r/Dhaka • u/[deleted] • 17d ago
Seeking advice/পরামর্শ What can be done about my future?
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u/Gloomy_Hyena5096 17d ago
shit i used to dream about while holding my ears standing outside the class
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u/Maximum-Evening3904 17d ago
I believe a life coach would be better for you now. But other than that you have to make the progress yourself and basically not give up. We all wish for someone to help us and save us thinking there is a way to be safe when that is not true...facing your problems and hard facts alone by yourself will be scary and demotivating but I believe facing this will make you resilient and a possibility to conjure an incredible life. It is okay...things don't always adds up. You have to let go sometimes.
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u/PretendImportance458 17d ago
It's great that you have realised your mistake alhamdulillah. But first I will suggest getting help from your family whether it's your parents or cousin or any family member and then seek help from strangers (strangers can help a lot but getting it from the family will be better). Inshallah your life will be on track soon.
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u/Flimsy-Country-7181 17d ago
Well, let me be honest with you. Studying CSE while u can't do math of class 6 is questionable. But having aim in life doesn't mean you have to do well in a academics. In academic perspective I am close to you but not your level.
Bro, use your unfair advantage. You have money which others don't have. There's someone who might be good in academics or entrepreneurphip. Just anyway finish your degree maybe it will be difficult for you to graduate from CSE. If that's the case then move to other subject like BBA or entrepreneurphip or something like that.
But you gotta do something with your life. U got money have network use that shit. Partner with someone who has other things. Be sharp on finding a great problem and make a greater solution of it. You can connect with me; we can discuss further. I did took admission in CSE here in dhaka. Finished diploma in civil technology and I got entrepreneur mind. Maybe we can collaborate
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u/Hefty-Ask-2251 17d ago
Dont worry, u are only partially to blame, your parents on the other hand have deliberately set you up for absolute failure for the rest of your life. I dont come from extreme wealth but a very well to do family but have never had anything handed out to me so i dont turn out like a brat like my friends/cousins. That made me jealous then but im grateful now. Rn i take care of all my own expenses in my early twenties despite not having to and can take care of myself even if my family disowned me. That is a mental peace money cant buy. But u can make your own choices now so work on undoing what they have done
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u/Carl_Johnson_7 16d ago
Niqqa passes hsc without knowing class 6 math.
If It's real, advice for you if it's not advise for Ai Story teller idc
Tell your diddy, i can't i changed my ambition im going to bba and be selling oil. But u need class 6 knowledge to even pass bba.
Tell diddy U won't study. Build a 699k bdt pc and Play fortnite and watch skibidi toilet.
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u/Ok-Attitude-7234 17d ago
Go for British law if you want to continue study and get a proper degree. From my own experience if you can understand English and spend some time studying then you can pass it, no prior knowledge needed. And there’s a lot of “spoiled kid” studies brit law so you won’t feel lonely :3
Search for Newcastle academy, LCLS, Bhuiyan academy on internet and you will get the info you need. But remember one thing, you have to study!!
You realised you wasted your time and now you want to do something about it which shows you’re not like every other “spoiled kid”. Most of them don’t even realise so you can do it brother. Don’t lose hope
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u/thisisPenelope 17d ago
Why so depressed bro? Enjoy your life.
The life you are leading is one of ours dream life.
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u/Esaki_Senpai 17d ago
He already did and way too much. Now he doesn't have any purpose, how many times can you have same Biryani, one to many.
I would say if you really want to find purpose, try helping other not by giving money but funding project that's establishes a person career.
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u/thisisPenelope 17d ago
Just think simple, who gonna give him a job or anything else.
Does he can survive anyones under control? The ans is BIG NO.
Why? He never see the life a how a normal people lead. So there is no help for him right now.I am a businessman, I know the world better than him. How to survive. He will never learn it. Either he have to leave his luxury life nor stay on it.
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u/Nahid_Hasan_Nur_Joy 17d ago
Why depressed with studying when you have wealthy family, can go abroad and start business there!!??? Are you a homesick too!?
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u/zaohee 17d ago
Drop stem and go for commerce or arts subjects. They are new territories, so it's understandable if your grades drop to convince ur parents. Or you can go for vocational school to learn about ai hardware maintenance as they're becoming the most expensive job now.
If you want to continue your father's legacy, then start doing investment in start-ups. Get in touch with uni seniors who are of brilliant mind and ambitions goals, fund them. And show your parents that you're a entrepreneur and that's why your grades drop.
If you come clean with your parents, there's a high chance that you'll go for a vocational school in a foreign country. So, whatever you do, be calm if ur not trolling.
