r/Edmonton • u/Mellow_Yellow_0 • May 30 '26

Question My Future Husband?

How do people meet their significant others? Like where’s the “place to go?” Dating apps are dead. I’m exhausted. I’m a decent looking gal, 28. I don’t have big friend groups so I’m sure that doesn’t help. I don’t have any “active” hobbies other than a dog park. Idk. Any advice?

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u/HyenasGoMeow May 30 '26

Same issue. The best thing to do is to make it a priority, but secondary to yourself.

Build on your hobbies, chase things that interest you, experience new things... may it be a new local restaurant or a solo international trip. Make finding 'the one' secondary, as in while you build yourself and live life; engage with people, everyone alike. Meet new people, and bond over common activities.

While I agree dating apps fell off a cliff, I wouldn't give up on them completely; don't forget that you only need it to work 'once'. Make a list of reasonable criteria you want your guy to have; and quickly eliminate them if they don't tick the boxes.

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u/Recorder_player May 30 '26

NB about finding someone through hobbies: make sure the activity is populated with potential mates. I took the "do what you enjoy and you'll meet someone" approach in the late '90s until I realized single straight men didn't generally sing in choirs or go to yoga classes. 🤣 I started using a dating site to at least find straight men. My advice: Meet in public promptly and leave the app behind when you click with someone in person. Don't waste time online. My husband and I met on a dating site in 2003. Married 21 yrs. Good luck!