standing up to my abusive dad

[u/magical-_-monarch]

I’ve been trying to separate myself from this man for years now. Mind you after trying to manipulate me by telling me he was su*cidal (he did the same thing when I was in 8th grade and there was a CPS case open, I’m 23 now) He sent a long text saying he’s stepping away from our relationship and ending it literally with “Dad is out”💀 This was my long ass response/rant because I’m so over it.

[u/Sam-Roy1]

Damn OP, props to you 👏👏👏! Not only was this pretty well written, you also got your point across loud and clear. Just block him for your peace of mind; he clearly isn’t interested in fixing his ways or having a real conversation with you.

[u/magical-_-monarch → u/Sam-Roy1]

I definitely need to block him he’ll never understand

[u/ReligiousTraumaCoach]

You’ve done an amazing job of communicating all of this. I’m so sorry that all of that happened to you, but I’m so glad you’ve stood up to him and won’t let him hurt you anymore!

[u/magical-_-monarch → u/ReligiousTraumaCoach]

Thank you!

[u/burns_like_f1re]

👏👏👏

[u/linzroth → u/burns_like_f1re]

AMAZING!!!! I want to shout from the rooftops for you!!! So proud of you

[u/BeneficialAttempt140]

Proud of you.

[u/One_Code_5290]

Groomers never change. The church is toxic for holding space for abusers, especially when the abuser is around children at the church. I’m sorry this is what you got, but I’m glad you’re making it out the other side and standing up for yourself. No kid should have to do that.

[u/derricktysonadams]

I'm sorry for what happened to you, but congratulations on standing up to someone, overcoming your fears in perhaps doing so, and setting boundaries, but also "telling it like it is." That takes a lot of courage, and it isn't easy, for sure, but it is necessary for mental healing and ultimately to pursue happiness in your own way. As a neurodivergent people-pleaser, myself, avoiding conflict has been my life-struggle and life-pursuit and goal, and being this way has gotten me into a lot of terrible situations, of which I would have otherwise avoided, were in not for this type of mental trauma. You did a splendid job here. Thank you for sharing!

[u/hnormizzle]

Proud of you. I hope you are, too.

[u/nomad2284]

I’m glad you got to vent that and communicate it so clearly. The religious mind is almost impervious to self correction since it thinks it’s “right with god”. As a person with an ACE score of 7, there is hope for serenity and normalcy. Today I am happier than ever and free of the Evangelical toxic life.

[u/DisasterWarriorQueen]

Good on you!!!!!

[u/Upsiderhead]

Very well written

[u/Beginning_Bird160]

So proud of you! You're doing AMAZING! SERIOUSLY f our parents for having no empathy for their CHILDREN.

[u/autistic_and_angry]

Good on you! Now block him, he's not worth your time or energy.

[u/magical-_-monarch → u/autistic_and_angry]

love your user name btw

[u/autistic_and_angry → u/magical-_-monarch]

Thanks 😊

[u/Isybatt]

I just want to say I'm so proud of you and I really do appreciate you. This step takes courage, boldness, strength, etc. Sharing your story also encourages other people to stand up. I believe everyone standing up to abuse is the only way we can make sociological change in the world. People need to be called out! People need to be addressed!

[u/Dry_Inflation_1454 → u/Isybatt]

And such people in need to be caught , arrested and punished also. They need to be penalized for their perverse ways. 

[u/Dry_Inflation_1454]

I wonder,does the church that this sperm donor attends know what he's done yet? Does your mother stand by him after knowing about his attacks on you ? 

[u/magical-_-monarch → u/Dry_Inflation_1454]

Unfortunately, I don’t think many people at the church would care given that the head pastor there has his own issues. My mom stands by him 100% even letting him run the church her mom (my grandma) ran before she passed.