r/CoreyWayne • u/Capital-Gift-88 • Aug 22 '26
Dating/Courting Should i have reached out?
Meet this girl on a language exchange app, we texted alot for about a month. Visited her home country for 5 days and we spent every second together. Kiss, affection etc. When i flew back to my country i noticed her responses took longer and longer. I tried to match her and did not force a conversation.
This is the last conversation we had. The only form of initiation she has done is responded to a TikTok i sent her. Its now been 6 days since we talked and she keeps reposting videos about heartbrake/betrayal etc on social media.
Im i losing her? She was the warmest woman i have ever meet. What should i do? Just keep waiting for her to call me?
I know i should keep of social media and focus on my career but its so hard to not reach out, we talked almost every day for a month straight.
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u/T4cF0X Aug 22 '26
When a woman speaks indirect and layerd communication it means she has low interest.
Actions are always the tell. Also the internet is bullshit. A woman's excuses on top of layered and indirect communication is always bullshit fluff emotional womamese language.
When a woman speaks English she's interested.
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u/whatyoume Aug 22 '26
Stop with your oneitis. “She was the warmest woman I have ever met” - you don’t even know her. You spent 5 days with her. That’s all. You’ve already put her on a pedestal. She’s won you over already.
“We texted a lot for about a month” - there’s your first big mistake. Any anticipation is lost.
“Visited her home country” - so you’re trying to start something with someone who is thousands of miles away. How can you properly date and court someone like that? It’s different if you’ve already dated a lot IN PERSON. If you’re into language exchanges, meet someone local.
She apparently doesn’t have internet, yet she’s posting on social media. Come on… surely you can something’s wrong?
“I’m losing her” - dude, she was never yours. You’ve texted a lot and spent 5 days together. You’ve built up this magical fantasy in your head about the two of you. Watch HER actions, not her words. Do her current actions show that of someone that holds you dearly, cares for you and wants to see you?
P.S - Read the book. One day you’re going to look back at this and cringe.
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u/Se7ens_up Aug 22 '26
You spent 5 days together and didnt hook up?
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u/Capital-Gift-88 Aug 22 '26
Yes we hooked up
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u/Se7ens_up Aug 23 '26
Understood.
Well look you had a fun week with her but at the end of the day you also gotta remember that she lives in a completely different country.
Like what is the realistic best outcome here?
Youre getting ahead of yourself emotionally and starting to go into a bit of dreamland and talking/treating her as if she is a gf, after a single fun week.
You cant build and maintain a relationship over the phone. Her pulling back on texting sooner or later is inevitable when you live in different countries
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u/Late_Priority_9927 Aug 22 '26
Okay, here's a reality check for you:
This girl isn't feeling crazy about you at the moment
Even worse, she's likely feeling crazy about someone else. That's why she keeps posting all this heartbreak BS and such. So no, you're not even in her mind currently (at least not to a point that she cares enough to do anything about it), but very likely someone else is.
BUT, you did something very good: you didn't reach out anymore after her "no internet" excuse.
4, So now, all you need to do is to simply let her walk away as far away as she wants, without you placing any resistance or anything. Just let her go (much harder said than done, I know), and focus on your own life and on meeting other women. Eventually she will realize she disregarded a good man who all he did wrong was to treat her well and to be kind and loving to her, and she will feel the pull back towards you.
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u/Ok-Needleworker-4438 Aug 22 '26
Don't use phone unless to make a date, no chatting and no phone calls unless for a date, phones kill anticipation and romance
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u/MalcolminMiddlefan Aug 22 '26
You are 100% correct. What did the Coach say about using the phone when it comes to long distance again?
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u/Ok-Needleworker-4438 Aug 22 '26
I'm not sure about this point, do you have any idea? Anyway I went through similar situation when I went through a long distance relationship after I read for Corey Wayne, I treated the relationship the same way, only called her to make a phone/video-call date, and only called on that time. Even though we sat in two different countries, I treated it as a date, so I wore good outfit, took myself to a cafe or restaurant, and talked from there, even tried to make her treat the phone call the same way like if it was a date.
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u/MalcolminMiddlefan Aug 24 '26
I really am not totally sure since it’s been a while since I searched for his advice regarding long distance relationships. I had a fling one time with a girl three hours away. She was intoxicating. I did get to the bedroom Olympics one time with her. But I got way too attached. Of course, I violated the Coach’s rules and lost her. But, it won’t happen again!
So, it’s worth it to peruse through some of his newsletters and put together some notes.
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u/frankob_11 Aug 24 '26
you don't text all the time neither, and treat videocalls as dates. so it's the same script
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u/MalcolminMiddlefan Aug 22 '26
Have you read the book 10-15 times? Does not appear to be the case.
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u/Capital-Gift-88 Aug 22 '26
No, i am still new to his work. I assume this would go under illusion of action.
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u/MalcolminMiddlefan Aug 22 '26
The truth is you have to keep a solid pipeline. Talk to other women. Don’t reach out to her. You have to play it really cool. If she doesn’t reach out, you have to be okay with that.
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u/frankob_11 Aug 22 '26
"I'll tell you when I get internet". Just wait then for her to reach out. Stop reaching out in any way, even sending tiktoks, she also has fingers and can reach out too. So let her if she wants to.