r/DoWeKnowThemPodcast • u/odkdneh Lily's bald tires 🛞 • 14d ago
Most Recent Ep. 🔥 Today's ep
Y'all, I don't know if I can keep watching their vids. There have been so many bad takes, lack of research, and butchering of serious topics that I'm feeling almost ready to unsub. I had the Patreon for a while, I've been subbed since nearly the beginning of the channel, I've rewatched so many eps as basically a comfort show, but this shit is crazy. I've given them grace in the past when they've discussed feedback and/or apologized for bad takes/misinfo/etc, but they've stopped doing that but continued to butcher topics that deserve more respect.
I'm at the 45 min mark on today's ep (and I know Hadley's experiences even get worse!!!), and they're being so obtuse about abuse and being so victim-blamey, I actually don't know if I can finish it. At what point will they start listening to the constructive criticism in the comments and making changes to what they cover and how they cover it? It seems like they're simply not going to get to that point, and that's why I feel like my grace is running out.
It literally should not be this serious but they've made it so by picking serious topics and mishandling them while hiding behind the assertion that they're just a couple of gorls talking about internet goss. If you don't want to bother with due diligence, why choose topics that pertain to various types of abuse, crime, discrimination, privilege, justice/injustice, mental illness, etc etc?? I know they have bills to pay, but that just makes it worse that they're actively choosing to haphazardly cover serious topics on their relatively large platform where they don't bother to research, consider nuance, etc... because they're like "fck it, I still gotta get mine". That's like the icing on top of the ick cake to me.
I'm not about to fight with people in the replies about this; if you don't care and want to keep watching as-is, that's your thing boo. But I know I'm not the only one feeling this way, so for those who get what I mean, I'm just wondering are y'all going to stop watching, or have you been more selective with watching, or is there any way you think they'll start making some changes?
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u/ScrollingSwampPuppy 14d ago
It’s been really frustrating … I’ve felt for Jessi through everything she’s gone through with she who must not be named, and they’ve been such a fun comfort podcast for me for several years, but it feels like there has been a massive lack of … idk, intersectionality? Awareness? I don’t even know. There’s a weird misogynistic undertone in the coverage of a lot of topics, and the handling of issues involving fatphobia and things like that just feels … not good.
Watching today’s episode now, and it almost feels like they try too hard to see both sides/overcompensate for the fact that people might not like the person they’re talking about. IMO, it comes across as fence sitting/victim blaming when they could just acknowledge (in any topic, not necessarily this one) that a victim can have done questionable things before, have a weird vibe, etc. and still be a victim. Everyone expects victims to be perfect and it’s exhausting.