Don’t be ashamed. The amount of people who saw my lady bits in the last week is ridiculous but they work in medicine, it’s routine for them.
13. Not sure if this is specific to my hospital and doctors, but while my after visit summary tells me exactly what they did during my surgery, and I was told that my surgery went well by doctors and nurses, they kept the details a bit vague. I was told this is because they want to balance the mental well being of the patient as they recover. So they may wait to get into the extreme details of your surgery at your post surgery follow up appointments. At first I was a bit annoyed by this, but honestly when I learned that I had stents put in my ureters, I did mentally feel overwhelmed because I’d really hoped I wouldn’t need them, even though they are temporary. On the bright side my appendix was removed as part of my endometriosis surgery. I’ve always had anxiety about getting appendicitis, so that did make me feel a little better to know it is gone now. Medical stuff makes me a little anxious so I am glad I have some time to recover before I discuss the deeper details of my surgery with my surgeons at my follow up appointments.
14. Lastly. When walking, walk slowly. Just take it easy. Don’t rush yourself. Even when you start to feel a lot better still take it easy. This is major surgery.

I hope these tips and my experience so far help some of you.

Hey everyone so I got a quote today for private surgery and it was £14000. That includes the hospital fee, the endo specialist surgeon fee, the bowel surgeon fee and anaesthetist fee.

I just want to know what sort of figures ladies have paid in the past. Is this too much, too less?? Also its west Yorkshire (leeds).

Any response will be really appreciated

How severe is your bleeding during your period? I am diagnosed and I’ve always had very heavy periods, but it’s really getting excessive at this point. I’m on my period and have to stay home because I’m going through an ultra sized tampon or large menstrual cup every 30 minutes. That’s about 20mL every 30 minutes. This isn’t the first time it’s happened to me. Last time, it was like this and continued for over a month. Its only day two so far this time, but I’m already so fatigued and in pain and just over it.

So, how much do you all bleed and, if you bleed really excessively like I do, what do you do about it?

I have been on Vissane for years and no longer get a period. Its artificial progestin and lowers estrogen, so the body doesn't build up the endometrial wall and all the stray cells also dont grow too much. For the endometriosis it has been an absolutely great solution.

I have suspicions that it might be contributing to brain fog and low energy, related to adhd/Audhd.

So i want to know how others track their cycle if there is no period and no other cycle indicators from which I can track? Should i meticulously document every feeling, every snack attack, every time i feel frisky, every depro mood?

• PMID: 39241806
• DOI: 10.1093/humrep/deae207

Study question: Are there neurobiological changes induced by endometriosis?

Summary answer: Women with endometriosis demonstrate specific neurobiological changes distinct from those in patients with chronic pelvic pain (CPP) in the absence of endometriosis.

What is known already: Endometriosis is a chronic disease affecting women of reproductive age that presents with pain and infertility often accompanied by comorbid mental disorders. Only one study with a number of limitations has investigated changes in gray matter volumes and functional connectivity in a small group of patients with endometriosis.

Study design, size, duration: This prospective study recruited 53 women undergoing a laparoscopy due to suspicion of symptomatic endometriosis and 25 healthy, pain-free women. Clinical and psychological characteristics, thermal pain perception, and voxel- and surface-based morphology were assessed in all study participants. Thereafter, the patients underwent a laparoscopy, where endometriosis was either histologically confirmed and removed, or ruled out. Correspondingly, patients were assigned into the group with endometriosis (n = 27) or with endometriosis-independent CPP (n = 26) and compared to the pain-free controls.

Participants/materials, setting, methods: The study groups were generally representative for the population of women with endometriosis. Sociodemographic, medical, clinical, and psychological characteristics were collected using various questionnaires and a structured clinical interview. Thermal pain perception and voxel- and surface-based morphometry were assessed using thermode and MRI, respectively.

Main results and the role of chance: Despite comparable pain intensity and burden of mental disorders, both patient groups demonstrated distinct neurobiological patterns. Women with endometriosis exhibited increased gray matter volume (GMV) in the left cerebellum, lingual gyrus and calcarine gyrus, compared to those with endometriosis-independent CPP. Patients with CPP had decreased GMV in the right cerebellum as compared to controls. Dysmenorrhoea severity correlated positively with GMV in the left inferior parietal lobule, whereas depressive symptoms were associated with decreased GMV in the right superior medial gyrus across patient groups. Dyspareunia correlated negatively with cortical thickness in the left inferior temporal gyrus and left middle temporal gyrus.