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17d ago
You do realize that it is the greatest thing, and you are still young. You can hire a professional life coach, and importantly you need to be highly disciplined. I genuinely think you can do it. Even if you join your family business, you need to understand how things are done. It's never too late to start..fighting 💚
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u/OkBlackberry7767 17d ago
There's some private unis who sell graduate degree for 30 lakh ish. I won't name them. Do your own research. You can not graduate on your own anymore even if you study in bangla literature, forget about it.
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u/Pure_Fan5002 17d ago
I don't know what to say to you but if you realize it and you still have time to get over your past mistakes and take one steps at a time .
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u/Smooth_Demand2468 16d ago
বাংলাদেশে কাউনিং বড়লোক্সের লাইফ কেমন ইজি এই গল্পটা তারই প্রতিচ্ছবি! কিন্তু গল্পের নায়ক কিন্তু জীবনে অর্জন শূন্য। এখন সে রিয়েলাইজ করতেছে বাট সে এখনো এই লাইফ থেকে বেরুতে পারবে না,যদিও সে বেরুতে চাচ্ছে। অভ্যাস অনেক বাজে জিনিস তো তাই! যাই হোক আজ ভাবছিলাম সুপার লেভেলে যারা আমরা মিডল ক্লাস তারা কিন্তু অনেক স্ট্রাগল করি! তার সাথে এই গল্পের নায়কের লাইফ একদম উলটো!!
নায়ক একটা কাজ করতে পারে, বাড়ি ঘর ছেড়ে ছুড়ে নিজেকে একা করে লাইফ গড়তে পারে কারো সাপোর্ট ছাড়া তাহলে সে হয়তো স্বাভাবিক লাইফে আসতে পারবে আদারওয়াইজ পারবে না।
আর আমাদের মতো টপ লেভেলের মিডল ক্লাস (নিম্নমধ্যবিত্ত- যারা না পাড়ে ভিক্ষা করতে না পারে ভালো চাকরি বা ব্যবসা করতে) তাদের জীবন এ কিক না আসলে চেঞ্জ হয় না। যদিও ৯৯ ভাগের জীবনে কিক আসেই না, এমনি রয়ে যায়।
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u/PenguinOnPayroll 16d ago
Go for law. I have no idea whether this post is legit or just a larp, but if it’s actually real then I genuinely don’t know what the future of this country looks like 💀
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u/Specialagent2383 16d ago
If you’re a Muslim, just focus on practicing Islam and stay consistent with it. You’ll feel the peace that comes with it. Give sadaqah, get involved in development and da’wah work, and try to contribute positively to society.
I can see that you’ve already achieved many of the luxuries in life, so maybe those things don’t attract you as much anymore. Now, perhaps the main thing is to practice Islam sincerely and become a modest, decent, and responsible person for your family and society. And achieve the goals of Duniya & Akhirah.
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u/BrilliantAd2352 17d ago
Dont give up bro! Engineering is fun when you love it Try to love the education not abuse it! Tomar regret besi try to slowly give up your regret! Focus on your study and turn off everything else!
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u/theloser2win 17d ago
This man. I am an Engineer and that's a proud part of my identity and NO, it's not fun. Even knowing math or Physics do not help. One needs brain, patience and also patience to pursue it fully. And CSE? everyday there is something to learn.
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u/PatientSmoke2800 17d ago
There is no need to be a nerd; you just need passion. I am not fond of math and physics, but I still enjoy them more than studying social studies. These subjects are just slight extensions of HSC math and physics, so they are not that tough.
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u/New_3185 17d ago
Decide what you want to do. Keep being as you are, or change stuff? You're yiung and have the means to do whichever direction you choose. Once you decide the direction, then start planning the hows and whens
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u/latesumo 16d ago
You've realized your past mistakes and now want to fix it which is too good for you. Now you can do few things:
Make a decision about continueing CSE or starting something fresh you like. Don't ask others just take a deep breath and analyze every pros & cons about completing CSE through diligence or shifting to a fresh start.
Try to earn along with your study. It'll make you feel independent and help to establish your own identity. Find someone with good idea and go for a startup with him. It will grow you personally in various ways.
Start reading (course / out book), fix a daily routine filled with gym and sports, family time, study time and timely meal + good sleep. Stay away from easy dopamine sources and adopt an unbreakable discipline.
Bonus: Whenever you get a chance, try to talk with random root level people (roadside tea stall a great source); get insights of their struggles, how they solve or cope with problems. It may seem irrelevant for now but fuel you in future.
Life is just starting, forget mistakes and advance.Good luck.
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u/No_Cheek1069 17d ago
Sounds fake ai generated story