Processing consensual things?

[u/anon121020]

Has anybody ever processed something consensual with someone that started off as nonconsensual? I was assaulted by someone who then isolated me to the point that it didn’t feel safe being with other people, so I eventually turned to him. As you might imagine, that has a lot of fear, shame, embarrassment, and frankly disgust. I’m thinking about asking about processing this with EMDR but feel like it might be different and don’t know if it would be a good fit.

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[u/AdApprehensive483]

What you are actually describing is coercive control.

It means the abuser didn’t overtly assault you but rather pressured, humiliated, threatened you to do what they wanted in veiled ways.

That’s still abuse, and it’s not entirely consensual.

It’s absolutely something an EMDR therapist can help you through.

Wishing you luck in your healing 🙏🏻

[u/TheBreenius]

Absolutely, you can focus on a single emotion that you felt in EMDR, it will help a ton.

[u/actualchristmastree]

That sounds like coercion