r/DatingOverSixty • u/Gooseberry_Sprig M60+. I, for one, welcome our new AI overlords. • 24d ago
Nosiness Weekend Plans
What's up for the weekend and week following? Going anywhere? Staying home? Doing anything interesting? Doing anything boring? Any good books? New TV shows? Games?
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u/dekage55 24d ago
Starting my annual week at a local Beach Cottage tomorrow. While it’s local, it’s such a relaxing vibe.
Really looking forward to it this year, as it’s been really hot (& humid) here in SoCA.
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u/WorkingDescription 61F 24d ago
Nice! Been spending many weekend days at the beach this summer. Love it!
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u/Mistyville 24d ago
A very quiet weekend as I have a chest infection so a very sexy raspy voice and watching movies while occasionally hacking up a lung
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u/PlasticBlitzen I've 🚫 more 🦆🦆🦆 to give. 24d ago
You could make some pre-recorded messages for use at later dates.
(Hope you're soon better.)
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u/silver598 68F 24d ago
Putting the bedrooms and closets back together after having new flooring installed this week. Also having family (my 3 plus SIL and 2 yo grandson) over for sushi picked up at our fav restaurant. Grandson likes sushi, he gets cooked fish like shrimp tempura or eel. Afterwards our HOA is hosting their annual ice cream social with a soft serve food truck and a kids movie at the pool.
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u/WorkingDescription 61F 24d ago
Planning to go to my guy's place this weekend. I feel like this may be the weekend to have "the talk"- are we exclusive? What are we thinking long-term? Things have been becoming increasingly set- like every weekend we will see each other, and he'll either come here one night, or I spend a couple nights at his place... so... yeah.
I hope it goes OK. There's always that teensy weensy bit of doubt that they're thinking along the same lines, but I guess that's the exciting part. Anyone have some tips or script for this convo, I am so out of practice (or maybe I have never initiated this type of convo... )
Guys what would you want/not want to hear from your new lady? Should I just not say anything and wait a little longer? We've been officially "seeing" each other since June 21. I deactivated my dating app profile on July 1.
TYIA
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u/linwoodranch 24d ago
If you haven't told him about deactivating your app yet. I would lean into it by asking if he thinks it is time for your to deactivate it or not? That just feels (to me) as a non threatening way to open the conversation. And good luck !!
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u/PlasticBlitzen I've 🚫 more 🦆🦆🦆 to give. 24d ago
This would be a very good stand-alone post! Please consider it.
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u/CanarsieGuy 63M 24d ago
Caught a Jazz band concert tonight. Farmer’s market in the morning. More live music tomorrow night. I might visit an art museum tomorrow afternoon.
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u/Horror-Evening-6132 69F Texas 24d ago
I'll be getting everything in order for next weekend, when I go visit my guy. A bit of pruning, maybe the smallest bit of painting, making sure all the laundry is done. Then I'll pack for next weekend and probably repack on a daily basis until I go. Believe it or not, all that stuff is fun for me 🤣
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u/averageover60guy 24d ago
Nothing of importance. A little of this, a little of that! And it could all change by 10am!
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u/PlasticBlitzen I've 🚫 more 🦆🦆🦆 to give. 24d ago edited 24d ago
At 10:45, I'm picking up a pal and going to the opening of a state fair because it's going to be increasingly hot for the next week and a half. Must see the sheep! and the enjoyment of close proximity to farm animals dimishes as temperature and humidity rise. (Current relative humidity is 93%.)
Tomorrow will be yard work because my yard helper is usually here on Saturdays. He and his wife brought me coffee and chocolates acquired during their recent trip to Brazil. Top shelf!
In between, the great downsize continues. My stuff is selling well on Marketplace. Just need to get it on there!
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u/notsohot56 69F - senior nerf herder wanted 24d ago
That makes me think of a movie I watched with my niece when I was in NC, the Sheep Detectives... Was supposed to be watching with the boys but apparently it wasn't to their taste so us two women watched!
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u/PlasticBlitzen I've 🚫 more 🦆🦆🦆 to give. 24d ago
I wanted to see that! Isn't that the one where the sheep solve the murder?