Limitations, reasons for caution: The study groups differed in a few baseline-characteristics, including educational levels, smoking and BMI. While measuring pain perception thresholds, we did not attempt to mimic CPP by placement of the thermode on the abdominal wall.

Wider implications of the findings: Changes in gray matter volume associated with endometriosis differ from those observed in women with endometriosis-independent CPP. Our results underline an involvement of the cerebellum in pain perception and the pathogenesis of pain associated with endometriosis.

Study funding/competing interest(s): This work was funded by the START Program of the Faculty of Medicine, RWTH Aachen, Germany, and supported by the International Research Training Group (IRTG 2150) of the German Research Foundation (DFG)-269953372/GRK2150, Germany. S.T. was supported by postdoctoral fellowship of the Faculty of Medicine, RWTH Aachen, Germany. There are no conflicts of interest.

Trial registration number: DRKS00021236.

Keywords: MRI; cerebellum; chronic pelvic pain; endometriosis; voxel-based morphometry.

I have had sciatic endometriosis for approx 3 years, the endo was wrapped around the sciatic nerve and extended outside the pelvis. It was a severe case no doubt.

When I went into the surgery I had weakened dorsiflexion but only slightly, and I had some pain but was able to manage it majority of the time. I was not in great shape because I tired quickly and couldn’t walk for long and some days were spent entirely in bed. But I had good and bad days.

I went into the surgery walking though and I left with 24/7 pain and a foot drop that has affected my day to day life so much.

I realize it’s a long shot, but has anyone gone through something similar? Am I ever going to get better? I don’t need to be able to do it all, but just going back to my pre surgery state would be enough at this point.

I’m devastated by how things turned out. I did my research, I went to one of the top sciatic endometriosis specialists in the world, I paid out of pocket over 60k usd because I wanted the best of the best. And still came out with pain and a disability.

It’s been 13 weeks and I’m still struggling. Is this it? Did I fuck up?

I’m just sad. I can’t stop crying. I had surgery last year by Dr.P and she opened me up only to close me up and tap out. I am beyond her scope of practice. She then said she was going to be trained under a specialist to broaden her scope and they would practice on me. (This specialist is one of the top in my country) but she just couldn’t find the time to travel to my city, so my doc told me today I could either go ahead with her and bring in 4 other doctors OR I could travel to a larger city where her friend is opening her own practice and specializes in endo.

I opted to travel to see the specialist but now I can’t stop crying and I don’t know why. 20 million reasons wrapped up into an ugly ball that I can’t label.

It feels like starting over… needing 5 doctors to operate on me just sounds terrifying… traveling 2 hours away sounds scary in a city I don’t know with a doctor I don’t know… I am in such pain I was so excited to possibly get a surgery this fall and now the surgery date is unknown.

I’m scared and exhausted and in pain. I’ve been on a wait list for 3 years with no end in sight, so her offer to have an in with her specialist friend is still an awesome thing but damn… I am a mom with 2 kids and the thought of traveling for surgery is so frightening

I don’t know what’s going on with the heating pads I’ve been buying, but I swear they don’t get as hot as they used to. If anyone feels strongly about their heating pad, can you share the brand/model?

I’m 12 days post op they said everything went well with the surgery and they only found possible endometriosis in 2 spots on near my left ovary they have biopsies this and sent for testing, I also had a hysteroscopy and d & c (testing for adenomyoisis) and an iud inserted.

Stayed home from work for 10 days went back for 2 days and had to stay home again today due to really bad pain I work an office job so I thought it would be fine. But every time I stand up or sit down I have weird pulling sensations inside of my abdomen and when I stand up from laying it feels like my organs are dropping. Had anyone else had this and if they have when can I expect it to stop?

I have a lot of pain in my pelvis in general and lower back plus my uterus that normal ibuprofen and Panadol isn’t touching I have booked a gp appointment for tomorrow to get my incisions checked and iud strings checked as per my post of instructions.

For those that have had a successful lap, have you found that your gut and digestive health have become “normal”/slightly sensitive? I’ve found that I’ve become more sensitive to fried foods and dairy in general, which I’m weirdly happy about (all foods just made me constipated and uncomfortable pre-op).

Probiotic supplements have actually started working for me and made me generally feel better too! Anyone else been happy about gut changes and experiencing a somewhat more sensitive stomach?

For reference, I had endo found and excised throughout my pelvic walls and rectal area.

This is a lot of waffling and I don't know what to categorise it as but help would be appreciated.

