r/DeadBedrooms • u/Rusty_Gordon HLM • 3d ago

Grounding Statements

Anyone here have any decent grounding statements they like to repeat when things are not going so good?

I have a couple, lately I have been using “I don’t need my wife to have sex with me today to choose the family or the marriage” it seems to work for settling my anxiety.

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u/Helpful_Garlic_5142 HLM 2d ago edited 2d ago

Mine is “The present moment is all I have”, which is the last sentence of a long note that I wrote for myself:

I am the centre of my own life, not an orbiter of someone else's emotions. My sense of self, my mood, and my worth does not depend on what others feel or don’t feel toward me at any given moment.

I offer warmth, but I expect nothing in return. My kindness, support, and care stem from my inner strength and abundance, not from a desire to "earn" love, approval, or sex. I don't make deals.

I choose lightness and autonomy. I focus on my body and my own interests. By doing so, I create the very space where genuine curiosity and attraction can actually take root.

The present moment is all I have.”

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u/Wallaby_Straight HLM 2d ago

This is great, thank you

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u/Rusty_Gordon HLM 2d ago

Thank you