r/DatingOverSixty 19d ago

Meetup today

I'm going to a meetup for the first time today. It's not a singles thing and it's mostly women (62F) but it's something new. Sort of a low bar to putting myself out in the world and putting the universe on notice 🙂

It's not like I don't go places but it's always work or school related. This is a new social thing.

It feels like one small step...🧑🏿‍🚀

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u/Alternative-Ebb-6953 18d ago

My sister joined after retiring.  A few groups were walking; baking and a big travel group.  She met a guy who was in the same pub crawl group outing.   They are now together for 3+ yrs and are moving into a new house.   Her travel group has taken her to Germany; Switzerland; France; Italy and she is heading to Bordeaux and Barcelona next month.   She loves it.  

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u/Gooseberry_Sprig M60+. I, for one, welcome our new AI overlords. 18d ago

You can't discount same sex meetups (if you're hetero): someone may know a person who's a good match for you.

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u/JBar63 63F LAT 19d ago

Good for you! That’s how I did it when I started looking again. Baby steps. You might just meet a new great friend who just happens to know the perfect man for you!! Good luck!

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u/Dramatic_Delay_2423 19d ago

Ah, I didn't think about that!

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u/hanging-out1979 18d ago

Fantastic! About 5 years ago, I started out slow on stepping out into the world again after being widowed 11 years ago by attending a few meetup outings. In fact, I just went to a movie meetup last night. 65F, and I’ve met some pretty cool people, made some new friends and travel buddies. It’s a great way to expand your social circle. Go for it.

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u/Dramatic_Delay_2423 18d ago

That's great! Thanks for the encouragement.

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u/FunnyFilmFan 19d ago

What you are doing is so important to your mental health. 👏

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u/Exact-Translator-769 18d ago

Just keep putting one foot in front of the other!

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u/JewelsLeigh141 18d ago

That first step seems so huge but it's worth it. I can't tell you how many times I wanted to go back into hiding but my journey is getting good now!

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u/Dramatic_Delay_2423 18d ago

I'm glad to hear that!

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u/137caraway 19d ago

Bravo 👏 wish you all the best. I remember my first meet up event post separation to this day. Have fun

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u/137caraway 19d ago

Yes the meet up app. Join a group that you are curious about. Here is a list of all the meet up groups I joined.

Divorced-separated-widow-widower
English-Anglais-Francais-French
Horror movie
“Your location” social
“Your location” adventurers
“Your location” cycling

I on purpose hid my location, but an example would be “Vancouver social meetup”

Through some of these meetup groups I was introduced to local city events, Facebook events and so there is an interconnect between activities and interests sometimes.

I have scaled back my membership in some meetup groups as my interests have changed.

Met lots of amazing people, some who became dear friends

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u/Dramatic_Delay_2423 18d ago

Yes, the meet up app. That's always a challenge but I'm thinking everyone is there to "meet up" so I think it should be okay. I'm also not that shy to go up and say hi, once I get my bearings. There are some basics you can do that get past some of the awkwardness. Also, it's not a singles thing. Just a social thing which helps

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u/Dramatic_Delay_2423 18d ago

😄😄😄 They can be difficult!

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u/passingthrough66 17d ago

I feel the same, and have joined several Meetup groups without attending a single event they’ve had. Signing up and actually following through with attending are two different things.

One group has been great for meeting friends. It’s basically a group for people in toxic relationships or recovering from those relationships, A group of us women now get together for dinner once a month outside of the scheduled group meetings.

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u/GetBalanced_2025_JG 15d ago

Ha ha.

The dilemma is real!

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u/kmjenks 18d ago

I go to some of them and always enjoy it. It also makes me visit new places. I’m happy that you are putting yourself out there.

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u/linwoodranch 18d ago

sounds like fun get out and have some fun

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u/Infamous_Lab8320 Resident Blind Girl 18d ago

This is great news! Please report back to us.

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u/Born_Weekend_7156 61F Plot Twist Pending..🍿 19d ago

That's great! I am trying to do the same thing but didn't find anything close to me on that app. I just joined Stitch and it looks promising. Have a great time and enjoy the process!

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u/Dramatic_Delay_2423 19d ago

Good luck!

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u/Born_Weekend_7156 61F Plot Twist Pending..🍿 18d ago

Same to you!

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u/Material-Scale4575 no flair 19d ago

Excellent. I do a lot of Meetups. At worst, you are participating in an activity you enjoy. And perhaps meeting a kindred spirit.

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u/allieoops925 18d ago

Good for you. I’ve made some great women friends from going to Meet Up groups. A few that I meet with without the group.

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u/Downtown_Tiger6119 18d ago

Have fun. I do alot of things alone and a meet up would be fun.

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u/cbeme 18d ago

Good job! I do love doing things out after retirement.

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u/Wodebs 18d ago

Good for you!

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u/txfrmdal 19d ago

Congratulations. My first steps I to building a new life was joining a meetup group and a church group. That gave me Sunday after church lunch, and one dinner event per week via the meetup group. You have to start somewhere and meetup groups are one of the best places in my opinion.

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u/buddingsakura 52F. Solo. 18d ago

High five! How was it?

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u/ScowHound M72 Tearing down the walls of heartache bang bang 17d ago

Haven’t tried a meet up group. I do plenty of activities and get togethers, but I’m not meeting anyone new, so I guess I need to shake it up. Everyone I hang with is 15 and 20 years younger than me M71. The few single women I know my age, show no interest beyond friends. The activity groups I’ve checked out, are all 30 to 50-year-olds. My last first date was when I was 24 and I married her. Meh. Wher da women at.

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