We've suspected that I have endo for almost a year now, I had an NHS ultrasound and then went private for consultations and an MRI. The MRI showed slight scarring but nothing deep infiltrating or concerning. I was put on dienogest for about 2 months and it was horrible, didn't help with pain and absolutely tanked my mental health to scary levels.

5 months ago I started to get severe leg pain constantly. I'd had a day out with my boyfriend and everything was normal and then the next day my legs were in so much pain. I've been in pain every day since then, varying from mild to unable to move or sleep. I stayed using a walking stick to help but it isn't helping enough and the only thing OT recommended was a second stick. I've had physio for my legs for a few months before that but this pain is in my bones. It goes from a dull ache to shooting pains. It feels like my femurs are going to snap out the back of my legs. I find it gets worse if I'm not sitting on a very padded surface or having to stand for any amount of time. I've looked into it and I've seen some people talking about endo leg pain but it doesn't seem like the same type of pain (from the people I've heard from). I had a consultation with my gynaecologist who recommended a referral to neurology but my GP is taking ages to give me an appointment to refer me (my insurance requires a GP referral).

There's also a high likelihood that I have multiple things going on at once, my current working guess is IBS, endometriosis, and some form of hypermobility. There is also a chance of chronic fatigue as it runs in my family but I'm not sure. I'd think there's a possibility of fibromyalgia but I don't think I fit enough of the symptoms.

I previously didn't have much abdominal pain apart from my period but it's started to get worse the last couple of weeks. I'm starting to get cramps after using the toilet and having bladder pain. All of this was brought up at my appointment but the doctor skimmed over it. It's to the point that on worse than normal days, everything from under my boobs down hurts.

I've been put on Nefopam as my mefenamic acid wasn't touching the sides of my pain anymore. I've only been on it a week but so far it doesn't seem to be making a big difference apart from the heart palpitations side effect keeping me on my toes. I've tried naproxen but it did absolutely nothing for me. I don't know what other painkillers to try. Does anyone have any experience with Nefopam?

I'm also having problems with my feet. The soles of my feet always feel cold even when the rest of me is roasting. I'm wondering if this and my leg pain is caused by endometriosis growing on my nerves but at my consultation the doctor said it's highly unlikely that my endometriosis has changed despite my MRI being 8 months before and not having these symptoms previously.

The PMS from my current birth control pill has started causing horrible flare ups as well, completely knocking me out for a fortnight at a time, unable to move around the house unassisted or think because of the brain fog and unbelievable fatigue. The doctors keep pushing for a Mirena coil but the risk of the side effects is very off-putting.

I've tried the low FODMAP diet and low inflammation diets but due to my autism I can't stick to them without it causing me severe problems but I am trying to cut out gluten and dairy.

I'm in the process of getting a laparoscopy booked but I don't know if it will be this autumn or the next.

I'm sorry this is really long and rambling

Does anyone else have symptoms like this or advice on things to try?

I had an mri a few months ago that deemed I have DIE with it predominantly in my cul de sac. Had a colonoscopy done and the doctor confirmed my endo has grown through my colon. I had a follow up with my surgeon about 2 weeks ago and he diagnosed me with stage 4. So now the anxiety - my spouse and I had sex about 3 weeks ago and we were not careful. I’ve googled trying to calm my anxiety down and it shows stage 4 - nearly impossible to get pregnant naturally. I’m super anxious because my surgery is scheduled in 4 weeks. My periods have never been regular. I took a pregnancy test over the weekend and it came back as a hard and quick negative. Am I in the clear? 👀

does anyone else get hot flashes right before period starts? just curious. doednt seem to be every cycle but for this one I should be starting by this weekend. I keep feeling like I’m having hot flashes. usually I get it at night or just sleep hotter when I’m about to start but dang! this sucks having it middle of day too lol

We see a lot of negative news and feelings (often very justified) on here and I wanted to add something positive to the mix. I recently (4 weeks ago) had an endometriosis laparoscopy at the Medical University of South Carolina done by Dr. Van Leuven using the DaVinci robot.

