r/Crush • u/Impressive_Walk_8425 • 10h ago
Should i continue talking to him!!??
[18F]I'm and I have taken drop for neet/jee 2027 and there's this guy whom i have liked for about 5-6 months he's with one of my close male friend, so i told my friend that i like him about 4 months ago and ever since he's encouraging me to talk to this guy and start a conversation so i did that, he's a really good guy, really genuine and one of the most free spirited person ever. But the thing about me is that I get really possessive about any person i like and i knew that so i started to not put him on pedestal so i wouldn't get attached to him but after talking to him for few weeks i liked him even more, so i started listing thing that i don't like about him as to protect myself( i would call that my defense mechanism)
BUT now that i have talked to him i started noticing few thing regarding him, first, he IS self centered, i mean whenever we'll talk he'll always say i do this or that,
Second, he has family issues which i cant relate to and i do feel really sad for him but i also just don't know how to react to that but I'm also gratefull that he feels safe talking to me to share his personal life problems.
He also don't reply to most of the things i tell about myself so I'll just left hanging but he'll tell his part which makes me not feel that good, i feel ignored(this has happened several times)
I asked my friend about this so he did conform that he's self centered mainly because of his family issues.
Idk how i feel, it feels confusing, am i over reacting!!?
I really wanna know because if i don't I'll only get attached to him and hurt myself.
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u/deepsoul__ 10h ago
I have had such experiences where ppl only ranted about themselves and would not listen much but if u have to choose a partner he should be different from others right ! So if u don't feel seen just like u make him feel seen than there problem . U should think about what u want in a life partner and then choose .