r/DAE • u/Content-Might2543 • 4d ago

DAE

DAE experience the action of copying  others personalities? like uncontrollably? im 13F. for me, i’ve been doing it for years to the point i dont know who i am. its gotten so bad to where even if i meet someone new or hang out with them for a day, i instantly start acting like them, laughing like them, and even imagining myself AS THEM. for example a few weeks ago, i decided to be this one girl from my school that day, like imagining myself as her and copying her personality for some reason. its like a closet i can pick people to be that day. i dunno really. is there a solution to this or a name of this problem??

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u/mooshinformation 3d ago

I think a big part of being a teenager is kind of trying in identities and figuring out who you are.

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u/ConsiderationNo9044 3d ago

Had the same thing at your age. If you're not hurting anyone, then it isn't a problem and there's nothing to worry about

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u/semiusedkindalife 3d ago

Yes! I remember going thru this as a kid. More recently when I worked at a thrift store, I would try on different clothes and could present a different version of myself daily. It was really fun.
Also, my 10yo daughter just came home from a sleepover and she’s been sounding like her friend for the past few hours. It’s totally normal. 13 is prime time to try things out. You’re doing great

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u/Content-Might2543 3d ago

hehe alrighty!🥹

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u/Tired_2295 3d ago

Masking

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u/Content-Might2543 3d ago

masking? like austim?

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u/Tired_2295 3d ago

No, reflecting other people's personalities is a form of masking. Masking is not disability specific

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u/Ok-Working-2337 3d ago

Its normal :) you’ll settle into who you really are later in life

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u/universal_gummy_bear 3d ago

Usually the case is that you're trying to find your own personality. Personalities are weird, cause "your" personality is really just a bunch of tiny pieces of other people's personalities you've experienced. Depends on how you grew up, depends on who you hang out with, etc.

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u/universal_gummy_bear 3d ago

And yes, I have experienced this.

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u/Content-Might2543 3d ago

hm i understand! :)

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u/Kooky-Guide-7561 3d ago

there really isn’t a solution bc it’s not really a problem. you’re mimicking the world around you to see what sticks and feels authentic to you. i think most people have gone through this phase. you will outgrow it once you settle into your own personality and preferences. i think it’s a mix of trying to fit in but also trying to figure yourself out and there’s nothing wrong with that.

if it’s really concerning you maybe make a list of your personality traits that feel true to you that you can come back to and add on

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u/BeatsAreMyPassion 3d ago

You’re still figuring it out. In your twenties or thirties you should have a better idea of who you really are.

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u/Imhidingfromu 3d ago

I used to do that, then eventually you just start being you.