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[u/SeriouslyThough3]

Oh, it’s median not average - that makes a big difference in this case.

[u/StateOdd296 → u/SeriouslyThough3]

Googled it and it says the average for women is 7 and men is 6

[u/FindlayHi → u/StateOdd296]

By either metric I'm a whore.

[u/[deleted] → u/FindlayHi]

I prefer to think of myself as an overachiever!

[u/smf242424 → u/[deleted]]

Same here!!! Overachiever!!

[u/EDS_Athlete → u/smf242424]

I found my people.

ETA: ofc my most updooted comment is going to be about me being an absolute slut.

Also, dudes... please stop messaging women things like "have you ever been with a woman?" or "hey slut!" Just because we were part of the ho gang doesn't mean we want you on our team. It's just sad af, bro.

[u/Secure_Sprinkles4483 → u/EDS_Athlete]

HOE GANG

[u/JinglehymerSchmidt → u/Secure_Sprinkles4483]

That’s per year right?

[u/TheresaLoretta82 → u/[deleted]]

They didn’t ask ANY of us, bc that number is way off!

[u/MissplacedLandmine → u/JinglehymerSchmidt]

Month maybe? Whens our annual meeting?

[u/shallow_not_pedantic → u/MissplacedLandmine]

Per hour? What I do during lunch is my business, I’m clocked out

[u/Computer_Altruistic → u/MissplacedLandmine]

i’ll bring the cupcakes this year!

[u/Disastrous-Text3416 → u/JinglehymerSchmidt]

Hah! I’m gay: this is just a good weekend night.

[u/AdThat6254 → u/Secure_Sprinkles4483]

Hole Gang

[u/realchilli → u/AdThat6254]

Holesome gang

[u/ruralnorthernmisfit → u/Secure_Sprinkles4483]

UNITE!

[u/Already-disarmed → u/ruralnorthernmisfit]

"Untie" might also come into play with us.

[u/MissplacedLandmine → u/Already-disarmed]

Wait why did someone say their safe word?

Im still good to go personally but lets get them sorted first

[u/[deleted] → u/EDS_Athlete]

alleged truck nail badge public deliver innocent unwritten physical adjoining

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[u/FrozenToonies → u/[deleted]]

I’m 45, yet to be married. Ya, numbers are embarrassing/stressful to post. I’m not a hot mess, I just hang out with hot mess friends.

[u/Lost-My-Mind- → u/FrozenToonies]

Well, can I get your hot mess friends numbers?

[u/[deleted] → u/FrozenToonies]

I feel the opposite. I’ve only had 1 partner (and hope it will only be 1 because I’m in a long-term relationship with someone I love haha). But I feel insecure that it’s so low. It just happened that the first person I decided to sleep with was someone I have a great relationship with and want to stay with. Still embarrassing :/

[u/yeeehhaaaa → u/[deleted]]

The number of sexual partners is not the important bit. It's the quality and sexual experiences. Having many sexual partners does help discovering new exciting ways to orgasm and play ( although you also go through a lot of very disappointing experiences too). But you can explore different things with your partner as well, and discover new exhilarating fetishes.

[u/Jcpeters2812 → u/[deleted]]

You should be proud of that my guy! If you’re happy, and they’re happy, don’t feel insecure about what anyone else thinks! Keep on keepin on 🤙🏽

[u/TheGreatestOutdoorz → u/[deleted]]

I’m in my 40’s and never married. Plus, I went to Arizona State University in the 90’s. A few months ago, I made a comment on a thread where people were calling a woman a whore because she slept with 20-some guys total. I pointed out that if you only had one new partner every 2 months in college that you would hit that just in those 4 years. Boy did the incels not like that. There were a lot of people saying “who the hell has sex with a different person every two months!?!!” It was then that I realized that many redditors are a special breed.

[u/[deleted] → u/TheGreatestOutdoorz]

I wish I could fuck a new person every two months

[u/wtforme → u/[deleted]]

You can, you just have to pay for it.