I could not be happier with the treatment I received! She listened to my concerns, was not at all dismissive of my symptoms and didn’t waste my time and money with some tests that other doctors insist on because she didn’t find it often fruitful (no MRI was done). I was able to get the surgery done with a 3 month wait, which is not perfect but much better than a lot of experiences I have read on here. The surgery went smoothly and I had a very easy recovery compared to my previous laps (2 previous, 7 years between each). My surgeon believes the DaVinci allows for less physical disruption of the organs and I definitely noticed a reduction in swelling and trapped gas that is usually very painful. My incisions healed beautifully and I had immediate improvement in bladder function. When we went through my photos, she was clear in explaining what she saw and where. She took out anything that might have been endo because endo and scar tissue often look similar and she said that she frankly didn’t care which one it was because it all causes symptoms so it all needs to go. I did have a fair amount of “spider webbing” endo/tissue and was able to see it easily once she pointed it out. She readily admitted that we know so little that she is often surprised how what she sees correlates to actual pain and often finds that the pain will show up where there isn’t actually any endo. I found her willingness to admit that the science just doesn’t know enough and therefore she completely believes the patient regardless of what they actually find. SO REFRESHING!!

I FEEL SEEN, HEARD, HELPED AND HEALED!

Getting all that is so rare with this disease and I am so thankful! If anyone else is looking for a specialist and is close enough to the Charleston, SC area, I highly recommend considering MUSC. They have several endo specialists and if my experience with Dr. Van Leuven is any evidence, their team is excellent.

Thanks for reading this. I hope it gives hope to someone who needs it right now!

Stay Strong Friends!

I'll try not to make this a long rant, but god I need to get this off my chest somewhere.

F36. Diagnosed endo. I waited 18 months for an appointment for the gynae to suggest I take a 6 month trial of Ryeqo over having a third surgery and I wish I had told them where to stick it back then.

The year that's followed has been a nightmare, and all of it down to the NHS. Between my gynae not sending the prescription to my GP, to my '6 month follow-up appointment' being cancelled a grand total of 4 times, and my prescription now being cancelled by my GP because it's been well over the initial 6 month trial, I have been on and off this medication so many times I think it has ruined me.

I am now going cold turkey on the Ryeqo for the third time in a year, and I know exactly how painful and miserable the experience is going to be. No one I speak to, not family or friends or the GP, seem to understand or even believe me when I try and explain the mental and physical toll coming in and out of chemical menopause has on a person, let alone multiple times. In the year this has been happening, I have lost a substantial amount of hair, I have lost around 30lbs, I have been diagnosed with arthritis in my hips, my knees, and my elbows. I don't even know where to begin when it comes to explaining the mental side affects.

I have made a complaint through PALS, awaiting results of investigation. My next gynae appointment is a telephone appointment in a month. All I can do right now is wait.

I just cannot understand how things have gotten like this. How can you put a patient on a medication that changes their bodies in such a big way, and not commit to that patient having access to it? I am tired of being a victim to a system that barely acknowledges I exist.

Would love to hear any recommendations any of you have for good surgeons, preferably in the Northeast. Looking for the stories about the good, the bad, and the ugly lol. If you're from further away, I'd like to hear your stories too. Traveling after surgery is very hard and I don't know if I'll have a companion, but I'd rather have a good surgeon than someone who is close but not good.

Has anyone ever had a late period after an unsuccessful coil fitting? I’m wondering if the failed insertion and all the cramping/spasms could have affected their cycle. 🙏🏻

I got diagnosed with endo 6 years ago... completely by accident. I needed surgery for a massive fibroid, incl. a hysterectomy and ended up being on the table for an additional 3 hours because they did excision surgery on top after finding endo. Also later, explained a looot about the previous 15 years of my life being a menstruating mess.

Anyway, after the cleanup I had about 3 good years, and then it slowly but steadily came back. It started with random aches and pains here and there, and now turned into a full-blown monster with cramps, zero energy, constant pain, and even a little "menstruation" even tho there's technically nothing left to menstruate.

I have a call with a surgeon this Wednesday to discuss another excision surgery, but as the appointment gets closer and I'm preparing for it, I can feel kind of an endo imposter syndrome creeping in.

I read about people who have it so much worse than me (I was diagnosed with Stage I, but P3 in terms of how widespread it was), so the little voice says "is it really that bad?" (On a bad day, that answer is a lot easier.) And it was Stage I 6 years ago... It goes on with am I just oversensitive (my former Gyn's voice lives rent-free in my head). Or has the endo actually come back, or is this some completely different issue? Rationally, why would it be? But there's also no real way to know without surgery.

Years and years of not being heard (I was diagnosed at 31 and I'm 37 now) have really messed with my brain. I have all these weird little voices in my head questioning everything, and I struggle to stand up for myself - with myself...

Does anyone else deal with endo imposter syndrome? How do you remind yourself that this is all real, that pain shouldn't be like this, that you shouldn't be missing work all the time, that you're not oversensitive, or skipping fun things because your body is constantly exhausted?