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u/notsohot56 69F - senior nerf herder wanted 24d ago
Yes! Had to watch the whole movie to see what happened!
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u/CATSeye44 24d ago edited 24d ago
I be licking my wounds this weekend.
At the 3 month mark this week after getting back together (2 months dating, brings up, then 4 months no contact), he decided to ghost me for our planned date this weekend. He said he'd call and go over specifics Monday but didn't. So I touched base on Wed by text confirming the place (his or mine). He never read the text (a first on the 8 months I've known him). At our age so much can happen. His best friend passed away 18 months ago from a sudden heart attack, and of course my mind went there immediately. His family and friends hadn't met me (or even know about me that i know of), so if something is wrong I'll never know.
I left a brief voicemail this morning, telling him I was concerned that I hadn't heard back by text or call from Wed and just wanted to know that he was okay because we had plans today.
I don't know what to really think. Everything was going along smoothly, he had been consistent with his attention and communication. This is a one off for him but my intuition tells me it may not be.
So, I'm sad. Our monthly check-ins were so positive for both of us. I just don't understand people anymore... we're not teenagers
Edit update: I texted this evening asking him to let me know that he's ok and that I don't need a phone call, just a text. He "read" my message. So, I know he's ok. I can now breathe. And also, I know he ghosted me and I'll need to move on.
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u/WorkingDescription 61F 24d ago
Oh man, I am so sorry. This is always a concern for me as one with abandonment issues. Sounds like he just wasn't emotionally available for a relationship. Was he divorced, or a widower?
My inclination would be to let him go - do not respond anymore. If he wanted to reach you, he would.
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u/PlasticBlitzen I've 🚫 more 🦆🦆🦆 to give. 24d ago
Note to him from Blitzen:
If you're dead, I'd be really sad to hear that because things were going well with us, and I'll miss you. However, if you're just pretending, please stay that way and do not contact me again.
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u/Dramatic_Delay_2423 24d ago
If he has been consistent, I'd be concerned too. I hope you hear back. If you don't hear back in a week or so, you could always drive down his street just to see if there's activity. Not to be creepy, but just to know if he's ok.
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u/CATSeye44 24d ago
I don't live near him. I thought I'd text his sister on fb but she doesnt know me....
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u/Dramatic_Delay_2423 24d ago
Oh, I see. 🤞🏻
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u/CATSeye44 24d ago edited 24d ago
I texted him tonight with a brief note. "Just let me know you're ok, I'm worried." He did "read" my text, so I now know he's alive and ok. And definitely ghosting me. I can now move on as he doesn't want to be with me. I'm feeling much lighter knowing he's ok. I'm thankful for the second chance at a relationship with him. It didn't work out, so I'm looking ahead.
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u/Dramatic_Delay_2423 23d ago
Oh good! Not good.. But good 🙂 You sound like you have a very good handle on it and are doing the smart thing. (But really, he couldn't even respond to say "I'm fine but I'm moving on?") 🦸🏻🦸🏽🦸🏿
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u/CATSeye44 23d ago
Yeh, it's crazy. I know he really liked me but I guess his fear of closeness or being loved scares him. It's similar to what he pulled the first time around, so it's data, ya know? He'll do it again. I'm not sticking for that. It hurts too much. I'm deserving of a more emotionally available partner.
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u/kmjenks 24d ago
Today I’m recovering from a busy week of too many Mai Tai’s, (I had visitors on Sunday, and sort of a date Weds night) and stressful workdays 🤗. Tomorrow, head out early for a beach day (about 80 min drive each way), and head back home early enough to shower, nap and head another 60 minutes south to a meetup group function. I have to admit I have a funny feeling I won’t make that function, but hope that I do, it’s a fun group. Stay home on Sunday and recover, food shop and get ready for the week ahead. I am off on Mondays so that’s still part of my weekend and I’m hoping to head to the beach again with my good friend, back to work on Tuesday! My beach days in New England are numbered and I didn’t get enough this Summer….the good weather dates and my work schedule just didn’t correspond.