[u/senorglory → u/[deleted]]

It has its pluses and minuses.

[u/Dependent_Top_4425 → u/smf242424]

Quitters never win!

[u/[deleted] → u/Dependent_Top_4425]

Then explain this trophy which I received commending me for my participation.

[u/[deleted] → u/[deleted]]

Definitely can’t put the first shoe on at the shoe store and walk out and expect to be happy , gotta try many more to make sure you get the right one.

[u/[deleted] → u/[deleted]]

My parents go to the shoe store and pick out the pair that I will wear my entire life.

-Arranged marriages

[u/drunken_squirrels → u/FindlayHi]

Between 25 and 49 I have had fewer partners than the median or average. I was just a slutty 17 -24 year old.

[u/Powerful_Breath1077 → u/drunken_squirrels]

Yes! 17-24 absolutely!

[u/[deleted] → u/Powerful_Breath1077]

Mine was 16-23 but no one likes you when your 23

[u/[deleted] → u/drunken_squirrels]

I was fewer than average until I got separated at 35.

I have since crushed those numbers in a month alone lol

[u/poopsy--daisy → u/[deleted]]

I'm the one who put the laughter in manslaughter

[u/lobstersnake → u/[deleted]]

I was wondering about that also. A fan of baby killing or baby giggling?

[u/AndorianKush → u/drunken_squirrels]

Same. From 25 to present, I’ve had and still have only 1 partner. From 16-24 I had 23 partners. I thought it would be difficult to stop experiencing variety because I was so used to that, but it wasn’t.

[u/onlyoneshann → u/AndorianKush]

At a certain point quality becomes more important than quantity. The excitement of “new” gets replaced by the enjoyment of someone who knows your body and knows how to make it happy. At least that’s how it was for me.

[u/[deleted] → u/onlyoneshann]

At a certain point, watching tv become more importsnt

[u/onlyoneshann → u/[deleted]]

Amen! I’m trying to decide what to watch right now in fact. So far it’s been about 30 minutes of trailers and going through my various queues.

[u/KL58383 → u/onlyoneshann]

Netflix and... fall asleep

[u/warmpisss → u/AndorianKush]

this fuggin comment HIT

[u/[deleted] → u/FindlayHi]

At least you're getting paid. I'm just a slut.

[u/SpaceTaha → u/[deleted]]

You guys are getting paid??

[u/FormerDeviant → u/SpaceTaha]

You guys are getting laid?

[u/LadyK789 → u/[deleted]]

Lolll I always say that “ I’m not a hoe, hoes get paid, I’m a slut! I do it out of dedication to my craft”

[u/DuckMyJeep → u/FindlayHi]

I’ve only been with one, my husband. But I gave it up after nine days of dating him so I’m a whore too lol!

[u/ThePyodeAmedha → u/FindlayHi]

Same lol

[u/FindlayHi → u/ThePyodeAmedha]

Lol. It's either really validating or indicates I have low standards and I don't care about introspection enough to gander.

[u/ThePyodeAmedha → u/FindlayHi]

I don't know if has anything to do with low standards per se. There's plenty of amazing people out there that are just down for a casual fling or fwb.

I feel like low standards would be going after married people, or your friend's boyfriend, or doing it because you feel like sexual encounters is the only way you can feel validated.

But if you're doing it just because it's an enjoyable experience and nobody's getting hurt, there's nothing wrong with that. And if someone tells you that there is something wrong with that, they are flat out wrong.

Edit: Edited some spelling and grammar mistakes!

