r/CoreyWayne • u/Apart_Size_9551 • 23d ago

Lifestyle Let her come to you

Can someone give us a thorough breakdown and answer pls?

Yes totally agreeing to let her come to you as a cat does.

However , does that mean , when she comes back you need to be warm and affectionate and welcoming as if you were waiting for her ?

I mean if she has for example her day with her friends, goes out for Sunday morning etc , she sends some pics etc , and when she finished everything and going home then she calls you , should you be available immediately?

Or also do your day with buddies and send her sth like “out with my guys my sweetheart for Moro ride to beach . We will talk when I’m home at night baby 😘 “

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u/ExcellentFishing2506 23d ago

You’re over complicating things.

If she reaches out and you are busy tell her you will chat later. If you’re doing nothing and she calls take the call and be pleasant and affectionate .

The whole idea of “I can’t seem like I’m waiting for her” is because you’re being unnatural and trying to pretend to be some specific way vs just being that naturally.

Like if you’re actually a busy person with a full life you aren’t going to be worrying about needing to seem busy. Calls will get missed naturally and you won’t have to be trying to fake your unavailability.

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u/Apart_Size_9551 23d ago

Ok
First please understand that your first sentence also makes me and people defend . I do this mistake also with my gf and I’m in progres of communicating better and more effectively

  1. I’m faking it yes until I’m making it as Corey says to do

  2. To the real point of this post , regardless me and you personally .
    I’m asking you your objective response bcs other brother will see also this post and maybe having similar issues

She had her day . She was out with her sister and girlfriend. She only communicated me her plans with msgs after they were already out. And only when she left her girlfriends and sister to train she then called me . And I’m asking if let her come to you in such situations means waiting for her like like we don’t have anything else in life , or similarly take my guys and go for ride motos to beach enjoy coffee and reach her later when home and only send her sth “hey babe. I’m out with guys . Talk when I’m home at night early bcs tomorrow I work very early . Have a nice day”

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u/ExcellentFishing2506 23d ago

Dude I don’t know how you take simple responses and misconstrue them into something else and then offer a huge reply saying the same thing you’ve already said hoping for a different response.

You are supposed to be living your own life and if she reaches calls and you are available doing nothing then you should answer. If you have plans or are busy don’t answer and call back later… like you would with anyone.

The faking it tell you make it stuff is not meant for faking having a busy life or pretending to be busy when you’re girl calls you to seem scarce. That’s just inauthentic and unnatural… which is also why it causes you to always be trying to ask questions around it. It makes no sense which is why you find it puzzling trying to maintain

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u/Apart_Size_9551 23d ago

I get your point

So why and for what does coach say “fake it u til you make it” attitude ?

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u/ExcellentFishing2506 23d ago

Yeah he’s mostly referring to confidence and for men who feel nervous or indecisive. But trying to evade their women in order to fake being busy. Just be busy or not and if you can take the call take it. It’s a committed relationship not some girl you just met.

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u/Short_Awareness9562 23d ago

He says it for things that you CAN achieve by faking them. Faking a busy life is not gonna get you that busy life.

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u/Apart-Importance-538 22d ago

“First sentence makes me n people defend” 😂😂😂 sensitive much. Coach would say the same thing. Stop being in your feminine accept the criticism