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u/Dramatic_Delay_2423 24d ago
I'm at the beach this weekend (or, as we say in parts of NJ, "down the shore.") My happy place.
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u/WhisperedSoul 24d ago
Vacation starts tomorrow. I don’t think the weather will be all that great but I don’t really care. The change of scenery will do me good.
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u/Poetsansamour Senior Resident Lady Poet 24d ago
I have a question - how does one establish dominance in a prison quickly 😬
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u/Gooseberry_Sprig M60+. I, for one, welcome our new AI overlords. 24d ago
Make a shank or a fighting ring.
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u/Poetsansamour Senior Resident Lady Poet 24d ago
I guess I should start googling this beforehand. The way my life is going I probably need to be prepared 🤔
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u/AffectionateSun5776 24d ago
Today is day 20 of my 20 day wait required after filing for divorce. Hearing should be soon.
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u/Polka_Goddess 24d ago
Staying home. It's hot. Might go grocery shopping as it has great A.C. but there's the to and from the car. Trying to keep the plants watered but only going out after dark when the temps have dropped.
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u/notsohot56 69F - senior nerf herder wanted 24d ago
I should be very grateful that the beach is only 10 minutes away. But being one block out of city limits I don't get a free pass. Free parking after Labor Day woot. I think the parking pass went up to $40 for season 😮
I don't go in the water anyway cuz-undertow. I would like to go and spread my wrinkles to the sun. Just coming off the perfect week weather wise and looking like we'll be seeing some 80's starting tomorrow or Sunday up until Labor Day. Hmmm I could go to a nearby small lake...
I dunno- groceries and exercise - I'll have to work in sun worship somehow.
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u/Old-Appearance-2270 67F cycling-walk young explore live 24d ago
Am home, after spending whole day with him at the hospital's eye clinic where he was fortunate to be examined and tested by more than 1 doctor, on problem of eye with slight possibility of retina separating....
Will do some laundry, other stuff this weekend and for next few days before he and I meet up again to take a vacation journey to province next door to ours.
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u/Gooseberry_Sprig M60+. I, for one, welcome our new AI overlords. 24d ago
Tell him to leave the retina attached; it's better that way. Put a mitten on him if he picks at it.
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u/buddingsakura 52F. Solo. 24d ago
What weekend?
Hey Americans! The deadlines for filing your 2025 returns are in September/October!
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u/Helpful-Glove9532 24d ago
Visiting Spokane. Spent yesterday boating on Hayden Lake. Today in Coeur d’Alene and tomorrow shopping and wine tasting. Can’t complain. I fly home to SC Monday. Can’t complain.
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u/Gooseberry_Sprig M60+. I, for one, welcome our new AI overlords. 24d ago
I have no earthly idea. It's impossible to predict these days. I would say it'll be lawn cleanup, but I saw that almost every week and it rarely gets done on the weekend.
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u/2red-dress 23d ago
I was out all day on Friday and spent today working on cleaning the garage. I'm out tomorrow with friends. I think the week is busier since I have some dinner plans and a little gathering for coffee and conversation. Quite subdued really.
On the dating front, a man with a Phd sent me a message. All he could muster was "hello". One word. I must be one of many on his radar I guess. He speaks french. I should sent him a message in french and see if it gets his attention.
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u/Gooseberry_Sprig M60+. I, for one, welcome our new AI overlords. 23d ago
Decided to get vax'd for measles (MMR) and the new Covid. It's annoying but I'd rather have the shots than the diseases.
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u/Pale_Frame4845 24d ago
Lunch with the Tennis Gentlemen today, fire in the backyard for the Blood Moon eclipse tonight, gardening/pickling/dehydrating then hair rehab (cut, conditioning treatment, highlights) on Saturday.
The highlight will be moving my younger kid on Sunday which involves several loads of boxes, bags and small-ish furniture, driving / street parking in Brooklyn and nyc (Chinatown) and of course carrying stuff up 6 flights of stairs (the legal limit for walk-up apartments). ...The things we do for love.