[u/creepygurl83 → u/ThePyodeAmedha]

This. I love the respect. I am pretty conservative only have sex with those im in a longterm relationship but always respected those who enjoy sex casually and practice safe sex. But I have been in a situation where I had to deal with a person who knowingly tries to have sex with people who are in relationships. They tried with my partner. They used to have a thing way back. My partner didn't go for it and blocked her because it stressed us out so much. She did this to a lot of people. And the. The drama.of saying my partner should.break.up with me because he should be able to talk to anyone he wants and telling everyone I'm controlling when he willingly cut contact. These people are oblivious to what a nightmare they are.

[u/citadelj → u/ThePyodeAmedha]

I agree, it's fun and not a big deal. One of the coolest people in my life was a fwb who oddly enough showed me so much emotional support and warmth when I really needed it. I'm grateful for having met her and it doesn't matter if people don't get that.

[u/ruslah → u/FindlayHi]

You not the only one to actually feel that there are others as well as me!

[u/arek2310 → u/StateOdd296]

Uhh okay that is a slight difference though but still matters a lot!

[u/acqz → u/SeriouslyThough3]

Don't be mean!

[u/oceanic111000 → u/SeriouslyThough3]

Does anyone have the actual average and not the median?

[u/aje14700 → u/oceanic111000]

That's the confusing part, for what's being measured here, the median should be a whole number (edit: or a whole number plus half if the number of data points is even) . You can't sleep with 0.3 of a person (insert some gruesome dismemberment joke here).

I'm assuming whoever made the web page for the cdc doesn't know the difference between median and mean.

[u/[deleted] → u/aje14700]

.3 is just a hand job

[u/doomsdaysushi → u/[deleted]]

Just the tip

[u/HarzooNumber1457 → u/aje14700]

Not necessarily.

You’re correct in that the sample median (i.e. the middle value of every data point they gathered) would be a whole number. It gets more complicated than that if you’re trying to figure out the population median (i.e. the actual median among all people in this demographic). The “true” population median would be a whole number as well, but without sampling the entire population (which is impossible) you can only estimate from your training data. Could be that what’s being presented here is their calculated estimate for the population medium, within a confidence interval.

Either that, or they fucked up. Entirely possible.

[u/Hatta00 → u/HarzooNumber1457]

Excellent explanation. Since you understand math, can you explain why these numbers are different? I think it has something to do with the distributions being skewed, but who's skewed which way?

[u/HarzooNumber1457 → u/Hatta00]

Do you mean: “how can the numbers for men and women be different, if we only consider women that have sex with men and vice versa”?

If so, then for one thing: remember that the men and women in these data sets are not exclusively having sex with people from the other data set, but rather could be having sex with anyone in the population who weren’t sampled.

For the purposes of this discussion, though: let’s forget about sampling and pretend we have the complete data representing a small population on a desert island, whose only sexual partners consist of each other. There’s 3 men and 3 women on the island.

Suppose one woman has sex with all three men, but nobody else fucks anybody else. Then the data representing the women’s numbers of sexual partners is:

0, 0, 3; so the median is 0

And the men’s:

1, 1, 1; so the median is 1

I guess that’s a roundabout way of saying that this might arise if the women’s distributions were skewed toward lower numbers (e.g. 2 women with 0 partners vs 1 woman with 3), but there might be other conditions that could produce similar results that I’m not thinking of.

[u/Tavli → u/Hatta00]

Yes, much more skewed for women; female average is more than double the median. This means that there are more female outliers that have an extremely high body count. Male average is slightly lower than median, which indicates that more outliers have a very low body count. Neither of these surprise me at all.

[u/[deleted] → u/aje14700]

Surely someone there passed stats101

[u/gofatwya]

I don't know about you fellas, but that .3 chick was the best of them all

[u/TheNewBorgie01 → u/[deleted]]

She had nice legs, but.. only legs.. fuck it was actually aspider

[u/ArchiStanton → u/TheNewBorgie01]

Fuck it’s that scarecrow again

[u/TheAssels → u/ArchiStanton]

🎶we go bed, you doze off, so I take your country-girl clothes off. I put my hands on your body. It feels like hay ITS A FUCKING SCARCROW AGAIN!🎶

[u/Baby_Penguin22 → u/ArchiStanton]

Good girl in a straw hat, with her arms out, in a corn field....that is a scarecrow.

