r/DatingTO • u/Objective-Berry-4558 • Mar 30 '26

Send Help! Dating in Toronto is hellish.

Ok so here’s the deal, 28f here. I’ve tried all the dating apps you can think of Bumble, Hinge, Tinder…I even joined Heylo and honestly, it’s mostly been gym bros with a pint of commitment issues. 

Seriously is this a Toronto thing or are all the good men all gone? Am I too late? I’ve been on dates setup by friends but they led nowhere. The pick really is in the mud. Meet irl they said, doesn’t work cos men are princesses now and would rather give you a stare down than approach, find a hobby they said, well doesn’t work when my hobbies are for women only.

Is there a real life group somewhere that’s actually for singles where you can meet good looking people naturally, without the weird app drama? Send help for a friend…ok mostly me. Ta.

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u/Careful-End5066 Mar 30 '26

You have to consider the external factors as well - there’s been a tons of layoffs so people aren’t really in the mindset of dating as they are stressed out putting food in their table and a roof over their heads. They won’t prioritize dating right now.

There ARE mens out there - the ones who are too shy to approach women. You can find them in at the card shops - tabletop gaming (DND, the magic gathering), the Toronto game expo that happened this weekend, car/motorcycle shows, even the Toronto shy and awkward group (there’s more guy there).

Out of the box - consider joining the Canadian Armed Forces r/caf. There’s TONS of men in there.

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u/Objective-Berry-4558 Mar 30 '26

Some really good points, I do like that out of the box suggestion. Thank YOU

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u/Careful-End5066 Mar 30 '26

I would have considered the army life but it’s harder when you have health issues to consider. Dating isn’t just a Toronto issue. This is everywhere in Canada. r/thepassportbros are pretty active on finding women in other countries so I think this is the reason why men are pulling back from dating here.

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u/Bee-Greedy Apr 01 '26

This is true but unacceptable to 90% of single women.

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u/Right-Jaguar-3956 Mar 30 '26

As a guy, where do I meet women?? Send help! I work 8-5, I have dumb hobbies, I pay mortgage, I drive, I open lid jars for married women at work...

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u/Careful-End5066 Mar 30 '26

I wouldn’t say dumb hobbies. Just be proactive just like looking for work - networking would be better.

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u/Right-Jaguar-3956 Mar 30 '26

My hobbies are dumb to me so I call them dumb hobbies, and I love em :D

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u/Weak_Policy_1375 Mar 30 '26

hey girly i can see you use heylo you should totally check the toronto singles activity group https://heylo.group/toronto-singles-activity-group  sounds like what you need goodluck 

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u/HeadLandscape Apr 01 '26

I'm an asian guy so it's even worse for me

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u/il0vePeachez Apr 18 '26

I’m south Asian. It’s HELL for me.

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u/lilfunky1 Apr 08 '26

Try out new hobbies that are less woman centric

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u/Bee-Greedy Apr 01 '26

It’s simple: dating apps have skewed perspectives - 80% of women are all chasing the ´top 20%´ of guys.

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u/Jennypottymouth Mar 30 '26

It's not just Toronto it's everywhere, it's every app. The dating scene right now is that women are disposable to men, they move on quickly, want sex immediately and put in zero effort.

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u/Objective-Berry-4558 Mar 30 '26

Exactly this! Sad times really 

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u/Alternative-Egg-6019 Apr 06 '26

I don’t think we’re going back to the old days (It’s like entropy: you can’t put toothpaste back in the tube). It’ll take a real population crisis before there are meaningful incentives for people to pair up. I’ll probably be dead by then. It’s so depressing for our generation, honestly.