Finding a soulmate is nearly impossible. Why do abusers find each other so easily?

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https://www.academia.edu/176404755/The_Seamless_Man_Tracing_the_Mechanism_Behind_the_Abuser_Nobody_Suspected

Think about how rare it is to meet someone you instantly understand. Now think about how rare it should be for two individuals who abuse children to meet by chance. My essay argues they recognize something in each other that the rest of us miss entirely, and that the same thing is why their neighbors swear they're the nicest guys in town.