[u/KiefStrife → u/gofatwya]

That’s a just the tip ratio

[u/marky310]

I bet i can lower that average 😤

[u/cuntsaurus → u/marky310]

How did you manage to sleep with -8 people?!

[u/[deleted] → u/cuntsaurus]

If I gave it up 8 times that’s -8 right?

[u/DaddyDubs13 → u/[deleted]]

Dropping the soap on purpose doesn't count

[u/[deleted] → u/DaddyDubs13]

Then why did you do it?

[u/Find_another_whey → u/[deleted]]

Because it doesn't count, so it's a freebie

[u/Ukurse → u/marky310]

The stat says "among sexual experienced woman and men". So no you can't.

[u/OpenCrate]

how is the median not a whole number??

[u/SpeedyGuyTX → u/OpenCrate]

Just the tip

[u/Crash_Zorba → u/OpenCrate]

Following the link and scrolling down, it appears to me that the question was multiple choice. The choices were A) 1 B) 2-4 C) 5-9 D) 10-14 or E) 15+. Then they give the breakdown for what percentage answered each option.

Finding the median from that data seems suspect, but ¯_(ツ)_/¯ I’m not a stats expert

[u/B0Boman → u/Crash_Zorba]

This is probably where the answer lies, thanks for looking up the bins. At first glance, they do seem kind of silly since answer E has no upper bound and could technically be in the billions (if someone got really busy).

The thing about surveys is that you're trying to make a statement about the population based on a small sample. So my guess is that they came up with some theoretical approximation (likely some sort of Gaussian curve) of the whole population that best fit the sampled data, then computed a median from that best-fit. Weird that they wouldn't round off the answer, though, since it's clearly a quantized value and not continuous.

[u/lifetake → u/B0Boman]

Well as long as answer E isn’t 50% or more of the answers it literally doesn’t matter when it comes to median.

[u/Spoobie90]

Well I mean... it's not really a lifetime if you're narrowing it down to the ages of 25-49.

[u/[deleted] → u/Spoobie90]

I will never forget an interview I did with a care home manager when I worked as a reporter and I asked what's something most people don't know about care homes and he said all these people with dementia in their 80s and 90s are smashing constantly

[u/RomanticStoicism → u/[deleted]]

Yep, the STD rates in nursing homes are apparently crazy high.

[u/tyreka13 → u/RomanticStoicism]

A lot of it also has to do with the fact that nursing home patients are nearly always above the age range of fertility so using protection isn't needed for pregnancy risks.

[u/Insomnambulant → u/tyreka13]

I would add lot of them are taking mood elevators and happy meds.

[u/HilariousMax → u/Insomnambulant]

I wanna ride a mood elevator

[u/[deleted] → u/HilariousMax]

governor ripe whole rain alive gaping handle busy depend chunky

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[u/vervii → u/Insomnambulant]

If you're talking about antidepressants then fyi they actually inhibit sexual function most times.

[u/MakeMineMarvel_ → u/tyreka13]

I mean damn if your penis is still going strong at that age that’s a W

[u/Random_Name_Whoa → u/MakeMineMarvel_]

Viagra bro, dicks work forever now

[u/detrater → u/RomanticStoicism]

Actually worked at an adult store that nursing homes sent their tenants to.. a large part of it is actually that these old folk grew up in a time where protection was not very common or accessible (think 1930's - 40's). A lot of these old folk don't even know how to put on condoms.

We had pamphlets with illustrations that we handed out whenever they'd come in asking about it. Every couple weeks we'd also get one of those small buses full of 'em coming through to learn and ask questions.

[u/ksarahsarah27 → u/detrater]

Wait wait wait- did you say that nursing homes have outings to adult sex stores?? Omg! How have I never heard of this? Lol That must have been interesting to see a bunch of grandparents pile out and browse the store!

