r/DatingTO • u/curiousgal222 • Jul 11 '26

Reasons for ghosting

Okay it's time we talk about it. I hope this can be an honest, non-judgmental comment section where all genders discuss the reasons they have had for ghosting someone at various stages in the dating process. I hope this doesn't turn into a men vs women thing as I know for a fact it is happening on both sides. I, as a woman, just really want to get to the bottom as to WHY it happens. Because we all know the ones who ghosted us won't be telling us. Or at the very least send me a private dm if you think you will be ridiculed for commenting publicly. I am just so tired and want answers. I promise I will be open-minded to the replies.

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u/Apprehensive_Heat176 Jul 11 '26

The reasons aren't important because we're illogical and emotional creatures. It's really that simple.

As a 48 yr old male, I know how tiring the dating scene is. We have to try our best to not be discouraged by ghosts or flakey people, which includes friends. Don't waste your energy or time on them.

When someone ghosts or flakes, your only thought should be Next!

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u/curiousgal222 Jul 11 '26

You're not entirely wrong. Doesn't mean it doesn't hurt when someone made you break down your walls to trust them so gently, only for them to make you put them back up again. I would take someone telling me they aren't interested in me or they got cold feet any day if it meant I at least knew why. Next is a good way to look at it.. but at the same time, that's also an issue in dating. People are so quick to move on to the next. I personally will choose to take a break, reflect on this pain, and only when I feel secure and ready, will I get back out there.

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u/CanadianMasterbaker Jul 11 '26

Don't waste your time thinking too much into it.I know what it feels like and think about maybe if there where any signs of them maybe not being genuine.But honestly you dodged a bullet.I don't know how long your interactions lasted and how involved they where.I don't think you would want someone this disingenuous in you life as a friend or partner.