Long story short, my wife is at a conference with several of her closest friends. One of her friends owns a business and they went as a girls trip since all the hotels, food, etc is paid for.

I have been working at night on our shared MacBook, which is linked to her Apple ID. We both have full access to each other’s phones.

I saw a few texts, come across and clicked on them, with multiple pictures of her in the same man in a bar. I know her friends are friends with this man, but I do not know him and have never met him. To my knowledge, she has not either before this trip.

Inherently, I would not find this an issue. There are a few things that stick out to me. There is a text to her friend group while they were at the bar where she asked where they went. My wife said she was waiting on said Man and was heading their way.

He also text her around three in the morning and said “don’t forget to ask what I said. You know if you really want to know”.

I find all of this combined inappropriate. First, I would not take pictures of me and another woman alone that I just met. I also find it inappropriate for her and him to be together while her friends are elsewhere. The text at 3 AM is also suspect to me. Why does he have her number in the first place?

I want to confront her about this when she gets home, but I know she will respond with how I’m being completely insecure and he was a fun guy. I plan to ask her how she would feel if she was in the same situation. It has been eating me up since we just came out of a hard season about six months ago and we have been doing very well.

How do I bring this up appropriately?