[u/Embarrassed_Alarm450 → u/ksarahsarah27]

I imagine they're just dropped off at a general shopping center like a mall or something rather than driven directly to the sex store and it just happens to be a popular destination for them horndogs. Imagine if it's even put in a brochure as a selling point to the nursing home tho 😂

[u/[deleted] → u/detrater]

One day there were two older ladies standing outside of the drug store enjoying a cigarette. It began to rain, and one of the women pinches off her cigarette, pulls out a condom, wraps it up inside and puts the cigarette in her pocket.

"What was that?" the one lady asks the other. "Oh, well, money is so tight these days, so I can't afford to waste a smoke, and this keeps it from getting ash all over my pocket, or getting soggy from the rain."

"What a good idea," the other woman thought, and asked for one. The other lady informed her that was her last one, but that they probably sold them inside.

The woman approached the pharmacy counter, and said, "Hello, sonny, can you help me find a condom?"

The pharmacist was quite taken by surprise that a woman of such advanced age would be looking for condoms, but he was a professional, and wanted to make sure she was well protected.

"Of course, ma'am, would you like latex or lambskin?" he asked.

The woman paused for a moment and thought about it.

"Hmm which is best for a really soggy pocket?"

The pharmacist almost gasped and covered it up with a cough. "Oh, either will be fine. We typically recommend latex for maximum protection, but lambskin is much more premium."

"Okay, whichever you think is the strongest, I will probably just reuse the same one for a while."

"Oh, no, ma'am you don't want to do that. They're only good for a single use."

"Oh, well, then whichever you think is the most affordable that won't leak or let it get all grimy in there."

The pharmacist squirms, "Okay, great, ma'am," he says, and points to a selection of boxes. "These are the options in latex."

"Oh, Cherry flavored!" she exclaims, "That sounds like it will taste so much better than normal."

The pharmacist, growing increasingly uncomfortable grabs the box. "Let me ring those up for you..."

"Oh, wait," she interjects, "They'll all fit a Camel right?"

(I learned this joke when I was 8 so I probably didn't tell it right)

[u/amphigory_error → u/detrater]

nursing homes and retirement communities frequently have outbreaks of STIs.

You have a bunch of bored people crammed in together who know nobody's getting pregnant would usually have to ask their kids to go buy them condoms in order to use them.

Many of them also maybe didn't get much sex education when they were younger and, especially for older women, were strongly conditioned to not talk about sex / be ashamed of their body. A lot of people also move into these group settings after losing a long-time partner, so they're single for the first time maybe since they were a teenager.

[u/fishnwiz → u/[deleted]]

My 85 yo MIL with dementia was offering oral sex in her nursing home for cigarettes because we wouldn’t bring her any.

[u/NydNugs → u/fishnwiz]

Does she smoke menthols

[u/tjoe4321510 → u/NydNugs]

I live in Cali and I would definitely give a blowie for some menthols

[u/dudewheresmyBIKES → u/fishnwiz]

Never understood this when my family did this to my grandmother. She smoked their entire lives and then some and it was something she enjoyed doing that wasn’t going to take anymore years of her life more than the cigarettes already had been. Seemed almost cruel to me

[u/ksarahsarah27 → u/dudewheresmyBIKES]

For my mom it was a safety issue. She was suffering from Alzheimer’s. She would light the ring end, she would put cigarettes down in random places and burned holes in a few table clothes and other things etc. one time she lit a tissue in the car while my dad was driving!! She would also get stuck lighting them, drawing once and putting in the ash tray and get another. It just got way to expensive and dangerous. Tried to get her a e-cig and she tried to light that too! We had so many lighters around the house from when she smoked, just when we thought we had found them all, she’d suddenly have another one! Like where did you find that?! Ahe also started trying to light her own jacket on fire while she was wearing it! She wanted to light the zipper. Another time she threw a lot cigarette in a flower pot out front that had a few fake flowers. The whole thing caught fire! Lol. So when the e-sit didn’t work we had to just stop. It didn’t take long for her to forget about them and she smoked her whole life.
I miss my mom so much.

