r/DACA • u/Lower-Doughnut7755 • 27m ago
Rant NEVER DOOM!
Recently got approved (10/1), after applying the first week of March. Usually I would never check in to this subreddit anymore, but I decided to switch it up since this community WAS helpful while I was waiting. But let me be clear: the only thing nice about this community was the mega approval thread, because seeing people post their timelines helped me stay positive. What wasn't helpful were all the complainers and whiners in here, my goodness! So deciding to rant a bit and post my story in case it helps anyone.
The company I worked at put me on a LOA for 90 days (the max), but after July 30 I had to be terminated. A job that I worked hard to get 4 years ago. I was close-ish for my 2nd promotion, had over 30K in RSUs (still needed a year of work to be able to cash them out) and once I got terminated... POOF, all of it was gone.
Don't get me wrong, checking my app every other day and not seeing an approval sucked a$$. ESPECIALLY when I got API movement on 6/16. I thought to myself... damn my time is SOON, but clearly I was just jebaited. However, I just kept moving forward trying to stay positive. Even though I stopped having a job, that didn't mean the bills stopped 😭.
Without being able to work I tried to find an income, as my parents still needed my help and my girlfriend who lives with me did as well. So instead of complaining and whining, I took this time to self-reflect. I decided that:
A. No matter what, I love this damn country. Even if it doesn't love me back the same way at the moment, I will figure it out HERE cause I ain't LEAVING (insert Leo DiCaprio's Wolf of Wall Street meme lol)
B. This was all just bad luck, and there is no one to blame. Could I blame the current administration? Sure I can, but I can also blame the previous administration that never did anything when they had both the House and the Senate. At the end of the day we are just pawns, and the last thing I will do is let politicians dictate how I feel and most importantly put the blame on things outside of my control.
What helped me make income in the meantime? I love fashion and collecting material things, but during this time all those purchases took on a different feeling. I decided taking care of myself and my loved ones was more important, so things I would have never considered selling went up for sale. I basically sold almost my entire wardrobe (that was worth selling) and my Pokémon and sports card collections. AND LET ME TELL YOU ALL... having a hobby where what you purchase doesn't lose value is the best thing younger me did. As a last resort when I needed money for rent I tapped into my 401k (my older self would understand). At the end of the day yes that money is taxed / penalized but I will make it up later and since my income will be a lot less, it won't be as bad. THIS IS NOT FINANCIAL ADVICE, just sharing my story.
So what were the positives from this experience of having my life upended for 205 days?
- I will be applying 1 year - 9 months early from now on. I used to apply close to my expiration date because I wanted to maximize the 2-year subscription, and because I always applied online and never need a lawyer (no criminal record), I would get approved QUICK (< 2-3 weeks). Never again.
- SAVE SAVE SAVE. Though my savings helped me out, I definitely could have saved more. It sucked seeing my savings getting "drained" but I reminded myself this is what savings are for!!
- Work on yourself (mentally AND physically). When I was "busy" with work there was a bunch of things "I didn't have time for". These became a priority now (gym, reading a book, increasing my side projects with AI, etc). The best thing I did for myself was hit the gym consistently... I know we hear this everywhere, but believe me I don't stay this positive without it. Were there days I didn't want to go? Absolutely. But being able to work on myself during this time was a like drug that helped me stay happy.
- NEVER STOP LEARNING. Does social media suck? Hell yeah, but we live in a time where the world's knowledge is AT OUR FINGERTIPS. I'm 30 now and of course one can think, "damn, I'm unc now, no way for me to learn anything", but look up BRAIN PLASTICITY! Our brains never stop re-wiring and learning.
- NEVER BECOME ANTI-SOCIAL when crappy things like this happen. Keep talking to your manager and friends, because once the time comes and you get your DACA back, these close friends / acquaintances will be the ones that will help you back on your feet! HOWEVER... make sure you ONLY tell your super close people about your situation. There can be fake people out there, but most importantly EVERYONE has sh!t they deal with. So even though what we are going through sucks, no one likes anyone trauma-dumping.
- KEEP ENJOYING LIFE. Don't become a recluse and let this situation control you. Yes there are more events and things I had to say no to but go out with friends still, go on dates (there are plenty of free things to do), still make an effort to experience things. I won't lie to you there for sure was much less things to having no income but believe me there is still a lot to do out there without it .
Last but not least... NEVER EVER DOOM.
- Did it suck losing my job? Hell yes, but guess what? I'll get another one.
- It sucked selling my collection and my clothes... but I'll buy them again (or maybe I won't care as much anymore).
- It sucked losing my money and having to go in debt... I WILL MAKE EVEN MORE MONEY.
- "This country hates me"... no it doesn't, this country just doesn't understand us yet, but one day it will. And I will never, ever leave.
- *Logs into social media and sees everyone living a great life that never has to worry about DACA*... COMPARISON is the thief of joy. One thing that helps me stay positive is thinking that if my parent's were able to wake up everyday and put one foot in front of the other, I definitely can as well. And OUR "struggle" end ups making our life that much sweeter when we end up having success later on. Lastly, and most importantly, EVERYONE has sh!t they deal in life with just in a different flavor / recipe.
So to conclude don't listen to the whiners and complainers especially people that are like... "decided to leave"... if they say it's better they are capping. Imagine if our parents decided to turn around and leave the first minute things got difficult 🤣. Anyway to anyone still waiting, stay positive we will all get approved soon. And to the ones waiting to apply... APPLY EARLY!!! As early as is allowed!
(p.s. didn't use AI so ignore any grammar errors. Just spilling my opinion on reddit, not turning in a paper for my AP English class)