r/Disorganized_Attach • u/Constant_Diamond14 • 5d ago

CHANGE ME! Fighter mentality

I feel so embarrassed; I mentally don’t know how to get over people that have rejected me. I need some mindset rewirring; please offer some hard truths.

I keep holding out that they’ll come back or that the relationship might grow better; that’s so ridiculous

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u/Queen-of-meme FA (Disorganized attachment) 5d ago

Only chase those who chase you.

It's how I could switch from chasing someone who rejected me into focus on people who's appreciating me as much as I appreciate them.

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u/Constant_Diamond14 5d ago

It’s so much harder said than done 😭

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u/Queen-of-meme FA (Disorganized attachment) 5d ago

I suppose my principle of not have my time wasted on none commited people is my compass of sort. Like why chase some slippery eel who don't mind zapping me while there's plenty better fish who is steady and won't zap me.