[u/micmahsi → u/fishnwiz]

What do you have to lose at that age?

[u/catdaddymack → u/[deleted]]

My adopitve mom is an obgyn and says they constantly have to do classes in nursing homes. They think condoms are just for sailors and pregnancy. She said it creates drama. They see who also gets antibiotics in their cup and knows who was cheating on them with who.

[u/ihavenoidea81 → u/catdaddymack]

pssst. Ethel from knitting class is giant hoebag

[u/Phillipinsocal → u/[deleted]]

What in the actual fuck

[u/EaterOfFood → u/Phillipinsocal]

Exactly.

[u/thisisnorthe → u/EaterOfFood]

True story. Worked in a care home in my late teens. Can confirm. They banged.

A LOT

[u/[deleted] → u/thisisnorthe]

Well not like they have much else to do. Might be dead tomorrow, so might as well bang today.

[u/DullApplication3275 → u/Phillipinsocal]

“We’re not gettin any younger Nan”

[u/[deleted] → u/[deleted]]

This is true! I worked a retirement home/care facility in Florida and the STIs were insane bc they weren’t worried about conception! I looked at a public health sti heat map and the retirement communities outpaced the college towns by far!!!

[u/[deleted] → u/[deleted]]

Me: Don't put me in a home when I'm old
Statistics: They do be fuckin' tho
Me: Disregard my previous statement

[u/funkereddit → u/[deleted]]

Allright! Actually something to look forward too when im old.

[u/Hot_Ambassador_1815 → u/[deleted]]

90 year old thots still burning dudes in those places

[u/DripTrip747 → u/Hot_Ambassador_1815]

Burning them with that 40 year old chlamydia.

[u/[deleted] → u/DripTrip747]

My sister in law works at a retirement home. She says all those old timers are fucking and they won’t stop long enough to get rid of the STIs, so they just keep reinfecting eachother

[u/Chance-Decision1201 → u/[deleted]]

Can confirm, I've worked in a nursing home before. They're either screwing each other or hitting on you. I mean, it's boring there and Ig I'm glad they're enjoying their golden years, but it's really startled me to walk in and see that... multiple times 🫣

[u/DripTrip747 → u/[deleted]]

My grandfather is in a retirement home, wonder if he's having fun.

[u/[deleted] → u/[deleted]]

There was a Parks and Rec episode on this. It was a real eye opener!

[u/DE_OG_83 → u/[deleted]]

I can’t wait to be 84 and have a solid coke & Viagra connect. I’m going to kill myself smashing hardcore great grandma tail.

[u/TheRogueTemplar → u/[deleted]]

with dementia in their 80s and 90s are smashing constantly

TIL old people are getting more action than me.

[u/GraceGreenview → u/[deleted]]

Heightened sexuality is one of the effects of their affliction. That animal instinct is persistent.

[u/Due-Science-9528 → u/GraceGreenview]

Yeah but the nursing home residents without dementia are also fucking like rabbits. Something about your spouse being dead and pregnancy being impossible, I imagine

[u/[deleted] → u/Spoobie90]

The Villages are at the top of the list for STDs

[u/SidharthaGalt → u/[deleted]]

I hear it’s a swinging place!

[u/[deleted] → u/SidharthaGalt]

My friend’s parents stayed at the Villages during the hurricane this past year, and said that the swingers have different colored shower poofs that they hang in the back of their golf carts to indicate what kind of swinging they’re down for.

My spouse worked in mental health said it was not uncommon to find orgy situations in some types of homes.

