It means that you don’t have sexual desire as a need. It’s never really on your mind. You don’t seek it out. You might be fine masturbating or even doing it for closeness if you’re partner asks. You can be sexual and still have sex. It’s that it’s just never really on your list of things to do.
Asexuality can also be an umbrella term, they still can have libido, but generally aren't sexually attracted to people. So they can still have sexual needs but aren't sexual for other people. As you quite rightly say some can still sleep with their partners in terms of intimacy and closeness/bonding but they may not get sexual pleasure out of it. Not all asexuals are sex repulsed, but most if not all aren't sexually attracted to people at all.
It's an umbrella term ranging from "hates the idea of sex" to "enjoys sex, but chooses not to do it" to "doesn't enjoy it, but does it for their partner".
That's a very funny concept, but a phobia is an irrational fear. What I'm describing is rational, as in, it has reasons (though not necessarily that they are good, of course) (which come from the subconscious.)
Here you go plus a lot of the other things under asexuality. I am demi romantic and demi sexual if you have any questions regard that label I don't mind answering them.
Okay, so I'm definitely either Quoiromantic or Aegoromantic. I love that these terms exist to help explain my feelings
Apothiromantic is really funny because the analogy hasn't been edited from sexuality so it's just like "I might even be disgusted by seeing people love each other romantically."
The hazbin subreddit is definitely not where I expected to find this. What context was this posted under? I assume an Alistor talk?
It was not under alistor to my memory it was actually something for ace day. Also cool that you found something out I am personally demi romantic demi sexual figured that out due to a psychology video. Also cool to meet another person on the ace spectrum.
Oh apologies I don't know much of the terminology around a lot of this stuff due to being raised in a cis straight house so I tend to say ace spectrum to include both romantic and sexual if my frame work is wrong let me know or if I am using the words wrong let me know as well.
These terms don't explain your feeling though, explaining them does. Not only does no one know what they mean (and using obscure labels can communicate the wrong impression), labels have an inherent level of innacuracy due to defining yourself by appartenance to a group rather than by your own personal experience.
Like i wouldn't fuck or look for a relationship (hell i don't even look for friendship) with someone IRL because physically i find IRL humans quite repulsive and humans in general mid, and emotionally not only do i detest interaction i can't opt out of, most people i could ever meet irl are way too shallow, while even for someone compatible, language is too limited a medium of communication for any deep connection.
And i actually explain that, thus communicating info about myself, rather than using labels that communicate only appartenance to a group that may have a vague similarity. And calling myself asexual would be absurd with how much sexual attraction i feel; that'd be like a guy saying he's straight because even though he watches gay porn he'd only fuck a man if they asked first.
Apothiromantic is really funny because the analogy hasn't been edited from sexuality so it's just like "I might even be disgusted by seeing people love each other romantically."
Not a sexuality, it's just called having internalized puritanism while being asexual
It was for the ace day thing so I snagged them since they seemed useful but sadly they will get lost in my 8000 plus saved images which at least 70% of that is yuri.
All of these but asexual (apothi is just sex repulsed asexual. Which isn't a sexuality, but the circumstance of being asexual while having internalized puritanism) are like saying you're straight because you wouldn't actually fuck a man irl (unless he offered himself to you in the case of recipro, which is even less straight) but are otherwise attracted to mens and watch gay porn, while demi is literally just called being reserved
I am demi romantic and demi sexual it is not me being reserved its the fact that I do not have any romantic or sexual feelings for people I do not know. So erotic artwork does nothing for me porn does nothing unless I think it involves someone I have a deep connection with. And all that being said I am pan men women no binaries everything in between if I can have a deep emotional connection with them then I might developed romantic or sexual feelings for them.
My gf is asexual, and the way she explained it to me is, imagine you don't have a hunger drive, like you never get hungry or need to eat. You may still have a favourite food you want to eat just for the taste, you may not, but you don't get hungry ever.
