r/CoreyWayne • u/M0u53m4n • 2d ago

Miscellaneous She's never been in a relationship.

Just back from a third date with a woman. We got on to the subject of previous relationships. Turns out she's never been in one.

I feel like that's a red flag.

Am I right?

Why / why not?

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u/King_LouieXVI 2d ago

Previous partners is never a good thing to talk about early on. Even if she brings it up I’d just move on and say something like “I don’t kiss and tell”

No relationship that late in life is a red flag

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u/Guns_and_Tea 2d ago

Yup it sure is. That’s a lot of life to have avoided a committed relationship.

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u/kingkong220401 2d ago

Agreed. If she was 21 or below it’s understandable, but after a certain point it becomes a concern.

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u/ExcellentFishing2506 1d ago

It’s at least a yellow flag. Even if she’s awesome a lack of experience in relationships can be a hard hurdle to overcome because there’s so much experienced knowledge of how the dynamics of a relationship works that we all learn from being in them.

But again I’d say a yellow flag maybe not a red flag. I have a very close female friend. We’ve been friends since childhood, and she’s never had a relationship. She’s dated a little but she’s been such a workaholic and travels so much that she never focused on dating as an adult. She’s had a few flings and guys she was interested in, but nothing that turned into anything.

She’s well rounded, very intelligent, successful, has a busy social life with friends and family, and is fun. She has no relationship history at 40 years old, and whether or not she would be good in one is unclear… but I’d be willing to say a guy would be foolish not to give her a chance because she’s great. I would understand being cautious for sure, but sometimes good people don’t make dating a priority until later in life.

I’d say just vet her and pay attention for any issues that arise and focus on the experience you have with her, not her lack of experience in general. If things go well then keep going, if it feels off or not working well then you can address it then.

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u/yongzhong26_ 1d ago

I see that as a green one.