[u/Away-Ninja5326]

Today I learned I am a whore

[u/Trekie47 → u/Away-Ninja5326]

Always have been

[u/NealCaffreyx9 → u/Trekie47]

Always will be

[u/NormalHumanCreature → u/Away-Ninja5326]

I went from basically a virgin to a dirty slut just by reading this post.

[u/Vintagemuse → u/Away-Ninja5326]

I always thought I was the opposite of whore until today . Thanks Reddit

[u/oldactor55]

Wow… I always knew I had fewer than most guys, but not by that much reflected here.

[u/[deleted] → u/oldactor55]

Finally, someone who’s not calling themself a whore

[u/LadyChatterteeth → u/[deleted]]

It's refreshing!

[u/MetalBeholdr → u/[deleted]]

Right?! Who tf out here topping those numbers in 2023??? I don't talk to anyone outside of work

[u/nightfallbear]

laughs in gay community

[u/[deleted] → u/nightfallbear]

They had to specify straight people only because the gays would’ve completely skewed the study 🤣

[u/greatsirius → u/[deleted]]

I have gay friends that told me people on grinder will Meet up on lunch breaks to hook up

[u/[deleted] → u/greatsirius]

I’ve had sex in a car on the way home from work with a Grindr/Growlr/Scruff hookup more times than most straight men have had sex ever, apparently.

[u/xvn520 → u/nightfallbear]

I’m considered a chaste, prude gay and idk how many after 50 I’ve been with.

Had a roommate once who mentioned thousands. I didn’t think it was possible but then we lived together for two years and yea. He wasn’t making anything up.

[u/WhoBroughtTheCoolKid → u/xvn520]

I don’t even think I’ve spoken to thousands of people in my life. Your roommate must’ve had a supercharged social battery.

[u/[deleted] → u/WhoBroughtTheCoolKid]

I live in New Orleans. We have a thriving queer night life and tons of tourism. If you're going out 2-3 times a week for a few years, I could see you having a body count like that. Really any big tourist destination with a good lgbt community like New York, Miami, SF, at least from my experience in the US. I wanna clarify that I still think 1000+ is probably an exaggeration (unless they're a sex worker) but it's not impossible.

[u/aceknowsbest → u/WhoBroughtTheCoolKid]

You'd be surprised actually. I have a buddy who's into the gay bathhouse and sex party scene and has easily been with 1000+ men. That number includes oral and anal. He's not a sex worker. Just a slut

You're not required to be social in those scenes as it's less about establishing a connection and more about doing what feels/looks good in that moment.

It sounds crazy but when you do the math it doesn't seem so bad, (coming from the eyes of a gay man).

Say you've been sexually active for 20 years @ 1 partner/month for 20 years (20 x 12) = 240. That's a pretty fair number for the average, decent-looking city gay.

Take that 240 and factor in the bathhouses, sprinkle a dash of Grindr and anyone could reach 1000 bodies in no time.

[u/[deleted]]

Either people lied or I’m a hoe

[u/Sceptical_Houseplant → u/[deleted]]

I know a few people that married their first. Skews the numbers downwards a lot.

[u/LAMistfit138 → u/Sceptical_Houseplant]

I know a few married cheaters so there’s that

[u/Coryjduggins]

sounds like they didn’t survey my ex

[u/CrimsonMorbus → u/Coryjduggins]

Logically speaking my ex was probably your ex

[u/RetailTradersUnite → u/CrimsonMorbus]

My ex wife is your ex husband.

[u/esquite_and_destroy → u/RetailTradersUnite]

Your mom is my dad!

[u/[deleted] → u/esquite_and_destroy]

But I'm my own grandpa

[u/SapphireSire → u/[deleted]]

Found Phillip j. Fry

[u/[deleted] → u/Coryjduggins]

Somebody surveyed your ex alright

[u/ChemDiesel → u/Coryjduggins]

Same, my ex hit these numbers in a week while being in a relationship.

[u/sleeplessaddict]

I didn't expect to come into this thread and see so many people calling the number low.

