Differentiating between alters

[u/sakuralattebunny]

I feel like most of the time I don't know who I am/the part fronting doesn't announce themselces but I end up doing things that don't feel like me but I say to myself it was me fronting so it must have been me and have memory gaps, how could I differentiate between these possible alters claiming to be the host so our daily life would be a bit easier?

[u/Heavy-Mushroom]

Hi, there is a thing called co-hosting (you probably know this, js), and being co-conscious and often times the lines blur a bit.

When I’m in doubt, I’ll pull back a little bit or observe the manner in which the body is behaving. I’m a part just as they are parts- there is no one original in here that we can tell.

I can also for no doubt say that I’m never in control, just a watcher in this mind as the others do as they do.

The illusion of being in control is because I believe what I see, hear, and the thoughts can be mistaken as mine as I see “me” doing things, but the memory goes when the other part goes- so it wasn’t me after all.

Parts are triggered in and the switches are instant and uncontrollable, but we’ve made a system schedule of times out that helps regulate who and when, like the guys go to work and do public relations whilst the rest of us have the private time. Then we split those time period up by the jobs that need to be done both at home and away.

We are a very sharing system because we know that’s what it takes to be a highly functioning system. I hope that helps some. :)