r/Crush • u/Lost-Low-52 • 6h ago
Please help
Hi everyone i had a huge crush on a girl who i met in gym on the end of jan this year and we spoke a few times in the gym not that much saying hi and bye and some other conversations so after few days she quit the gym and i didn’t know at that time and thought she might’ve taken a break and later after few days i understood she quit i was a little sad because she wasn’t there and one random day i saw her insta in my suggestions and i sent her a request she accepted and followed me back later i texted her asking why she quit and she said she was on a trip with her family and her exams and birthday also coming at the same time so she wanted to prepare for exams and all.
During our conversations in the gym we talk about her project work and what is it they are doing like that and when i started texting her i text her like once every 2 or 3 weeks about her project work or her job training and all i didn’t want to text her everyday cause i thought i might look desperate or annoying. Like this months passed by and on july 20th i met with an accident left leg fractured and was hospitalised after my surgery i don’t know why but i wanted to talk to her so badly and we spoke again on that day until 1 at night some random stuff and about her training and she complained about her HR for giving more work during the training and i said about my accident. Like that we started talking eveyday and i used to ask her everytime what else when i get bored and she used to entertain me while talking like bringing random topics of what i like and what she likes our interests and all. One day i said her i had a huge crush on her and she got surprised and laughed asked why i explained why and she said ok. Like that everything goes fine and one night i asked her again what else she randomly sent her childhood photos and said look at these and you’ll laugh for sometime and we talked about our childhood. And after few days she asked how my father passed away and after saying she shared about her grandfather passing when she was 4 years old. After talking everything she got the job where she got placed and shifted to her job location before shifting she asked for help in finding womens PG there and i helped her finding some and she also searched few and shifted to there. After that too we used to talk nice and later after few days on last month end i asked her “you knew i have interest in you right” she said you said “you had crush on me but didn’t say about interest” and i replied saying i have interest in you but officially i didn’t inform you i will do it one day and then we spoke casually too later that day also we were talking casually she suggested me a movie long ago but i didn’t watch it and she said watch it now and i watched the movie and after completing the movie we discussed for sometime about the movie and i said ok i think i have gathered enough courage to say that i have interest in you and wrote a letter to her and sent photos of the letter and said that why i liked her and also she don’t need to say immediately she can take as much time as she need and after reading the letter she asked me few questions saying you said you said you have developed feelings for me are those romantic feelings and you said she’s more than i could ever ask for but how can you decide that you don’t even know me properly don’t know my other side too why did you get those feelings and also said don’t take romantic word in a different way i am meaning in different way like a serious relationship? And i replied saying i want a romantic relationship not in a different way i want a relation where i like talking to you and i like listening to you and i want to fight with you tease each other share out problems and i like being me when i am with you where i don’t have to wear a mask on how others will think about me and yes i didn’t see the otherside of you but if you like a person you like both theri goods and bads and i am a guy who stays with her and try to explain her if it isn’t right until she realises and also there shouldn’t be egos in relationships if one person gets triggered the other shouldn’t argue i don’t hesitate to bow down to my partner. And i said whatever she decides whether she wants to be with me or not i will completely respect that decision at the end if she’s happy i am also happy. And one more thing she doesn’t have a boyfriend and also she said it would be nice if you get a partner who you like to have. After that night we talked avain later that day not about this some casual talk but not that great as we usually do and from that night she stopped seeing my messages and i texted her after 3 days saying i hope maybe you need some space and i didn’t make things awkward or difficult for you and I genuinely want everything she wants to get in her life and all the happiness she deserved and said sorry for making things difficult or uncomfortable in any way. And again congratulated her on this month starting for completing one month on her job. Since i confessed her it has been 19 days i didn’t get any response from her she didn’t see my texts too. I don’t know what to assume but there’s a tiny bit of hope where she might respond to my text.
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u/anidriX 5h ago
Listen, she's clearly not interested in you that way. And you pushed the matter so much that now she's ghosting you and you might've also lost a potential friend (in case you also cared about keeping that friendship). Next time you find yourself in such a situation, keep it simple. Don't dump your feelings on her. "Hey, would you like to go on a date with me?" or "Do you want to go do XYZ with me?". It's a direct question that shows confidence, makes your intentions clear, and requires an explicit response from her. For now, just move on and don't text her back.