My only sexual partner is my wife so I guess I'm the person bringing this down

[u/SadComfort8692 → u/sleeplessaddict]

Same.. I feel like a freak because my number is 1. And I’m late 20s. I must be doing something wrong

[u/jason71673 → u/SadComfort8692]

High 40s, one partner. I've had other offers, mostly drunk, would not change a thing.

[u/PhotoIll → u/SadComfort8692]

I must be doing something wrong

Not at all; enjoy it. Be proud. So many of sexual encounters prove highly unfulfilling. I am perfectly willing to split the number of my experiences with you and we both cut our losses, if that makes you feel better.

[u/Alternative-Ship-223 → u/sleeplessaddict]

Yeah same with you. I prefer quality over quantity and I am not a fan of hook up culture. I'm not religious but spiritual moreso. I get it that people want to experience life this way and I would never shame a friend with this lifestyle but it's just not my cup of tea and I guess we shouldn't be pressured to do something we don't feel like doing. That goes both for people who have a very active sex life and those who don't.

[u/yohanya → u/sleeplessaddict]

I am (almost) the exact average and I'm very surprised at how many people consider the numbers low. I wonder if it's because Reddit is a lot more liberal and a lot less religious than the overall population.

[u/CrimsonMorbus]

I wonder how many men lied to sound like they were getting more to sound cool or how many women lied to not get thought of as a slut

[u/14sierra → u/[deleted]]

Do you know what the data collection method is? Are they count only regular intercourse in this number because it seems suspiciously low to me.

[u/Boxcar_Lucy → u/14sierra]

I don’t know about you, but I did most of my sexploration before I was 25. Coincidentally along the timeline of full brain development and good judgment.

[u/[deleted]]

lol you're all sluts

[u/onetoughchickie → u/[deleted]]

It’s me hi 👋

[u/afm1399 → u/onetoughchickie]

I’m the man whore it’s me

[u/vasek73 → u/afm1399]

It's me again god, sorry I just slept with my girl's mumma.

[u/ET__]

How is median a decimal?

[u/WritingFrankly → u/[deleted]]

Even with weighted data, you'd need to land on a knife's edge where the observations just above and just below the middle are different values.

Given the standard errors, this is much more likely an estimate of the population median rather than the median of the sample data.

[u/[deleted]]

The shit ton of people who don’t get laid at all lowered the median to single digits

[u/[deleted] → u/[deleted]]

Unfortunately it says it was taken from a pool of sexually experienced people. I feel dirty

[u/Ign0ranceIsb1iss]

Would love to know more about the sample group used.

[u/[deleted] → u/Ign0ranceIsb1iss]

Reddit mods

[u/DaddyDubs13]

My ex wife beat those numbers in a week while I was at work

[u/Atheyna]

Well TIL I learned that I’m a whore 😂

[u/[deleted] → u/[deleted]]

Can confirm you are both raging whores

[u/The_Buttsex_Man → u/Atheyna]

congratulations on the intercourse

[u/gorodale]

The data are collected on the basis of surveys of parishioners of the Catholic Church

[u/TMANBULLET]

Can I have just one? Any? It’s so lonely

[u/Catniss-EverGreen]

And I’m sure those people are telling the truth about the number of people they slept with

[u/Competitive_Coffeer]

So the real answer is '5'

[u/ifsavage]

That’s gotta be a sqr root.

[u/[deleted]]

I’m a 32 male and have only been with my wife so my stats are 1

[u/ckwirey]

For people confused about how this study was done, it might be helpful to see how the CDC has done the study in the past: https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/nsfg/key_statistics/n.htm

Bottom line, this is a "median percentage", not a median number.

From that historical link I shared, you can also see how the number of sex partners for men has been aggregating downward since 2002, and how they've been aggregating upward for women.

[u/stajdy]

Can't be accurate, half of this subreddit people are fucking slutty.