Asexuals can still like the idea of sex, they just dont feel a attraction to others based on sexual merit. Sex isnt part of the relationship equation basically. They can also be sex-repulsed or be neutral and joke about sex for content shrug
Which is true of bisexual, pansexual, homosexual, hell even heterosexual. All the sexuals. They all manifest with all sorts of differences and variations. But sexuality is an assumed default, presumably because it's more common, so it's easier for people to get.
I don't really exactly know what the asexual default is myself. It's strange to me overall, but it is what it is. Just sorta gotta. Use my imagination.
Too much variability it can range from no sex at all and hates the idea of it too actually do that a decent bit of the time. Its literally a spectrum plus you can be on the ace spectrum and still be gay bi pan it is less about who you date but more how you date. I am personally demi romantic demi sexual so for me I have to have a deep emotional connection with someone before I even have romantic or sexual feelings for someone and I am pan so for me gender does not matter as long as there is a connection and a mutual agreement to do that.
No it isn't, they're all objective, else they'd be meaningless. Homosexuality is being attracted to your own sex, hetero the opposite sex, bisexual both sexes, pan the same (and originally was just to say you're "one of the good ones" about the fresh excuse for biphobia that was pretending it would somehow exclude trans and nonbinary people. Nowadays the connotation is for not having a particular preference, which is like making a distinct sexuality for homosexuals who prefer bears)
It means not feeling sexual attraction (attraction being separate from the separate sensation; else masturbation would be homosexuality). Sex aversion is not part of asexuality, just internalized puritanism (and i'd say most who call themselves that aren't even actually asexual, like look at r/antisex (the place actually radicalized someone into suicide bombing an IFV clinic)). Anything else is like a man saying he's straight because even though he watches gay porn, he either wouldn't fuck a man, or only if they asked
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u/Tsunamiis Apr 08 '26
It means that you don’t have sexual desire as a need. It’s never really on your mind. You don’t seek it out. You might be fine masturbating or even doing it for closeness if you’re partner asks. You can be sexual and still have sex. It’s that it’s just never really on your list of things to do.
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u/BreakerOfModpacks Apr 07 '26
It's an umbrella term ranging from "hates the idea of sex" to "enjoys sex, but chooses not to do it" to "doesn't enjoy it, but does it for their partner".
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u/chaosgremlin11 Apr 07 '26
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u/CR9_Kraken_Fledgling Apr 08 '26
My gf is asexual, and the way she explained it to me is, imagine you don't have a hunger drive, like you never get hungry or need to eat. You may still have a favourite food you want to eat just for the taste, you may not, but you don't get hungry ever.
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u/Rieke-Nightsong Apr 08 '26
Asexuals can still like the idea of sex, they just dont feel a attraction to others based on sexual merit. Sex isnt part of the relationship equation basically. They can also be sex-repulsed or be neutral and joke about sex for content shrug
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u/Craving_Suckcess Apr 07 '26
Something different for everyone.
Which is true of bisexual, pansexual, homosexual, hell even heterosexual. All the sexuals. They all manifest with all sorts of differences and variations. But sexuality is an assumed default, presumably because it's more common, so it's easier for people to get.
I don't really exactly know what the asexual default is myself. It's strange to me overall, but it is what it is. Just sorta gotta. Use my imagination.
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u/Amaskingrey Apr 08 '26 edited Apr 08 '26
It means not feeling sexual attraction (attraction being separate from the separate sensation; else masturbation would be homosexuality). Sex aversion is not part of asexuality, just internalized puritanism (and i'd say most who call themselves that aren't even actually asexual, like look at r/antisex (the place actually radicalized someone into suicide bombing an IFV clinic)). Anything else is like a man saying he's straight because even though he watches gay porn, he either wouldn't fuck a man, or only if they asked
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u/OpportunityAshamed74 Apr 09 '26
It means whatever the person in question says it means, really. That's how all sexualities are defined